kgreatie Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 (edited) May seem like a short amount of time, but I'm so sick of crying every day and having some huge void in my life that I can't ignore. My ex of 11 months dumped me almost 6 weeks ago and it devastated me. It was unexpected and he fell out of love with me. I thought he was my soulmate, and I loved him and was in love with him more than anything I had ever known. I feel like nothing is working out for me ever since he left. He hardly cares about how much pain he put me in, he suddenly doesn't want me back and it kills me. I remember things about him and stuff we used to do every single day. I want everything back so bad. I'm trying to go out and meet new guys, but I can't even make a connection because he's still on my mind all the time. Ever since I got dumped I've had really awful anxiety, I wake up with a pounding heart at night and start crying about how no one will ever love me again and I'll never find someone again. I'm so scared and I can't take it anymore, I lost everything 6 weeks ago and I still feel that way Don't get me wrong, I've been going out with friends alot, I started going to the gym, meditating, spirituality, and getting a new pet but in the back of my mind... it's still there. Edited March 30, 2014 by kgreatie
bk89 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 My gf and I of 11 months broke up almost 6 weeks ago as well. We have been constantly fighting since then and she doesn't want to ever hear from me again. It seems so weird going from waking up next to her every day for almost a year to not even being able to speak. She took me off facebook, changed her phone number (she had her phone under my plan I wasn't harassing her) and is talking to all my friends like nothing happened telling them she wants me to be happy but never wants to speak to me again in her life. We had a major fallout and it sucks because I can't get the thought of her moving on with someone else out of my head, someone else please her in bed. She is such a beautiful woman that she can have any man she wants. We were living together in NYC and I decided to move out and go back upstate to get my mind off things. It's been 6 weeks almost and I cry every day, I wake up at 5 am and it all hits me all of a sudden. It has been extremely tough and a huge void has been created which I cannot begin to fill. It truly sucks and everyone keeps telling me to keep busy but I just don't have the energy to... I'm there with you
notthathard Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 6 weeks is nothing even for the strongest people, especially the people who didn't see it coming (or were blinded by love). I feel like nothing is working out for me ever since he left. Yes because your whole world came crashing down before your eyes when he broke it with you. Your thought process is making you see only bad things in your life at the moment. He hardly cares about how much pain he put me in, he suddenly doesn't want me back and it kills me. I remember things about him and stuff we used to do every single day. I want everything back so bad. I'm trying to go out and meet new guys, but I can't even make a connection because he's still on my mind all the time. I think you just learned how selfish one can be when in a relationship. At the same time see it from his view.. would you stay with someone you are not happy being with? Just to make yourself unhappy to make the other one happy? Don't rush to meeting new guys, give yourself sometime to recover/heal.
Never Again Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 I think you just learned how selfish one can be when in a relationship. At the same time see it from his view.. would you stay with someone you are not happy being with? Just to make yourself unhappy to make the other one happy? I'd like to spin this another way to the OP to drive it home further. He was once happy with you. Things felt good and awesome. Then, things slowly stopped feeling that way and he became unhappy. Now, this can happen with ANYONE. The trick is, when you become unhappy, you say something and try to fix it. If it doesn't get fixed, you leave. So, either he was unhappy and tried to fix things and they didn't get better...or he was unhappy and never opened his mouth and let things stay that way until he couldn't take it any longer. Either way, the relationship got to the point where it had to end. If he openly communicated, then you cannot hold it against him. If he didn't, then he's a wuss and bailed without giving you a chance.
Author kgreatie Posted March 31, 2014 Author Posted March 31, 2014 I'd like to spin this another way to the OP to drive it home further. He was once happy with you. Things felt good and awesome. Then, things slowly stopped feeling that way and he became unhappy. Now, this can happen with ANYONE. The trick is, when you become unhappy, you say something and try to fix it. If it doesn't get fixed, you leave. So, either he was unhappy and tried to fix things and they didn't get better...or he was unhappy and never opened his mouth and let things stay that way until he couldn't take it any longer. Either way, the relationship got to the point where it had to end. If he openly communicated, then you cannot hold it against him. If he didn't, then he's a wuss and bailed without giving you a chance. I literally didn't see it coming, he said he couldn't see a future with me and he never gave me a reason why. He didn't wanna fix it. I'm still so confused and devastated, someone who loved me so much just randomly gave up on me.
Simplysimon Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 We all go thru it love and it last as long as we allow it to. You will get there your young.
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