youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I just cant. I even went to physic to read about her. He said, ship has sailed, she is never coming back, she is so happy. Also he said she is very independent and young genious. Damn, she broke up with me because obviously i was not enough for her. I feel so bad and lame and insecure. Hate myself and so angry to her. She is also going to europe for a year. I am sure she will find an awesome guy there and look bacl and say "what was i thinking hanging out with OP?". Ah it is just bad. Have no energy. Lost all focus on work, studies, gym. All i am thinking is she moved on, forgot about me and i somehow disgust her. I just cant get over her. She was perfect.
bluegreen Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Let us do two things first as it is a custom here we offer new comers : HUGS some chocolates and then we go on reading the post while you munch and sniffle little bit . OK all done and lets attack first things first No one on whole earth Above her and under her is Perfect or will ever be EVER. You are all hurt confused angry bitter we been there seen that done that and then some. She is gone you may not accept that today but sooner or later will have to. Lot of us here are willing to help if you are willing to put this behind you? Are you If not keep the chocolates enjoy the hugs and come back when you are ready to start moving on
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Let us do two things first as it is a custom here we offer new comers : HUGS some chocolates and then we go on reading the post while you munch and sniffle little bit . OK all done and lets attack first things first No one on whole earth Above her and under her is Perfect or will ever be EVER. You are all hurt confused angry bitter we been there seen that done that and then some. She is gone you may not accept that today but sooner or later will have to. Lot of us here are willing to help if you are willing to put this behind you? Are you If not keep the chocolates enjoy the hugs and come back when you are ready to start moving on I want to move on but also i am so bitter and obsessed that i did some crazy chit. I paid a physic to make love spell to her so she can come back. I am that crazy right now and i doubt it will work. I want to forget her. It has been 2 months of.NC. I havent contacted her anything, she thinks i moved on and happy but i am not. I want her all lifetime but she doesnt want me.
bluegreen Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 We can take it day by day if you can. And am sure we all did some silly god I would just die if anyone heard thing. Great Job on NC we love hearing that any time. Nope sorry not gonna work but if you help us to help you some realistic progress on your moving on will happen. Well sweetie we'l go on and do fake it until we make it and no one is gonna be wiser about it
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 We can take it day by day if you can. And am sure we all did some silly god I would just die if anyone heard thing. Great Job on NC we love hearing that any time. Nope sorry not gonna work but if you help us to help you some realistic progress on your moving on will happen. Well sweetie we'l go on and do fake it until we make it and no one is gonna be wiser about it If my bitterness is huge, does it mean i am not ready to mmove on? I want to try all spells to get her back, or even blackmail her etc. Damn, what am i even writing? I am losing it. I just cant accept the idea of she will be with someone else and be happy.
TheNoBSBuddhist Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 If my bitterness is huge, does it mean i am not ready to mmove on? I want to try all spells to get her back, or even blackmail her etc. Damn, what am i even writing? I am losing it. I just cant accept the idea of she will be with someone else and be happy. Oh stop it. melodrama does not become you. I expect your family may well be thinking you are over-doing this now. You certainly believe you are. Let me tell you something. You are not in love with her. You are seized obsessively by the desire to love her. She is not your obsession. Having her in your life, is your obsession. But this has become an addiction of such destructive proportions, that it is stronger than you. Really? Something invisible, intangible, imagined and mind-wrought - is stronger than you? Really?? Shame on you for permitting such an obsession to overwhelm your fine, logical and privileged mind. Take a good, long hard look at yourself in the mirror, and tell yourself, firmly: It's time to stop being so ridiculous. Your heart may be broken, but you need to stop hacking at it yourself. That's what is keeping it broken. You. Not her. 2
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 (edited) Oh stop it. melodrama does not become you. I expect your family may well be thinking you are over-doing this now. You certainly believe you are. Let me tell you something. You are not in love with her. You are seized obsessively by the desire to love her. She is not your obsession. Having her in your life, is your obsession. But this has become an addiction of such destructive proportions, that it is stronger than you. Really? Something invisible, intangible, imagined and mind-wrought - is stronger than you? Really?? Shame on you for permitting such an obsession to overwhelm your fine, logical and privileged mind. Take a good, long hard look at yourself in the mirror, and tell yourself, firmly: It's time to stop being so ridiculous. Your heart may be broken, but you need to stop hacking at it yourself. That's what is keeping it broken. You. Not her. She is too perfect to get over with. Studies economics, sings jazz, very social, extremely cute, young genious, loves sex in every position, all night. I miss our good times and pretty sure i wont find anyone like her ever but she will find better. I love her strategic smart moves towards life. She will be very successful one day, even rich. She goes after what she wants, no matter what. Edited April 1, 2014 by youcanever
TheNoBSBuddhist Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 She is too perfect to get over with. Studies economics, sings jazz, very social, extremely cute, young genious, loves sex in every position, all night. I miss our good times and pretty sure i wont find anyone like her ever but she will find better. Nonsense. Nobody is 'too perfect'. I have always found that those who appear perfect often have flaws which others either cannot perceive, or they are extremely adept at hiding. Her talents do not make her 'perfect'. Her talents are merely things she can do. If she were to be a paraplegic, would you still think she was perfect? it is not what a person does that makes then wonderful. it is how a person behaves, that makes them wonderful. And behaviour begins in the mind. Your Mind is badly affected by this disease you have permitted to take hold. You need psychological counselling. Stop making up potions and spells for her, that's just foolish. Find help for yourself. That's wise. 2
David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 What are you waiting for ? Go out and buy a huge basket of red roses, then buy her an engagement ring and go propose to her. Hell knock her dor down if you must, but if she's perfect then do it right now.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 What are you waiting for ? Go out and buy a huge basket of red roses, then buy her an engagement ring and go propose to her. Hell knock her dor down if you must, but if she's perfect then do it right now. I really hope you're being ironic.
