backatone Posted January 31, 2005 Posted January 31, 2005 Well, we have been playing phone tag now. She called, I waited a few days to call back. Yadda yadda. Then I finally call back and she is asking me what is up with all my hostilty? This girl talks to me like she is mad at ME. Its freaking ludacrisssssssss. Seeing as she broke up with ME. Then she started going into how she said we were fighting for quite some time there. The only thing I remember fighting about was lack of sex that she was not giving to me. That proceeded into her telling me that I also wanted to see her to much and got mad when she had to work. Out of everyone that I know, me and my ex seen each other the least. And she was a waitress so she always worked friday and saturday nights. Man, that got so annoying. I have to remember how much I hated that, and use that as motivation. I told her I don't want to deal with this anymore. Just give me my things and lets move on. She said, ok. Then that she would call me back. Well, its sooooo ironic that she has not called back. Then she says to me, "you dont want to salvage anything?" I assume she was talking about the friendship. But I told her that she can't honestly think she is ready for that right now. Its impossible at this stage. Too many feelings still out there on the table. This really does not seem like the girl that I dated. Of course im sure that is what everyone says. I just wish she would not have called me. It had been a whole month of NC and I was doing so good. Now, I think about her more.
Curt Posted January 31, 2005 Moderators Posted January 31, 2005 Perhaps you are thinking of her more. However, there are clearly unresolved issues between you both that would need to be cleared up before you could even think about, as she put it, "salvaging anything." I believe you do what you can, cordially, to get your things back from her, and you move on with your lives. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is give each other more "space" and wait for the whole emotional "temperature" of the situation to die down. Right now, I don't think that you're ready to talk, and who knows if she is ready to listen. Get your things, leave the door open for talking sometime in the future, but let her know that you need some time. Let her know that you feel she needs some as well. All the best. Curt
Universe Posted January 31, 2005 Posted January 31, 2005 I think Curt's right. You're not ready to talk to her and she doesn't really seem quite ready to listen. I think you may regret it if you don't leave to door open for possible civil meeting with her in the future where you can both get some things out on the table. So you can just say that you need some more time and that hopefully you can talk about it in the future. Then, if you decide that you don't need to talk about it, you don't have to. But at least you can if YOU want to. Otherwise, you can just cut the cord and say goodbye forever.
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