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Hello everyone, im new here and thank you for taking the time to help me out here. I really think i've found the girl for me:

 

I have a situation going on that I desperately need advice on:

 

So i've been seeing this girl for the past 4 months and it has been a very interesting experience for me. I remembered her from my Highschool days (2004ish). She used to stand out from the pack in the hallways as one of the only blonde girls on campus. But i dint really think much of it, but thought she was cute. Oddly enough (without knowing) I had ended up dating one of her close friends at the time (not knowing till recently that they were friends at the time). Fast forward to 2009: Myspace was dying out and I logged on a couple more times and was suggested that I friend a blonde girl that had mutual friends. She was beautiful to me, and upon closer inspection I noticed it was that mystery girl from HS! I added her on Myspace, but never got accepted...2010 comes around and facebook is all the rage. Suddenly in my "suggested friends" section I was drawn to a beautiful blonde girl....it was her again. This time she accepted my request and I messaged her for a bit. I introduced myself, as did she, and I even asked her to dinner, but my idiotic self never followed through (I was younger and shy).

 

Fast forward to December 2013 and I had posted a random thing about wanting to rewatch the 2nd hobbit movie. Suddenly out of nowhere I get a message from her asking me if I wanted to go see the movie. We hit it off very well and I continued going out with her and gave her a rose on the 2nd outing. She called me her "movie buddy" at the end of the night, so I thought I was friend zoned, but she could tell I was baffled and she sent a text a bit after telling me to be patient cause it had been a long time since she'd been on a date. Well, about a month went by (we hung out every weekend) and I ended up at her place after a gathering she had invited me to. We drank and I ended up asking her for a kiss. I could tell she shut down deep inside and looked a bit freaked, especially after I asked her to be my gf. Earlier that night she HAD told me about her last two relationships (her only serious relationships ever) and how they went to crap (especially the last guy who would push her around and was a verbally abusive ******* who demeaned her a ton). She told me that she wanted to take things slow, but gave me full permission to romance her (I asked haha). Well, I sent her a text asking her when I could see her again so I could strut my stuff (i said it in a charming way) and she told me that she was going to be honest with me: the idea of the romance freaked her out, and that she didnt know if she was ready for that. I called her and she told me that she wasnt ready right now and she feels emotionally lost. She doesnt know when she'll be ready and doesnt want to have me waiting around with fear that ill get hurt. I felt like a knife had been driven into my stomach , but eventually I thought it through and figured she was worth the wait, so I told her we'd just continue to go out and not think of anything.

 

Fast forward 3 months and were still going out (every weekend). I've done things for this girl (Cooked, Sang, etc) that I have never done for any girl before in my life. I took her to the beach and we spent the day there and even had a bonfire till late at night (where she held my hand as we walked along the coast). On the way home we talked about various things and she told me that its crazy how much we have in common. There were a few times when she would tell me that her guard is up, and that she doesnt want a bf (that was back in Feb) but it hasnt happened recently. We ended up making out one night and have just kept talking more and more, getting know each other more personally. I have gone over to her place and cooked for her 3 times, she loves it cause we try and work on dishes from different countries. If I compare her to how she was at the very beginning of my chase, its like im seeing a different person. She's happier, more outgoing, and seems to be opening up.

 

This past Friday night I cooked her some delicious shrimp tacos and she absolutely loved them (as did I). We drank a bit and things got very steamy (just short of a home run). I ended up opening up about my family history and my strained relationship with my father. She seemed very deeply interested in what I was saying and was very supportive (she has been raised by her father and step mom after a failed marriage when she was really young). I also talked about my future plans (wanting to become a physician and travel). She LOVES traveling and I could just see the excitement in her. I asked her if she would come with me and she said yes. Then later that night she told me that her family was throwing a birthday party for her younger brother the next day and that I should go. I asked her if she meant it, or if it was just the wine talking, and she told me she was serious. Well, I ended up going to her parents' house and she introduced me to them. The step mom was very happy and greeted me like she had heard a lot about me, same as the dad. I ended up talking to one of her younger brothers for a good 30 minutes about music (she let us talk and walked away). At the end of the night I thanked her parents for the wonderful hospitality and was able to talk to the father about his collection of historical relics. We talked for a good 30 minutes, to the point where the girl was hinting her dad to shutup. haha (She even told me that she knew I liked history, so it was a good opportunity to get to know her dad more.) The dad ended up telling that I was welcomed there anytime I liked. After her parents house, the girl still wanted to be with me, so we went by her place and watched two movies. She was so lively and even joking around/being goofy. It was 3:30am so I told her I was leaving and she even asked me "Why?"....

 

So tell me, what is going on here?! Do you all think that im making strides with her? She is seriously the girl I have been searching for all my life..

Why do you think she introduced me to her parents if she used to be so negative about wanting a relationship or any of that? Could I finally be getting into her heart and gaining her trust?

 

Sorry if my paragraphs are all screwed up haha

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She was so lively and even joking around/being goofy. It was 3:30am so I told her I was leaving and she even asked me "Why?"....

Well, have to agree with her... why?!

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Their actions speak louder than words. My current gf also "didn't want a relationship" when I first met her.

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Their actions speak louder than words. My current gf also "didn't want a relationship" when I first met her.

 

So what do you think about the whole introducing me to parents thing?

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So what do you think about the whole introducing me to parents thing?

 

An obvious good sign.

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