StGeorge22 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 I know I shouldn't. I've been NC for about a month since finding out she is seeing someone (an old friend who she swears she was just friends with) after leading me on all of last year. Telling me she still wants to be with me, let's do councelling, then boom late last year I find out she is moving states to be with this guy. I've made some pretty good progress, dated plenty of girls and am just trying to focus on myself. But lately I've been tempted to message her (although I've deleted her number and blocked on fb so I don't really have a way of doing it anyway) just to have a to at her because I'm angry. I know I won't, because there will be nothing gained, but I'm just still really mad. This natural? Anyone else feel the same?
notthathard Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Yep the angry phase. You will jump in an out of it before you fully recover. You will slowly get less and less mad. It might seem like it wont go away but it does . If you contact her/she contacts you then you will be set back and be right back where you are now in a short time. Stay where you at and your thoughts of her will be less and less soon enough. This is my experience anyway. 1
Economist70 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 I'm going to be unconventional and say do it. My girlfriend dumped me, said she wanted to be friends, moved states and continued to text my friends and not me. As wrong as I know it was to do, sending messages detailing exactly how I felt (Sometimes mad, sometimes angry) her way made me feel closure in a sense. Like at least everything was on the table and she knew how I was feeling.
Author StGeorge22 Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Was deleting a heap of emails today and found some from her from November telling me she still loved me, doesn't want to lose me and isn't sure about the move. 5 days later I busted her going to this guys Christmas party that she denied. Really don't know how someone can play 2 people like that!
TheNoBSBuddhist Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Quit eating crap and chewing it. It does you no good, is indigestible and leaves a nasty taste in your mouth. It almost sounds as if people seek things with which to hurt themselves. Why do people do this? Why go over old rubbish which just unearths a rotting corpse? Bury it, leave it, let it rot in peace.
Author StGeorge22 Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Fair call, didn't seek it out, deleted all the emails ages ago but was going thru my sent items to find an email I sent to my accountant and saw. But I take your point! Just venting
Audieme Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Hang on to NC for dear life. You break it, you start over. You're already a month in. You want to do that month again? Progress. 1
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