skadush Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Okay. here is the scenario. I pick her up in her home but then i notice that she has a mild hay fever. she cough sometimes. So i ask her if she is okay. and she said yes. Then we went to watch a movie. It was an animated film by the way (its her choice not mine, although we both agree to watch it ). In the middle of the show, i notice that her fever got worse. She felt cold and coughing a little and sneezing. I ask her again and this time she said she's not really feeling well. I thought we could have more time together but base on her situation, i have no choice but to take her to her home. well before she went inside her house we exchange fb account, a little hug. Then on my stupidity kiss her on the lips. (I really really regret that, I was way too fast, I want to kill my self now . But whats done is done). I dunno if it bother her though. So back on the case. After I got home i text her. She replied but i takes ages before she reply. I ask her if she's okay now, she said not really. But one thing that's really bugging me out is that she still go with her friends to party or something, like club. So ah this is a red flag i suppose. why would she still go to a party if she's really not feeling well? Well we have a little chat on FB though. But should i always be the one to chat her first on FB or txt her first? And this girl is i think a german i think. I haven't dated a german girl before so i have no idea about them. Any opinions? thanks.
David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Let her initiate the next convo because, from your story, she isn't that interested.
TheNewMe2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 It's hard to interpret some of your post. But if she went out after your date - I'd be a little suspect. I think David is right, respectfully, she may not be that interested. It never hurts to reach out to someone you like if you don't get a response back, but I definitely think waiting for her to contact you...at least for a couple of days, will allow you to see her interest leve.
J21 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 No disrespect, but she doesn't seem that interested from how things were presented in your post. Let her initiate, if she doesn't, you have your answer.
angel.eyes Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I think the best way to figure out if she's interested would be to ask her on another date. She'll either say yes or she won't. Not all women initiate communication, so waiting for that may not be the best way to determine interest.
truth_seeker Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Anytime a woman says they're not feeling well on a date, it means: I want out.
TheNewMe2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 (edited) not always..but can be a sign. Edited April 1, 2014 by TheNewMe2014
martaldn Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Anytime a woman says they're not feeling well on a date, it means: I want out. this is not always true. in this case he could see she wasnt feeling great because she was sneezing and coughing.. If I was sick ( like coughing and sneezing ) i wouldnt go to a first date but I would still go to a party with friends... I dont have to be super fit or feel 100% well to meet my friends but I would like to feel good and in be in good spirit if I have to met a potential bf for the first time! ( was this the first date right? ) however I agree to wait until her will contact you again... maybe she is just playing a bit the hard to get.... ?
Author skadush Posted April 2, 2014 Author Posted April 2, 2014 this is not always true. in this case he could see she wasnt feeling great because she was sneezing and coughing.. If I was sick ( like coughing and sneezing ) i wouldnt go to a first date but I would still go to a party with friends... I dont have to be super fit or feel 100% well to meet my friends but I would like to feel good and in be in good spirit if I have to met a potential bf for the first time! ( was this the first date right? ) however I agree to wait until her will contact you again... maybe she is just playing a bit the hard to get.... ? We still have a little chat on fb sometimes. But right now im not sending a msg or anything to her and it seems like it doesnt bother her? is that a clear sign?
Mo_Do Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 We still have a little chat on fb sometimes. But right now im not sending a msg or anything to her and it seems like it doesnt bother her? is that a clear sign? Stop contacting her! If you haven't heard anything from her in 2-3 days its done.
semco Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 This is a no brainer, if she went to a party after saying she was sick and wanted to go home, cmon really? i dont think the kiss had anything to do with any of it, she was probably faking being sick so you would take her home. Think about it, if she was to sick to hang with you but felt good enough to go to a party.
Lipitor11 Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 Maybe you should ask her out again...it sounds like she was sick, she was coughing and sneezing in front of you...did she sound like she was faking it? It is kind of odd she would decide to party with friends though, if she doesn't respond, then she ain't interested.
WP4046 Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 why is the OP giving his facebook address to someone he went on a 1st date with????
Cunning_Linguist Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 She doesn't seem interested, but personally I would be persistent. Sometimes it just takes the right timing. A movie date? Really? 2
hasaquestion Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 She doesn't seem interested, but personally I would be persistent. Sometimes it just takes the right timing. A movie date? Really? This. Come on OP, you're taking a girl to an animated movie for a first date? What is this, amateur hour? Movie dates are good if 1) you are already in a relationship and 2) if you have nothing of value to say. We know 1 isn't true and you definitely don't want to be in category 2.
Author skadush Posted April 6, 2014 Author Posted April 6, 2014 This. Come on OP, you're taking a girl to an animated movie for a first date? What is this, amateur hour? Movie dates are good if 1) you are already in a relationship and 2) if you have nothing of value to say. We know 1 isn't true and you definitely don't want to be in category 2. Agree with you on num 2. Well im not prepared and the only thing that comes to my mind is watched a movie hehehe.
Author skadush Posted April 6, 2014 Author Posted April 6, 2014 why is the OP giving his facebook address to someone he went on a 1st date with???? WEll ah.. got nothing to say anymore. thats why.. IS it not a good i dea?
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