heartisredandblue Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 this is going to be long but help would be appreciated im sure age plays a factor here so ill say it. im 25 shes 20 she has had a hard life her dad cheated on her mom many times even when she was sick and would beat her after her mom died she had to deal with her dad she lived with a guy when she was 18 but he left her for another girl i met her last may. we went on a few dates and started dating. as time went on, i felt more and more strongly about her. she is an amazing girl. great sense of humor loves video games and sports, doesn't start drama she is someone i could totally see myself marrying and start a family with around october of last year she broke up with me. she said she just wasnt ready for a serious relationship. she is only 19(at the time) and wants to focus on HER INDIVIDUAL future before she makes that commitment to settle down i said i understood, but we remained in contact. next thing i know, one lead leads to another and we are sleeping together, and are back to being a couple but she wouldn't admit to it. it started to cause fights between us since i was confused. around november she got me a card telling me how much i meant to her and man, it got to me. from november through february everthing was fine. we weren't a couple but we seemed good. for my birthday is february she made it a great day. she went above and beyond in late march i found out she slept with someone, just a week before. though i knew this could happen since we are not a couple, it still stung. i told her i knew and she denied it but then confessed. i told her the thing that hurt the most was her not telling me. i felt like her saying i love you was a lie i ended up putting it up behind me. three nights ago she was at another guys house. i told her i cant be a back up plan to her and that if this is going to keep we need to go our seperate ways she said she wants to date me but again, she just cant commit. she does see herself marrying me, but she just doesnt want to settle down because she is 20 and wants to enjoy life i love her to death, and i have tried to cut off contact but i just cant. she means so much. shes like my best friend what can i do? its to the point where my jealousy is getting a bit extreme and im afraid ill push her away from ever considering getting back together
Allumere Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 you let her go. She is not in a position to give you what you want. She is 20 and I can't blame her at all about not wanting to be tied down.
Author heartisredandblue Posted April 4, 2014 Author Posted April 4, 2014 you let her go. She is not in a position to give you what you want. She is 20 and I can't blame her at all about not wanting to be tied down. and see if she comes back?
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