inlin Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 (edited) So my gf of 1.5 years broke up with me, for the 2nd time. A little background; i helped her with her issues tremendously(depression and father , she lived with my parents for 1 month and visited her in another country, which was pretty dam expensive. I felt like I did everything right and that our relationship was "perfect",we survived a 4 month ldr as well, our personalities were great together and kept the relationship interesting and we always put each other first. When we frist broke up it was becasue of a "gut feeling" and a mix ox of "I love you but..." and "I dont know why". I was crushed and didn't know how to handle it. I came back to talk it out with her and to try to get some answers because I was pretty dam confused. It didn't workout but after a week or so she wanted to talk it out the next week or so. So we met up and talked about it and my plan. It bothered her that I lived with my parents still, even though I am at school full-time and also working, but she lives alone also so I should be in the same position it seems? To be on the same page she said. But I told her that I'm moving out after summer. So we "take it slow" but she fell ill and was asking me to come over and to make her food, dishes and clean her room. So I did, I mean I love her and I dont want to see her in pain. I did this for 3 days. Once she got better I took her out for dinner. After a few days she's been acting all weird and finally tells me that her gut feeling came back, we took it too fast (even though she wanted me to be there for her when she was ill) and it's the way she feels and doesn't know why. So we break up, but I as an idiot, vented on facebook (was angry, hurt & drunk) but didn't type out anything too personal but enough to make her look bad in general. She blocked me on facebook which i understand. I sent her a goodbye text and she sent me one as well. This looks like a G.I.G situation and I'm wondering if she'll contact me back eventually. I'm not waiting at all, but just curious what other people think of my situation. I've began to learn about myself and to be a better person. *Title was meant to say "Your guys opinion". Edited April 1, 2014 by inlin Title name
Sasukie Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 No idea. But do yourself a favor, just go focus on yourself. There must be more underlying issues that we won't know about. But if you have time to post this here, probably means you feel like you were wronged. Honestly, I wouldn't even bother pondering too much about it. They come and go. Be happy with what you guys had, then move on. Give yourself some time to grieve, but other than that just move on. Start early, it'll be good for you.
Author inlin Posted April 2, 2014 Author Posted April 2, 2014 No idea. But do yourself a favor, just go focus on yourself. There must be more underlying issues that we won't know about. But if you have time to post this here, probably means you feel like you were wronged. Honestly, I wouldn't even bother pondering too much about it. They come and go. Be happy with what you guys had, then move on. Give yourself some time to grieve, but other than that just move on. Start early, it'll be good for you. I honestly cannot think of anything. I was always there for her and helped her so much. I just don't get it at all. If the relationship was unhealthy I would understand, but it wasn't. It was very good and loving. We never argued or raised our voices at all and she seemed pretty logical as well. It was kind of out of nowhere...
Author inlin Posted April 2, 2014 Author Posted April 2, 2014 (edited) Anyone have any idea or opinion why she would break up with me? Edited April 2, 2014 by inlin
redbaron005 Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 I came back to talk it out with her and to try to get some answers because I was pretty dam confused. It didn't workout but after a week or so she wanted to talk it out the next week or so. So we met up and talked about it and my plan. Hey inlin. Could you expand on this a bit...what exactly did y'all talk about?
iDrumKing Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 Anyone have any idea or opinion why she would break up with me? Honestly? It doesn't really matter. At the end of the day she is your EX. Why she is won't bring you peace or closure. Trust me. Realize she is in a different place and possibly with someone else.
Author inlin Posted April 2, 2014 Author Posted April 2, 2014 Hey inlin. Could you expand on this a bit...what exactly did y'all talk about? We talked about me moving out and being 'independent'. She said she was confused about the relationship and didn't know what was wrong. Turned out that it was because I was at home with my mom still... But she still through me under the bus even after we reconciled. I just don't get it.
Author inlin Posted April 2, 2014 Author Posted April 2, 2014 Honestly? It doesn't really matter. At the end of the day she is your EX. Why she is won't bring you peace or closure. Trust me. Realize she is in a different place and possibly with someone else. It's possible that she is with someone else, but I doubt it. I could be wrong though.
iDrumKing Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 It's possible that she is with someone else, but I doubt it. I could be wrong though. Well I'm not necessarily saying she is or isn't for that matter. But what I am saying is when you start to "wonder" why she broke up with you, your mind will paint some terrible terrible pictures. You gotta stop wondering. You gotta put that mental and physical power towards something positive. The past is the past.
Author inlin Posted April 2, 2014 Author Posted April 2, 2014 Well I'm not necessarily saying she is or isn't for that matter. But what I am saying is when you start to "wonder" why she broke up with you, your mind will paint some terrible terrible pictures. You gotta stop wondering. You gotta put that mental and physical power towards something positive. The past is the past. I know that I have to. Just sucks, I felt played and used for her to feel better and then throw me on the curb like that.
iDrumKing Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 I know that I have to. Just sucks, I felt played and used for her to feel better and then throw me on the curb like that. Dude... I know. Yes it does suck. It takes time. You've probably read and heard that many many times already. It's true though.
redbaron005 Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 We talked about me moving out and being 'independent'. She said she was confused about the relationship and didn't know what was wrong. Turned out that it was because I was at home with my mom still... But she still through me under the bus even after we reconciled. I just don't get it. You didn't talk about your emotions and goals in the relationship? Do you think she was hinting that you all get a place together or just using this as justification of the changes in feelings that she was having? I think you really need to sit back and examine the relationship in more detail.
Author inlin Posted April 2, 2014 Author Posted April 2, 2014 You didn't talk about your emotions and goals in the relationship? Do you think she was hinting that you all get a place together or just using this as justification of the changes in feelings that she was having? I think you really need to sit back and examine the relationship in more detail. No she didnt want to move out together, but that I get my own place. I have my own car, have a job/internship and going to school full time. We only talked about traveling pretty much, school and careers. She may be using that to justify her changed feelings for me too. I dont know. But Why would she want to get back together again and then just break it off after I took care of her....
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