Victoriadouglas Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 (edited) I've starting dating a lovely man. It started very unexpectedly as a one night stand at a mutual friends wedding. It is completely out of character for me to go home with a stranger but there was just something about him. After I great night I expected never to hear from him again which I was ok with. But on the Tuesday following he called me up and asked me out to dinner for Saturday night. He chose a very nice restaurant. I met him at his house where we had a drink first. He had clearly put a lot of effort into the presentation of his house and even admitted he was really nervous. We had a lovely dinner (he paid though I offered to split) went for drinks after and spent the night together again. The following day we went out for breakfast then Wandering around the local markets. We just get along so well. The next Wednesday I was having dinner at a restaurant near his house so I suggested we meet for a drink after. So we did and I stayed over again. During the drink we talked about doing something the up coming weekend. My friends had been going on at dinner what a good cook I was so he suggested I cook for him on the Saturday night which I happily agreed. It was another great night and he slept over. He shows all signs of affection when we are together, not just all about sex. In fact the sex is never assumed. It just happens. The next day we went for breakfast again then he had to go to work. He works weekends. He asked what I was doing later that day. Later on he called me and asked me if I was free and did I want to come meet him and one of his close friends for a drink. So I did. Again we had a good time and went back to his house after but this time I didn't stay the night. I'm so conscious not to overstay my welcome. I was in a very dysfunctional relationship prior to this where I didn't even meet any of his friends or his family. Does this seem normal? Where do I go from here? I had suggested to him yesterday maybe we could go to a local restaurant for dinner. He texted me later but didn't mention dinner. It's now Tuesday. I want to see him this weekend but I don't want to seem clingy. Do I contact him later in the week and ask him out? Or do I wait for him to ask me out? How often can I text him without seeming needy? Am I over thinking this? I'm 36 and divorced 3 years. Had one boyfriend since then and he treated me badly and made me self doubt myself. Edited April 1, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
smackie9 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Relax and just enjoy what you have whether its for the long or short term. this guy has been wonderful to you, its obvious he finds you special. Nothing wrong with giving it a day of two before making plans again. Just remember to flirt, be mysterious, and make this time of getting to know one another fun.
Mrin Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Ya I would just say relax and let it come naturally. You guys are off to a great start. And aside from not having plans right now everything could be just fine. Heck, for all you know the dude basically is clearing his calendar to make sure you have ample time together. Men are usually poorer planners and today is Monday. Most men only think a few days in a advance anyhow. Have fun!
angel.eyes Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 He seems genuinely interested in you. It's natural to be anxious early on, but I would try to relax. You offered a suggestion for the next date. I would leave it up to him to get back to you on that. 2
Author Victoriadouglas Posted April 4, 2014 Author Posted April 4, 2014 Thanks everyone. He texted me on Tuesday and set up a date for Saturday night. Wednesday night he called me for a chat as well (first time he has called me just to say HI) so I'm going to keep positive and not let the low self esteem I suffer as a result of my last relationship affect me. I appreciate all your positive comments never thought I'd be this nervous dating at 36! 1
Poppygoodwill Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 He initiates, he follows up, he shows appreciation, you enjoy his company, he shows up when he said he would...so far it's picture perfect. You've got nothing to worry about - except perhaps falling too fast for him. Be sure to remember that in the dating scene now - at least in north america - you aren't exclusive until you have 'the chat' and make it official. People often have online profiles and are seeing many people, or in contact with many, at once. So don't assume anything until you actually discuss it. But that comes down the road a ways. Enjoy it.
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