Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 I know, I'm just playing OP, come on. No one is perfect. If there is one thing I have learned from 17 to 31, is that the next person I date, is always better than the last. That is the part takes all my energy. She will find someone better than me when she goes to europe. Better looking, more social, better on bed.
David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 You are in a perfect mindset. Wish i have that one as well. Make peace with your past and you'll do much better than me, I promise that.
David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 That is the part takes all my energy. She will find someone better than me when she goes to europe. Better looking, more social, better on bed. So what? I know it hurts but don't you want her to be happy ? I know I want my ex to be happy because I don't hate her. She tried with you but it didn't work, that's life. Think about how much better your next girlfriend will be if your ex was 'perfect'
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 So what? I know it hurts but don't you want her to be happy ? I know I want my ex to be happy because I don't hate her. She tried with you but it didn't work, that's life. Think about how much better your next girlfriend will be if your ex was 'perfect' Wow man, you are ridiculuously positive. I like that. And right now, no, i am angry to my ex.and no, i dont want her to be happy but it will pass i hope. What do you do to be positive? Meditate or getting high? 1
pickflicker Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 That is the part takes all my energy. She will find someone better than me when she goes to europe. Better looking, more social, better on bed. And so could you. But not if you wallow like this. 1
David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Wow man, you are ridiculuously positive. I like that. And right now, no, i am angry to my ex.and no, i dont want her to be happy but it will pass i hope. What do you do to be positive? Meditate or getting high? Life's too short to fantasise about someone that doesn't want to be with you.
TheNoBSBuddhist Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I think i am addicted to pain. Need professional help. Ah. Good. The "Bingo!" moment.... That is the part takes all my energy. She will find someone better than me when she goes to europe. Better looking, more social, better on bed. ...And this is why you need that help. Because your mind-set is warped. You say things like this to yourself to KEEP YOU IN THAT 'UNHAPPY PLACE'. You do this deliberately, because you prefer the comforting solace of misery, rather than the healing process of Moving On. If you act/sound in the depths of despair, you'll get sympathetic support. That's your Ego, being fed, nourished and maintained. You evince sympathy from well-wishers, and it makes your Ego feel good. But ultimately, it's soul-destroying and damaging to your long-term progress. It feels great - but it's toxic. Quit feeling so sorry for yourself, find a good counsellor/therapist, and shed this load. It's just weighing you down, holding you back and erasing who you really are. 1
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Life's too short to fantasise about someone that doesn't want to be with you. That's the problem of me man. My psyciologist told me i ave a conquerer character, personality and i always look things to get, conquer challenging things. Just like this ex situation. When she wants me she is not that attractive, but when she doesnt she is a price and i have to get it. Also for my work. I got this dream job and strived for it. After working 2-3 months i started to become unhappy and started looking better opportunities. That is why i am never being happy with what i have. I need to be challenged.
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Ah. Good. The "Bingo!" moment.... ...And this is why you need that help. Because your mind-set is warped. You say things like this to yourself to KEEP YOU IN THAT 'UNHAPPY PLACE'. You do this deliberately, because you prefer the comforting solace of misery, rather than the healing process of Moving On. If you act/sound in the depths of despair, you'll get sympathetic support. That's your Ego, being fed, nourished and maintained. You evince sympathy from well-wishers, and it makes your Ego feel good. But ultimately, it's soul-destroying and damaging to your long-term progress. It feels great - but it's toxic. Quit feeling so sorry for yourself, find a good counsellor/therapist, and shed this load. It's just weighing you down, holding you back and erasing who you really are. I know it is toxic and as i wrote above, it keeps me away from happiness but on the other hand, it gives me motivation to be my bestself and.challenge myself, physically, mentally, careerwise. But yes, i need to calm down and fix it.
David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Here's a challenge for you, find a better girl than your ex was. You already conquered her, she was your girl, that's a fact. It's in the human nature to want something that we know for a fact that we will never have. 1
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Here's a challenge for you, find a better girl than your ex was. You already conquered her, she was your girl, that's a fact. It's in the human nature to want something that we know for a fact that we will never have. Actually that challenge makes so much sense. I got her, i made her love me, made sweet sweet love to me, didnt i? I havent look at it from that perspective and now i feel a lil positive and challenge filled. Thanks man. I wish my.buddies are as positive as you are. All they say is "**** that b*tch, move on" 1
David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Actually that challenge makes so much sense. I got her, i made her love me, made sweet sweet love to me, didnt i? I havent look at it from that perspective and now i feel a lil positive and challenge filled. Thanks man. I wish my.buddies are as positive as you are. All they say is "**** that b*tch, move on" That's the spirit I'm looking for a wingman if you're interested lol ) Your buddies are wrong, the fact that she isn't with you anymore doesn't make her a bitch. She was a chapter in your life, you shared good times and bad times, but now that chapter is over and you're about to start a new one, make the best of it.
