Is it ok for my girlfriend and friend to go for a drink with 2 guys they just met?

[cm00]

About a month after I met my girlfriend she went to London with her friend and while there two guys they didn't know asked if they would like to come out for a drink with them. They accepted the invitation and went to a pub and had a drink with them. The guys were interested in more than just a drink (obviously) but my girlfriend told them she has a boyfriend, she meant me, although we had not made anything official between us at that point. These two guys started telling them both that they could help them to get a job in London and move there.

 

My girlfriend told me that at this point her and her friend started looking at each other a bit worried and decided to leave. They left, it ended at that, no harm came from it.

 

At the time me and my girlfriend hadn't actually made it official that we are together, we made it official a few months later. But talking to my girlfriend, she saw us as boyfriend and girlfriend at that time, she saw us as together and she talked with her friends as though as we were already together back then. My girlfriend told me nothing would have happened with those guy, she said she was thinking a lot about me, and she would have felt like she was cheating if anything more had happened.

 

I'm just wondering how I should handle this, if I should mention anything to her that I don't like it or if I should just let it go. I want to make sure I am not being controlling or anything. This happened 5 months ago but she only told me yesterday. When she told me I think she realized I didn't like it, I didn't say anything though, we were having a good conversation until she revealed that, it was a bit of a conversation killer. After thinking about it I could see that she looked guilty, I told her never mind it's okay it's not like we were officially together back then.

 

I just don't know if I should say something more. I don't think I would be happy if a stranger or a few strangers offered her or her and a friend out for a drink and she went with them. These guys are hoping for more, and she should know that. Am I right in thinking that she shouldn't accept and should I say something more?

 

I really don't want to come across as insecure and am not even sure myself if this behavior is acceptable or not. I don't want to be controlling or possessive so that's why I am asking for others opinions.

Edited April 4, 2014 by cm00

[almond]

When traveling overseas, a huge part of the fun is hanging out with all different people!

 

Your girlfriend made it clear that she has a boyfriend. She didn't act inappropriately. She didn't go back to a house. She was with her friend, they went to a public place, had a couple of drinks, and didn't cross any lines I don't think.

 

In my opinion, what she did was perfectly fine, and I don't feel that you should say anything to her.

[TheNoBSBuddhist]

I'd be more concerned about the guys' approach.

 

They were recruiting.

For what?

What kind of job?

 

Sounds like an extremely shady and risky situation they managed to avoid getting drawn into....

 

London is a hot-pot full of strangers who can be vulnerable.

I wouldn't so much criticise your GF and her friend so much as being grateful they dodged a bullet.

[cm00]

Thanks, always useful to get some extra perspective. I suppose it's harmless overall, my girlfriend knows she won't cheat and I trust her, no harm will come from going out for a few drinks as long as they are careful.

 

I thought about that, these guys could have drugged their drinks or something, or tried to traffic them, both my girlfriend and her friend are Eastern European. I just don't know if I should bring this up to her because she might think I am being over protective. Perhaps I should ask her to be careful in such situations to be sure her drink isn't spiked.

[TheNoBSBuddhist]

I would think that would be a definite priority.

[d0nnivain]

Because they were on holiday I don't see a huge problem because your GF clearly outlined her boundaries & didn't cross them. She said she had a BF. They were always in public. They left when it felt weird.

 

She's got a good head on her shoulders. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

 

Had she & her friend met 2 guys locally & made plans to meet up with them at a later date that might have been a bit dicier but given the newness of your budding relationship, if your GF had always been her friends' wingwoman, again given her clear boundaries, it could go either way.