David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I really hope you're being ironic. She's not perfect, he put her on that high pedestal and he refuses to kick her down. Like he's addicted to pain or something. OP MAN UP!
lonewalker Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 She's not perfect, he put her on that high pedestal and he refuses to kick her down. Like he's addicted to pain or something. OP MAN UP! Remember the happy times before you met her? There.... can you recall? U dont need her in your life to be happy.
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Nonsense. Nobody is 'too perfect'. I have always found that those who appear perfect often have flaws which others either cannot perceive, or they are extremely adept at hiding. Her talents do not make her 'perfect'. Her talents are merely things she can do. If she were to be a paraplegic, would you still think she was perfect? it is not what a person does that makes then wonderful. it is how a person behaves, that makes them wonderful. And behaviour begins in the mind. Your Mind is badly affected by this disease you have permitted to take hold. You need psychological counselling. Stop making up potions and spells for her, that's just foolish. Find help for yourself. That's wise. I think this is only my ego talking. I need to ****ing calm down. Maybe some pasiflora or something would be nice. My brain is chaotic and all i want to is conquer her heart again. Damn OP!
David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Hey look, I understand where you're coming from. She's perfect in your eyes, but you have to understand that she doesn't want to be with you, that sucks, I know how it feels. My girl was perfect to in my eyes, she looks like a million dollars, she's so beautiful that you can easily say that she came straight from the cover of FHM, she's smart to(has 2 degrees).... she has her own business etc I was happy when we were together, but were not anymore and I have to live with my loses, you should do the same because there's no other choice.
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 She's not perfect, he put her on that high pedestal and he refuses to kick her down. Like he's addicted to pain or something. OP MAN UP! I think i am addicted to pain. Need professional help.
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Hey look, I understand where you're coming from. She's perfect in your eyes, but you have to understand that she doesn't want to be with you, that sucks, I know how it feels. My girl was perfect to in my eyes, she looks like a million dollars, she's so beautiful that you can easily say that she came straight from the cover of FHM, she's smart to(has 2 degrees).... she has her own business etc I was happy when we were together, but were not anymore and I have to live with my loses, you should do the same because there's no other choice. After she dumped you, dont you feel like a loser? It is like she thought you are not enough for her, or you are boring, whatever. And she will look for someone so much better than you, be so happy with that guy and forget you whşle she threw like a garbage. Dont you feel angry to her, dont you want to get revenge, dont you feel ashamed? I know best revenge is living well, but really?
David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I think i am addicted to pain. Need professional help. I'm only trying to help you.. I've been dumped to like most people here. I know how it feels. Sarcasm is optional.
pickflicker Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 What are you waiting for ? Go out and buy a huge basket of red roses, then buy her an engagement ring and go propose to her. Hell knock her dor down if you must, but if she's perfect then do it right now. David...behave 2
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 I'm only trying to help you.. I've been dumped to like most people here. I know how it feels. Sarcasm is optional. I feel like i got dumped because i am a ****ing loser. Never felt more ashamed before.
David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 After she dumped you, dont you feel like a loser? It is like she thought you are not enough for her, or you are boring, whatever. And she will look for someone so much better than you, be so happy with that guy and forget you whşle she threw like a garbage. Dont you feel angry to her, dont you want to get revenge, dont you feel ashamed? I know best revenge is living well, but really? Yes I did feel like a loser but that doesn't mean it was true. She found someone that she thought was better than me, but guess what she broke up with him this saturday. They dated for 3 months .... I dated her 1,5 years.... that can only state that I was way better than him. I don't want to get revange, because all I want is for her to be happy. I understood that she can be happy anymore with me( I can live with that). After her, I dated a lot, with hot beautiful girls and even had my first thresome, that's why my ego is so much better now.
David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 David...behave I will, sorry. But I want him to understand that he's doing this to himself. 1
pickflicker Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I will, sorry. But I want him to understand that he's doing this to himself. I know, I'm just playing OP, come on. No one is perfect. If there is one thing I have learned from 17 to 31, is that the next person I date, is always better than the last. 1
David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I know, I'm just playing OP, come on. No one is perfect. If there is one thing I have learned from 17 to 31, is that the next person I date, is always better than the last. Thank you, that's so true. I haven't found her yet but i know I will. Op you will find your perfect girl to only if you let go of this one. 1
pickflicker Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Thank you, that's so true. I haven't found her yet but i know I will. Op you will find your perfect girl to only if you let go of this one. Key point. OP, you've got to make peace with the past. Otherwise, you're forever comparing potential new partners to the old one. 1
Author youcanever Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Yes I did feel like a loser but that doesn't mean it was true. She found someone that she thought was better than me, but guess what she broke up with him this saturday. They dated for 3 months .... I dated her 1,5 years.... that can only state that I was way better than him. I don't want to get revange, because all I want is for her to be happy. I understood that she can be happy anymore with me( I can live with that). After her, I dated a lot, with hot beautiful girls and even had my first thresome, that's why my ego is so much better now. You are in a perfect mindset. Wish i have that one as well.
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