Breadimus Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 You need a life goal mate to make your true passion just pulse with energy. William the Conqueror started off as an absolute nothing. You know what he wanted, England! That is a life goal there, and because he pursued it to the very end of his days he was content and guess what? Women filled his nights just as much as England filled his days. Women do not make you happy, your purpose makes you happy, a wonderful woman adds to your happiness. Forget relationships, find your purpose and strive to reach it. This will make you confident, interesting, attractive and desirable. Watch them wonderful women come a rolling in. Learn and be fruitful. 1
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 That's the spirit I'm looking for a wingman if you're interested lol ) Your buddies are wrong, the fact that she isn't with you anymore doesn't make her a bitch. She was a chapter in your life, you shared good times and bad times, but now that chapter is over and you're about to start a new one, make the best of it. Yea, i feel positive, better now. Only thing makes me feel bad is the images of her and new guy doing it on bed, alş sweaty. Ah, blah! Anyway, i hope those images get replaced with new one soon.
Breadimus Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Yea, i feel positive, better now. Only thing makes me feel bad is the images of her and new guy doing it on bed, alş sweaty. Ah, blah! Anyway, i hope those images get replaced with new one soon. This may sound awful and it is but this is how I look at it. When you met this woman she was like a suit from Milan. Just look at it, wow it is perfect, so well made and and the wool is so soft and pure. You wore that suit every day man and it was awesome. But one day it became a crap bomber jacket from the thrift shop, all worn in, moth balled and smelling of damp. This is what the new guy has. You had a suit from Milan ffs, he has a used rubbish bomber jacket. Who wins? You win! Now find another suit. Metaphor finished.
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 This may sound awful and it is but this is how I look at it. When you met this woman she was like a suit from Milan. Just look at it, wow it is perfect, so well made and and the wool is so soft and pure. You wore that suit every day man and it was awesome. But one day it became a crap bomber jacket from the thrift shop, all worn in, moth balled and smelling of damp. This is what the new guy has. You had a suit from Milan ffs, he has a used rubbish bomber jacket. Who wins? You win! Now find another suit. Metaphor finished. God damn, if i was a girl, i would be ashamed.by this metaphor but as a guy, i loved it Awesome man. I love you guys. Cheers to you!
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 You need a life goal mate to make your true passion just pulse with energy. William the Conqueror started off as an absolute nothing. You know what he wanted, England! That is a life goal there, and because he pursued it to the very end of his days he was content and guess what? Women filled his nights just as much as England filled his days. Women do not make you happy, your purpose makes you happy, a wonderful woman adds to your happiness. Forget relationships, find your purpose and strive to reach it. This will make you confident, interesting, attractive and desirable. Watch them wonderful women come a rolling in. Learn and be fruitful. I just read that too. Just awesome motivation. Thank you.
4everalones Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 This may sound awful and it is but this is how I look at it. When you met this woman she was like a suit from Milan. Just look at it, wow it is perfect, so well made and and the wool is so soft and pure. You wore that suit every day man and it was awesome. But one day it became a crap bomber jacket from the thrift shop, all worn in, moth balled and smelling of damp. This is what the new guy has. You had a suit from Milan ffs, he has a used rubbish bomber jacket. Who wins? You win! Now find another suit. Metaphor finished. I know you're trying to help, but WTF is wrong with you!!!!!
Zahara Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Can you ask the psychic to create a spell to make you forget her? 1
KaliLove Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 There's no such thing as a psychic..it's nonsense. You should be way more pissed off at the money you just wasted. Also, she's not perfect. You're putting her on a pedestal because you're coming down off the relationship high. Guess what? She farts. She does stupid stuff. She has bad breath in the morning. She has bad moods. She's human, just like the rest of us.
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 There's no such thing as a psychic..it's nonsense. You should be way more pissed off at the money you just wasted. Also, she's not perfect. You're putting her on a pedestal because you're coming down off the relationship high. Guess what? She farts. She does stupid stuff. She has bad breath in the morning. She has bad moods. She's human, just like the rest of us. Yea, i know physics are frauds but i had to try this silly thing just for fun. And as above poster said, even if it works, i shouldnt use it to get her, but forget her. She never farted near me but i believe she does fart when she is alone
KaliLove Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Yea, i know physics are frauds but i had to try this silly thing just for fun. And as above poster said, even if it works, i shouldnt use it to get her, but forget her. She never farted near me but i believe she does fart when she is alone I'm at least glad the fraud didn't just tell you what you wanted to hear like most of them do. Good fake psychic!
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 I'm at least glad the fraud didn't just tell you what you wanted to hear like most of them do. Good fake psychic! Yea, she told me it is over, ship has sinked, say goodbye
johnson_j Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I'm a "conqueror mentality" too. When last girl broke things off (for an ex, presumably) I just reminded myself of how it all went: *Was sitting in a bar one night, watched three girls walk in. Wanted badly to speak to the middle (gorgeous one), waited almost two hours for that chance, took it, got her phone number (in the middle of the girls convo - very tough), called her, dated her, got to know her, took it to intimacy, plus had lots of good memories that can't be taken away. And a damn good story that I'm proud of, and can do it again.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 NO ONE IS PERFECT - u need to knock her off that pedastal right now... I felt like that too... now Ive rebuilt myself, as u will but she is NO better than u are so get that out of your head x
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