smithwilson Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 i havent made any contact with my girlfriend since saturday night due to a argument. she didnt want to talk about it so i said"well when you do let me know" she keeps making these facebook statuses about me indirectly. im pretty sure she feels weird not hearing from me should i keep holding out or talk to her?
TheNewMe2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 what are the facebook status? Positive towards you (e.g. missing you) or negative.
Author smithwilson Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 what are the facebook status? Positive towards you (e.g. missing you) or negative. missing...she isnt saying "i miss you" but stuff like "waiting around sucks" and she texted me a picture of her with her new hair
soccerrprp Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 missing...she isnt saying "i miss you" but stuff like "waiting around sucks" and she texted me a picture of her with her new hair Duh, yes she misses you. Either that or she's rubbing "her" into your face like, "huh, look at what you're missing." But, I suspect the former.
TheNewMe2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I think it depends. I *HATE* games. I refuse to play them. To me, this whole thing of do I contact her not, etc..are games. You should who you are (I will caveat that if you read my posts...I don't always follow the same advice for myself, though I try.). If you are mad at her - then don't contact her. If you miss her and the fight wasnt' huge...just f'ing contact her. Seriously. Life is too short. Sure, who's got the upperhand might be important if everything you do is fight. But if you truly care about each other...stop it! Don't let resentment build with her, don't let her have an opportunity to engage with other men (even passively). Life is too short to play games. A good relationship is built on trust, honesty, and sincerity. This is particularly true if she misses you. Maybe she's scared or doesn't know what to say. Don't make it a habit..but taking the high road - shows you can take some control, that you have feelings for her, and that you are mature. To me, it's a big win. 3
halpertpaper Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 (edited) I think it depends. I *HATE* games. I refuse to play them. To me, this whole thing of do I contact her not, etc..are games. You should who you are (I will caveat that if you read my posts...I don't always follow the same advice for myself, though I try.). If you are mad at her - then don't contact her. If you miss her and the fight wasnt' huge...just f'ing contact her. Seriously. Life is too short. Sure, who's got the upperhand might be important if everything you do is fight. But if you truly care about each other...stop it! Don't let resentment build with her, don't let her have an opportunity to engage with other men (even passively). Life is too short to play games. A good relationship is built on trust, honesty, and sincerity. This is particularly true if she misses you. Maybe she's scared or doesn't know what to say. Don't make it a habit..but taking the high road - shows you can take some control, that you have feelings for her, and that you are mature. To me, it's a big win. i think he should text her Edited April 1, 2014 by halpertpaper type 1
TheNewMe2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Hopefully what he got out of my response was...TALK TO HER!! absolutely.
Author smithwilson Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Hopefully what he got out of my response was...TALK TO HER!! absolutely. we were suppose to watch a show tonight, i think i will text her and say "be over at 730 for our show"
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I think it depends. I *HATE* games. I refuse to play them. To me, this whole thing of do I contact her not, etc..are games. You should who you are (I will caveat that if you read my posts...I don't always follow the same advice for myself, though I try.). If you are mad at her - then don't contact her. If you miss her and the fight wasnt' huge...just f'ing contact her. Seriously. Life is too short. Sure, who's got the upperhand might be important if everything you do is fight. But if you truly care about each other...stop it! Don't let resentment build with her, don't let her have an opportunity to engage with other men (even passively). Life is too short to play games. A good relationship is built on trust, honesty, and sincerity. This is particularly true if she misses you. Maybe she's scared or doesn't know what to say. Don't make it a habit..but taking the high road - shows you can take some control, that you have feelings for her, and that you are mature. To me, it's a big win. +1 Amen to that!
TheNewMe2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 lol - and I'm taking my own advice too. Overthinking myself....
TheNewMe2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Honestly - I'd text a little more than that (maybe the ladies can chime in). I'm not saying apology..but maybe ask to come over rather than just 'assume'. She might think you are being domineering.
Author smithwilson Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Honestly - I'd text a little more than that (maybe the ladies can chime in). I'm not saying apology..but maybe ask to come over rather than just 'assume'. She might think you are being domineering. well i have apologized through a text already...i said "5:15 at applebees if you want to do dinner and watch our show" she hasnt replied....ill proabably just show anyway..if she dont show...whatever
Author smithwilson Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 should i post something on facebook saying "hope she shows tonight" or is that to needy?
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 How old is she? Using vague facebook updates to relay feeling to a SO should only be allowed by 12 year olds.
acrosstheuniverse Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 should i post something on facebook saying "hope she shows tonight" or is that to needy? No! You needed ideally to have asked her about dinner in the text, so you had an idea either way (seriously, you'd waste your own time showing up just in case she arrives?) I don't know what time it is near you now but I'd send her another text saying 'let me know by 3pm if you want to meet tonight, it'd be nice to see you but if not I'd rather know so I can plan something with my buddies' You already made the first move and reached out, she's being very immature by posting about it on facebook but not getting in touch. Either way, you were the bigger person, you reached out and you can't do anything more unattractive than sit around hoping she shows up to meet you or not. And 'hope she shows' is so incredibly unappealing like you have no idea.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 should i post something on facebook saying "hope she shows tonight" or is that to needy? Lawd, no! It's not only needy, it's downright juvenile. How old are both of you? If you want to speak to each other, do so. If you reach out and get stonewalled in response...well, I personally couldn't be with someone so lacking in communication skills. These silly games are pointless; it just becomes a power struggle and does zero to help resolve problems.
Author smithwilson Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 we are going to meet up tonight..she said .. ill be there at five but you will have to go after the show because i have plans
spiderowl Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Strange reply! Neither of you seem particularly polite to each other, but perhaps it's just my Englishness coming out.
Mrin Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 Strange reply! Neither of you seem particularly polite to each other, but perhaps it's just my Englishness coming out. Agreed. Trying to understand the communication pattern here. To be honest either the OP's contemplated texts or the GF's response would result in a hearty Go F Yourself if sent to me.
TXGuy Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 should i post something on facebook saying "hope she shows tonight" or is that to needy? I would not make any Facebook postings. Maybe it is a generational thing, but I could not imagine involving all of my Facebook friends in my dating squabbles. It is something I might expect a girl to do, but not a man. Eta: I just saw that everything worked out for you. Congrats.
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