Blueberry18 Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 (edited) Hey everyone. Need some help figuring this one out! So i broke up with my girlfriend a couple of months ago, and ended up hooking up with a girl (id known for a few months) the week after. So we hooked up on a drunken club night and ended up going back to hers. We chatted a lot, kissed etc. but she said she didn't want to sleep with me because she didn't want to be my rebound. Seems fair right? So i left it a few days before getting in contact with her. We flirted via messages etc for a few days before i asked her out on a date. She said she was busy so i told her to let me know when she was free. I didn't hear from her for a few days but i found a good talking point to talk to her and asked her out again. This time she agreed. We went and got coffee and had a good time. She seemed keen to meet again. About a week later i ask her out again, but she says she's busy. I didn't want to seem too keen so didn't pursue any more. Over the next 2 weeks flirty messages are exchanged and i see her again at a club night where we end up hooking up. We go back to hers again but it was very early morning and we don't end up having sex as we both were too drunk. Again, during the night she spoke about us like we were a couple going forwards and talks about stuff we could do together. In the morning we kissed before i left and i said i wanted to meet up with her soon, she said i should text her. Since then we've flirted through messages etc. but when i asked her out she said she was busy that evening. Im not sure if she just sees me as a drunken hook up, if she's just busy, or she's playing some kind of game. Either way my friends say its obvious she likes me but i have no idea where i stand with her. Any wisdom/advice would be much appreciated! Edited April 3, 2014 by Blueberry18
TheNewMe2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Tough one. I think there is some interest there...whether it's passing or something more is tough to see. She may see you as a casual fun guy or not know what she wants. Tough to really know, it seems, with her.
Bigcitydreamer Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Usually mixed signals mean bad things, but I agree that there does appear to be a bit of interest on her part. She may have actually been busy or may be playing hard to get. Ask her out once more and if she refuses without a solid reason and rescheduling, I'd definitely pass on this one. 1
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 OP, you're also relying some evidence upon things she said while drinking. So don't put complete faith in them. I wouldn't think too much about her intentions until you sleep with her. Until that happens you can't be 100% sure she's not using you for attention or w/e else.
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