Constellation Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 (edited) This is aimed at dumped people who are beating themselves over rejection and cannot move on, stalking the ex or trying to reach out to them. What I would like to say for the starters is that is ok and normal to grieve and feel down after the separation happens. It is a normal human emotion after we lose something of value to us. We are not made of stone, and our brain chemicals are making us feel the way we do. Some people take this to the extreme, though. It is natural to recognise these emotions but don't let it overtake your life. Give yourself a week or so and after that say to yourself - STOP! One thing most people don't have after being dumped is PRIDE. Why do you let that person become your life and destroy you? Seriously, you don't have anyone else in this world, but YOU. That's YOU should be the most important for you. Take for example maths, you start counting at 1, 2... But most of you skip 1 and start counting at 2 - putting the second person before you, therefore letting them take over your mind. This is pathetic. One will live how they want to live - end of story. If you want to be miserable and don't want to move on with your life (which you have only been given once, by the way) you deny yourself from fully living it. If you hold on to this self - pity soap opera, which most of people enjoy, I dare say, wallow in their own pain with the romantic idea in their head, you give the other person your time which they don't deserve. The relationship happened, it ended and then move on. In the mean time let yourself grief and then MOVE ON. NEVER go back to that person who left you. They just plainly don't deserve it. This is where your PRIDE should come into play. If you don't respect yourself, who will? You have given the other person the privilege of being in your life (that's right, a PRIVILEGE), and you should treat it that way. You are a prize and being able to be around you should definitely be an earned privilege. How can you people let yourselves go that low? Do you think by being miserable you are making the other person want you back, or hurt them? Well, news flash, they don't really give a *****. Have a b!tchy attitude towards them. They chose to walk out of your life, then say goodbye to them and erase them from your life. COMPLETELY. (This applies if you have no children with them, of course). Don't give the other person your time or even a thought. They do not DESERVE it! End all contact, social networks, email, phone, etc. They have made their choice and you don't compromise. How dare they even insult you by still wanting to be "friends" or have some sort of access to your life? This is INSULTING and they can go fu&k themselves. They are gone, a past and will stay there. LOVE yourself more than anything, and for god's sake have some PRIDE. Don't be or stop being a doormat where they can wipe their feet and ***** on you. Most dumpers not only enjoy contacting you after they dumped you, they get a big ego boost, coming back to their little doormat (in their eyes). And the best thing you can do is to take that option away from them. Don't give them the pleasure of ever hearing from you again, even if they don't really care, it will hurt their ego as to why you are not running back. Look at yourself in the mirror everyday and say: "I am a great, strong person who won't let anyone walk all over me, I love myself and accept myself for who I am". Say it many times until you believe it, everyday. And NEVER, EVER be a doormat to anyone. Have some pride and dignity, and stop letting someone take over your life and mind. Some people just need a kick in the arse or a slap on the face to get a grip. We are just human, 7 billion in the world and this ***** happens all the time. What would someone you admire or look up to say if they saw you being so pathetic and miserable. They wouldn't be impressed. So be a person others can look up to, rather than down to. And for the last part, I have no sympathy to those people who are still hurting because they let their ex get to them, by responding to phone calls, messages or emails, etc. Or even getting back with them, in fact you deserve it, for being so dumb and not loving yourself enough. You have a head on your shoulders and a cabbage, and no one is making you stalk their profile, message them or respond to them. Edited April 3, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs and language 9
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