TheNextLawyer Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 To avoid a big essay like before, I will focus on being concise here. I went to one Meetup late February and it was a decent ratio of women to men. Enjoyed meeting almost everyone. One girl seemed to be trying to get my attention but ultimately was quite passive (both with me, and in general). I figure there is all night and I can just interact with other people for time being. Later on another guy from group proceeds to chat to her and unleash some good jokes. She is reduced to hysterics, so I decide not to bother too much and give them space. I have an app on my phone allowing people to use meetup on the go and I later try and show her this. I get an immediate response of 'No, [insert other guy's name] already gave me his number'. Now that is both kind of awkward and self-important I think, especially in these days of smartphones. Furthermore she was brand new to the meetup system and I just wanted to be helpful. Might see the same girl again on a walk this weekend but have other fish there to try and catch.. Thoughts?
HappyLove Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 If she blew you off I'd leave her alone just be friendly. Not everyone goes to hook up either so be careful maybe she didn't like you trying to get with her.
Author TheNextLawyer Posted April 3, 2014 Author Posted April 3, 2014 Well I'm more concerned about the other people I stand some chance with on the walk. Just knowing how women can put in a crucial good/bad word, I just feel a bit apprehensive. Heck maybe she liked the look of me but hated my voice and manner - her problem obviously. I definitely didn't approach her looking to hook up. The other guy was very quick to get her phone number and to be fair I tried a bit of gamesmanship with him when I was just with him - something about him didn't ring true. Heck maybe she just was on the blob in the span of several hours.. I always give people a second chance, so perhaps I'll see what's she like during the daytime. Still I am much more interested in people in their 30s than a younger woman like her.
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Oh man. You need to relaaaaaax and not over-analyze to this degree! As far as the girl is concerned... Just look at it as a missed opportunity (early bird gets the worm!). Once a girl says stuff like "so-and-so already gave me his number" best to just leave her be.
Author TheNextLawyer Posted April 3, 2014 Author Posted April 3, 2014 Well having an over- analytic nature means I'm more than aware of this side of me in the first place. I'd rather write too much here as its more bearable in print than uttered out loud. I'll follow your advice, but my hope that people grow more self-aware over time means that I'm not ruling out the girl as an acquaintance... I should add that she was in several meetup groups but left the one which she was in that led to me seeing her in first place. Maybe just a few screws loose with this one - I certainly couldn't have been in better form that night.
HappyLove Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 All signs point to...she's not a match so I'm sure there will be other interesting prospects in your future.
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