Just friendly or showing interest, did something change?

[JSmiles]

The other day while talking to a co-worker I said I didn't like my boyfriend or him touching me (long uninteresting situation- not relevant to anything in this question, also no big deal) but didn't say more. She reacted a bit when I said boyfriend, though I thought she knew about him.

The next day she was extra flirty/friendly- normal for us to flirt and tease/be playful with each other. But she had never really be touchy feely before then, putting her arm around me, getting in my way so I'd have to lean into her, joking that she was going to tickle me.

Wondering if it is because of the boyfriend (not single) or what I said about my relationship with him.

She is a lesbian, and in her own relationship. Because of us each being in relationships and saying we were just "messing with each other" I always assumed I was all in fun and innocent and never thought anything of it, until it changed a bit.

Is she still being normal (just friendly-relaxed) or is it something more now?

[Frank2thepoint]

Before I answer your question I want to give you a brief anecdote. Living in NYC, hearing the stories, witnessing it with my own eyes, homosexuals are far more aggressive in pursuing than hetereosexuals. This is a fact.

 

To answer your question, yes things have changed in the eyes of your co-worker. By you advertising that you don't like your boyfriend and dislike him touching you, you displayed something to her that she feels she can use to sway you to her side of the team. Add to the fact that you two normally are "flirty" with each other, she has the groundwork laid in her mind that you were someone questioning whether to remain completely heterosexual or maybe open up to at least bisexuality. Now with your recent disclosure about your boyfriend, she's shifting gears to win you over.

[JSmiles]

I guess I have never noticed/been aware of how lesbians or gays flirt as I have never been on the "flirty" side of it. I have known many all my life, have family and friends, the friend that I was close to was super shy though.

 

I have noticed the last few days we have worked together that she watches me, and that is something I never noticed she did before.

This morning, I walked past where she was working and didn't she her, she said hey, I commented on not seeing her, she joked about it but seemed a bit hurt, asked if she could have my phone to make an appointment for a eye exam.