David87 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 So, saturday was a very weird day for me, I don't know why. I guess it started friday night when I dreamed my ex. I woke up very disorientated, went to have my usual coffee, when it struck me to get a tattoo. ...( I didn't because the tattoo parlor was full) The whole day I felt like I'm lost or something, I had a couple of drinks with my friends and went to bed early. But before that I found out, by accident, that my ex, who dumped me 4 months ago is single..... It's a strange feeling because I knew that's she's ok and happy, but obviously she wasn't. The worst part is yet to come .... she will find a new boyfriend soon and I have to get used to the idea, again...
mtnbiker3000 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 At least she didn't have one before she broke up with you. AND, at least you didn't get a ridiculous tattoo. 3
Author David87 Posted March 31, 2014 Author Posted March 31, 2014 Almost forgot. Last night I was at a car meeting down town. My ex passed by when one of my stupid friends whistled after her. Luckily she didn't saw me but she saw my car....
TheUnthoughtKnown Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 So, saturday was a very weird day for me, I don't know why. I guess it started friday night when I dreamed my ex. I woke up very disorientated, went to have my usual coffee, when it struck me to get a tattoo. ...( I didn't because the tattoo parlor was full) The whole day I felt like I'm lost or something, I had a couple of drinks with my friends and went to bed early. But before that I found out, by accident, that my ex, who dumped me 4 months ago is single..... It's a strange feeling because I knew that's she's ok and happy, but obviously she wasn't. The worst part is yet to come .... she will find a new boyfriend soon and I have to get used to the idea, again... Tattoos just after a break up are a bad idea! You see the lyrics I've quoted in my signature? I was going to get that tattooed on my arm as a reminder that my feelings for my ex won't last forever. My friend then pointed out that if I got the tattoo because of her I would always be reminded of her whenever I looked at it. That was a very fair point so I opted against it. I'd still like to get it done but only when I'm confident it means something more to me than just a reflection of my relationship with her, as its one of my very favourite lyrics. As to your ex, yeah she'll get a bf, and you'll get a gf. That's just part of life. You'll both move on eventually and in time it won't bother you at all. I used to be concerned that my ex would have sex with other guys and it angered me to imagine that, but when I started having sex with other girls again I realised it would be hypocritical of me to move on and expect her not to. 1
Author David87 Posted March 31, 2014 Author Posted March 31, 2014 Hey thanks really appreciate your reply, but the tattoo thing has nothing to do with my ex and the fact that she's single now, I wanted to do it before i found out. I'm ok now, I don't want her back. I'm fine don't get me wrong , I know that we weren't made for each other.
Weallwalkthelongroad Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Tattoos just after a break up are a bad idea! You see the lyrics I've quoted in my signature? I was going to get that tattooed on my arm as a reminder that my feelings for my ex won't last forever. My friend then pointed out that if I got the tattoo because of her I would always be reminded of her whenever I looked at it. That was a very fair point so I opted against it. I'd still like to get it done but only when I'm confident it means something more to me than just a reflection of my relationship with her, as its one of my very favourite lyrics. As to your ex, yeah she'll get a bf, and you'll get a gf. That's just part of life. You'll both move on eventually and in time it won't bother you at all. I used to be concerned that my ex would have sex with other guys and it angered me to imagine that, but when I started having sex with other girls again I realised it would be hypocritical of me to move on and expect her not to. Love the PJ quote. Fantastic! 1
Omei Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 I love tats they're great I have a few, go ahead get one have fun! Pick something you can live with but doooo NOT make it a tat towards any relationship meaning, ever! but I see you already stated it won't be so good ! How is it you can find out about her life still? Whatever source is giving you the info get rid of it! 2
Haydn Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 I have a nice tatt David. Just the one though. You should not worry if she is single, push on and meet a new girl. I am sure you will. You are cool guy with a good sense of humour and you look after your friends. If i was gay you would get my vote. But i am not so we can just hug as only straight men know how. Take care friend. 1
