nais Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Have an old friend who will be local in a month- I mentioned this to my MM he does not want us to meet. He feels it will be a sexual encounter - he has seen confirmation of the other persons feelings regarding this meeting. My accounts are open for my MM to read, He has had this access for the last 3 years during that time my OM option was MIA. The OM option was in a relationship at the time but is now single. OM option stated they have been away serving their country for lack of a better term. He will not be local for long, but on this trip he wants to see me. I want to meet up- for an opportunity to go out, spend time doing something with someone who can take me places with no issues until wee hours of the morning. I had an option to let the relationship with MM go earlier this year, neither one of us wanted it to remain over. Even now I don't want it to end, but if things go there with OM option it will be over. I am aware of what I need to do-I have begun to withdraw as of today, wish I did not have to when I have been trying to convince my MM to allow me some space with a situation he should find ok. sigh- venting for once in the forum.
Sub Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 If I'm reading this correctly, the MM you're having an A with has access to your email account, and he doesn't want you to see another man who's currently single? You shouldn't need to convince this guy you need space. He's married. You should see whoever you want, especially somebody single. 1
Author nais Posted March 31, 2014 Author Posted March 31, 2014 I'm not going to fight this battle- its a conflict of egos. I told the option I made a decision and I am sticking with it. I made him aware that I was interested but I had an opportunity earlier this year that would have allowed me the freedom to be with anyone if I so wanted- I chose to be with MM ... somewhat angry right now- Might be a war- but they can eek it out, i'm not going to be made to choose. Winner takes it all-
Author nais Posted March 31, 2014 Author Posted March 31, 2014 If I'm reading this correctly, the MM you're having an A with has access to your email account, and he doesn't want you to see another man who's currently single? You shouldn't need to convince this guy you need space. He's married. You should see whoever you want, especially somebody single. That would be the direct method- not an option in me. I am going to see how this hashes out, I am looking for something in this situation. If it does not occur, I feel I will be closer to some sort of resolution
Popsicle Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Meet the other guy if you want to. It's unlikely that MM is going to leave his marriage anyway. 2
Author nais Posted March 31, 2014 Author Posted March 31, 2014 Meet the other guy if you want to. It's unlikely that MM is going to leave his marriage anyway. Pop I know he isn't- he has said as much. The fight is in me to stay or go, I have to decide one way or another what I want to do. I just decided to love him as he is- no pressure from me to choose anything- I wouldn't want someone I had to make leave anyway, kind of defeats the point somehow. my process now is to discover-
Popsicle Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Pop I know he isn't- he has said as much. The fight is in me to stay or go, I have to decide one way or another what I want to do. I just decided to love him as he is- no pressure from me to choose anything- I wouldn't want someone I had to make leave anyway, kind of defeats the point somehow. my process now is to discover- That's right. You should open yourself up to new opportunities and experiences.
Author nais Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 That's right. You should open yourself up to new opportunities and experiences. Had to hear that I might be blocking my blessings. tired of guessing- keeping hope alive. Why can it not simply land in my face and steal me away- I have to guess upon what blessing I might be blocking? any way- its done. I have decided, people feel they pressured me to choose, I can make decisions. not fighting, its no longer apropos 1
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