StringsAttached Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Haven't talked to her since valentine's day when she rejected my pleas for friendship, so i'm at more than a little over a month nc (if that helps). Anyway, I haven't looked at any of her online social media during the said duration because i'm afraid of what i'll find...but at the same time my curiosity is getting the better of me and I have all these questions on my mind! How does one never stalk their ex online again? If I can get passed another month or 2 do you think she'll finally die in my mind? I really don't want to lose all the progress i've made.
David87 Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 You will feel worse, you'll start to have dreams about her, you'll become melancholic etc. Don't do it. 2
StGeorge22 Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Agree with David, I don't have any desire to stalk my ex as I know it will only make me feel worse. Why do something when you know no good will come from it? 2
Author StringsAttached Posted April 3, 2014 Author Posted April 3, 2014 Oh I get that guys. I mean you have to confront it sooner or later right? You can't go your whole life not knowing what your ex has been upto. If you check in on a weekly basis you find a new picture of her and you get over it. Step by step. If you wait 5 years and then look him/her up then you're absolutely ****ed. Imagine having to cope with all the new stuff they've been upto. lol How does one just forget with the obstacle of social media looming in the background? The curiosity will always be there but by never stalking your ex again are you not just masking the problem and living in denial?
rubberman Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Oh I get that guys. I mean you have to confront it sooner or later right? You can't go your whole life not knowing what your ex has been upto. If you check in on a weekly basis you find a new picture of her and you get over it. Step by step. If you wait 5 years and then look him/her up then you're absolutely ****ed. Imagine having to cope with all the new stuff they've been upto. lol How does one just forget with the obstacle of social media looming in the background? The curiosity will always be there but by never stalking your ex again are you not just masking the problem and living in denial? You need to block her from All of your social media. It will be hard in the beginning, but after awhile you will feel much better. 2
Omei Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 In my heartbreak after months of back and forth finally with no sign of getting back together I asked him to give me a parting gift I asked him to block me from everything. And he did. I had already been able to not look but every so often I wanted too and it hurt so bad he didnt move on or cheat or anything like that he just didnt want us and im actually pretty thankful he gave me my request. I am at a point now where I dont even know if im still blocked but I dont care anymore to look anyway. (I asked because in rough times ppl can always go back and unblock its hard not too when you still care) 2
Author StringsAttached Posted April 3, 2014 Author Posted April 3, 2014 ffs i'm so weak when it comes to this woman. You're all right there's no point in trying to see what's going on in their lives. I'm still special right? My life is interesting too I think.
pickflicker Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Like anything else, you exercise willpower. 10 minutes at a time, if need be. 2
guest572 Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Of course you will get to a point where you won't be tempted anymore, i cant say how long that takes, because it is when you have completely let go. It will happen. I am sure that in 5 yrs if you see what she is up to, it may hurt a bit but you won't be back to square one. More likely you won't really care anymore.
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