tlegend Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I hope you're doing good David. Keep your head up. On the tattoo note, the only phrase I've been thinking of lately is a "Molon Labe" tattoo in Greek which encapsulates the defiance of the Spartan society against impossible odds. The literal translation is "Come and take", but it is inferred to mean "Come and take them" because he replied this answer when the Persians asked the Spartans to give them their weapons as a sign of surrender. However, for the idiots who believe that tattoo means nothing more than to "come and take" my weapons, they are poorly misguided. Anyone who refers to the constitutional right to bear arms and refers to "Molon Labe" unfortunately has no idea what that phrase really meant. It meant, in mine and others opinions, that "Molon Labe" is the ultimate sign of love. Even in the face of impossible odds, I will defend and protect those I cherish and love, and I will defeat or die to my enemies who come to harm them. Come to hurt someone I love and want me to give up my way to defend against you? Molon Labe baby. I'm very sorry I went rambling on about Molon Labe. It's just always struck a nerve with me about the depth of that tiny phrase. 1
Author David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 I love tats they're great I have a few, go ahead get one have fun! Pick something you can live with but doooo NOT make it a tat towards any relationship meaning, ever! but I see you already stated it won't be so good ! How is it you can find out about her life still? Whatever source is giving you the info get rid of it! I wanted to do a nautical star, because i'm fascinated about ships and ocean liners , pretty much everything that something to do with oceans and seas. I'm still friends on fb with her mother and brother. I'm not speaking to them. But after the relationship failed her mother started to like my every post on fb. I have a nice tatt David. Just the one though. You should not worry if she is single, push on and meet a new girl. I am sure you will. You are cool guy with a good sense of humour and you look after your friends. If i was gay you would get my vote. But i am not so we can just hug as only straight men know how. Take care friend. thank you for the kind words Haydn, I think I will be single for a wery long time because the next girl that I'm going to start a serious relationship with has to be pretty awesome from all points of view to get my attention. I think it's a good thing because i haven't been single like this from the time I was 22 years old. It's a perfect time to reinvent myself, I started to go to the gym like crazy, I go jogging almost everyday and I have more time for my family who I neglected over the last few years. Thanx Tlegend, I just love tattoos and everything about them especially girls with tattoos
Omei Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 David its unhealthy to keep those contacts not only because it stunts healing but years down the road yours and hers you'll have different paths maybe even your own family's and having them on fb will be quite odd they may not have deleted or stopped talking to you yet but one day you will find they have moved on along with their family member and defriend you, might as well just do it yourself and make that step towards moving on keeping them there in their eyes when they remove you that one day they will self think "that's a bit creepy" years later. Don't be the creepy boy 2
martaldn Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I have got the only tattoo I have just after my split with my very serious boyfriend and I have never regretted it. The post split was awful but the tattoo remember me the good times we had together and I still love it ( the tattoo ) very much. I have "FEEL" written on my right wirst. It is also the name of a song of Robbie Williams which is also one of my favorite singer so, it can have multiples interpretations I like the sailor star you should go for it where do you want to have it? 1
Author David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Hey Martaldn, haven't heard from you in awhile, hope you're ok. I have an appointment this week. But I'm not sure where to put it, my leg, my arm etc. Anyway will see. (((hugs)))
martaldn Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Hey Martaldn, haven't heard from you in awhile, hope you're ok. I have an appointment this week. But I'm not sure where to put it, my leg, my arm etc. Anyway will see. (((hugs))) Hello David, I am always here.. reading mostly I am much better now.. 20 days NC! hope you will get a cool tattoo! 1
Author David87 Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Hello David, I am always here.. reading mostly I am much better now.. 20 days NC! hope you will get a cool tattoo! How time passes by, 20 days NC..... I'm proud of you. 1
martaldn Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 How time passes by, 20 days NC..... I'm proud of you. thank U! :) 1
Author David87 Posted April 4, 2014 Author Posted April 4, 2014 David its unhealthy to keep those contacts not only because it stunts healing but years down the road yours and hers you'll have different paths maybe even your own family's and having them on fb will be quite odd they may not have deleted or stopped talking to you yet but one day you will find they have moved on along with their family member and defriend you, might as well just do it yourself and make that step towards moving on keeping them there in their eyes when they remove you that one day they will self think "that's a bit creepy" years later. Don't be the creepy boy Yeah you're right, I unfriended her family members
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