Mrselfdestrukt Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 ...and seemingly into another. The last time I posted on here was probably about 18 months ago, during the early stages of separation from my ex wife. She is very much an ex now - divorce happened last year; that chapter is well and truly closed. But - I now seem to find myself in another post break-up situation (lucky me eh?). Last summer, completely unplanned and unexpected, I started seeing a girl who I work with (I know, dangerous!). It was absolutely fantastic while it lasted - all of 5 months. The butterflies which I thought had flown many many years ago were well and truly back. Lots of mutual laughter, lots of good times, lots of time spent together. Then over Christmas, it all stopped. I received a call from her, saying she wasn't comfortable being in a relationship which she had to keep secret (she had a major hang up about people at work knowing that she was seeing a colleague) - and there it ended. But - 3 months in, I can't seem to get over her. Those 5 months were fantastic; we talked about 'long term plans' etc - and I still would want those. But I know I'm being a moron. But It's one of those pathetic lovelorn situations, where I think about her constantly, and I mean constantly. I have a sneaky suspicion that she has moved on and is seeing someone else; so I'm resigned to the fact that getting back is a non starter. With the ex-wife, I applied the NC rule, which was fine - but I can't do that this time - she sits next to me in the office. It's all very friendly and occasionally flirty. I just need to get her out of my head! I attempted something over the weekend - asking if she had any plans, and got "I'm out with friends, hope you're doing something nice x" - shouldn't have done that I know. Although only 5 months, this seems to hurt a lot more than the ending of the 22 year marriage! Thanks in advance all.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 ...and seemingly into another. The last time I posted on here was probably about 18 months ago, during the early stages of separation from my ex wife. She is very much an ex now - divorce happened last year; that chapter is well and truly closed. But - I now seem to find myself in another post break-up situation (lucky me eh?). Last summer, completely unplanned and unexpected, I started seeing a girl who I work with (I know, dangerous!). It was absolutely fantastic while it lasted - all of 5 months. The butterflies which I thought had flown many many years ago were well and truly back. Lots of mutual laughter, lots of good times, lots of time spent together. Then over Christmas, it all stopped. I received a call from her, saying she wasn't comfortable being in a relationship which she had to keep secret (she had a major hang up about people at work knowing that she was seeing a colleague) - and there it ended. But - 3 months in, I can't seem to get over her. Those 5 months were fantastic; we talked about 'long term plans' etc - and I still would want those. But I know I'm being a moron. But It's one of those pathetic lovelorn situations, where I think about her constantly, and I mean constantly. I have a sneaky suspicion that she has moved on and is seeing someone else; so I'm resigned to the fact that getting back is a non starter. With the ex-wife, I applied the NC rule, which was fine - but I can't do that this time - she sits next to me in the office. It's all very friendly and occasionally flirty. I just need to get her out of my head! I attempted something over the weekend - asking if she had any plans, and got "I'm out with friends, hope you're doing something nice x" - shouldn't have done that I know. Although only 5 months, this seems to hurt a lot more than the ending of the 22 year marriage! Thanks in advance all. I get that.. I wonder if the "what ifs" of the new one can be almost sometimes harder to let go of than the loss of something u know u tried your best at. If she is flirting a bit then leave her be now and see if she comes to u x
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