on the situation with my ex

[RyanHam]

Hi everyone this is my first time on this website and would like anyones opinion on the whole situation.

 

Ok so my ex and i were together for 1 and 7 months and we are both 19 and everything was brilliant sure we had our ups and downs but nothing major and we loved each other so much, we both would talk about a future together and we were both truely happy. So we both go on holiday in December there and have a fun time and a nice Christmas our first time waking up together on Christmas morning so we get back from holiday and I'm working quite a bit and I do really erratic hours so some weeks pass and we're into the start of March and she comes to me and says that she feels like she needs a break, she still loves me and wants to end up being with me but she feels now shes too young for this situation with us because it's so serious. So I just want her to be happy so I agree on this break, so on this break, we still see each other pretty frequently every other day at this moment we are seeing each other but not in a relationship but in the mean time she starts talking to this other guy and then I become fairly needy which I know I shouldn't have done so i take a step back for a few days and then I talk to her on a Monday we then decide to keep going with the way things were, at the time I thought this was the right thing to do, but unfortunately she is seeing this other guy and more inclined to be with him in that way, i know exactly why she likes things with him because they're not serious and I just feel if I could remind her of the fun times we had. At this moment in time She said she wants us to try and be friends but she wants us to spend time alone once a week to try and rebuild our relationship and if I can grow up things might get better, I know her and this guy will never get serious cause she has told me they both have told each other they won't and they are still signs of hope for me, such as she still says things like I love you and holds my hand llike you would in a couple situation and gets me to stay over at her house.

 

I'm sorry if this is super wafflely but I juat don't know what to do and is there any chance of us being together again? Please help me

[Grumpybutfun]

Welcome to LS. I hate to break out the bad news here, but she has told you that she doesn't want to be serious which means she wasnt ready for the relationship you two had. Honestly, she wants to date around and sow her wild oats. It is best if you stop hanging on because this isn't going to change. She shouldn't string you along because she wants to date. She just isn't into you anymore and it has nothing to do with you, but where she is in her life.

Move on, go NC, don't wait for her to change her mind because she won't,

Grumps

[lolablue17]

Why dont you go dating other girls as well?

Be friend with her it you want, but start having fun, girls, hanging out... (not with her, but others)

[Simon Phoenix]

She wants to see other people, let her see other people. And you see other people too. What you shouldn't do is orbit and hang around while watching her do this. You need to separate from her (both as a friend and as a lover), because you hanging around will do nothing but cause you pain and make it easier for her to get over you.