Wings Of Love Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 I've got to the point where I'm thinking realistically about what would happen if he did come back. I know that it would be impossible for me to trust him again for a very long time, if at all. And with this knowledge comes the realisation that I don't really want him back anyway. I haven't yet achieved indifference so I know I'm not completely over this, but I feel like this is the beginning of the end, you know? And I feel happier. 1
lamis Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 This is a great thing to be at. It is where I am as well. The loss still hurts, but if the longing/hoping someone will come back is gone, I think it makes things easier. You just have to cope with the fact that that they hurt you, not the fact that you want them. 1
TrappedWanderer Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 It really is a turning point. When I hit that point, it was still sad, still painful...but it was the point of no return. And it was the impetus for me to take some action and begin the process of moving forward. Sad and painful for what I had thought it was, hoped it was....but knowing there was absolutely no way of "going back" and still having a happy outcome. It's still painful, but, with some exceptions (his birthday, our anniversary, etc) it's more wistful, not wishful. 2
Author Wings Of Love Posted April 2, 2014 Author Posted April 2, 2014 It really is a turning point. When I hit that point, it was still sad, still painful...but it was the point of no return. And it was the impetus for me to take some action and begin the process of moving forward. Sad and painful for what I had thought it was, hoped it was....but knowing there was absolutely no way of "going back" and still having a happy outcome. It's still painful, but, with some exceptions (his birthday, our anniversary, etc) it's more wistful, not wishful. I had to cope with missing him on his birthday just two weeks ago actually. But I found that it really didn't affect me as much as I assumed it would. Our anniversary would have been July 4th, so I'm not sure how I'll feel when that comes around. But our breakup anniversary is just 8 days later, July 12th, so that might be a tough week. Still, I'm sure I'll be able to handle it. I've got through Christmas, New Year, Valentine's Day and his birthday without wanting to break NC, so this shouldn't be any different. 2
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