stephwill Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Last night he was out with his friends and i was home. He called me when he was finished hanging out with his friends but my phone was on silent and i was sleeping. I forgot that my phone was on silent before I had fallen asleep. He called em multiple times, but i didn't see his calls until i woke up the next morning. This morning I texted him saying that my phone was on silent, which he assumed, and that i was very sorry. So, earlier today i asked him what he was doing later on in the day and he didn't respond to my text then i called him and he didn't answer. so, i sent him a text about an hour later asking why he was ignoring me and he responded saying he's isn't ignoring me and he doesn't know what he's doing later. So then i texted back asking him to return my phone call since he isn't ignoring me. He didn't respond to that text or call me back. Last night around 1:00 am, he texted saying "is your phone still on silent?" after ignoring my phone call early in the afternoon. I responded by saying "grow up man." He didn't respond after that. He's 26 years old and i'm 24. This is ridiculous. what to do in this situation?
soccerrprp Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 You may have escalated it a little more than you intended b/c you were (are) RIGHTFULLY perturbed about your bf's behavior. He was being a baby...wait for him to contact you or after you cool down, let it go. You made your point, no?
Eggplant Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 This is a major red flag. To succeed long-term in a relationship, people need to have advanced conflict resolution skills, as well as some ability to forgive. This person has the conflict resolution skills of a 6-year-old, and it's going to get tiring carrying all the burden of maturity and dealing with that over the years. Major red flag. It's also controlling and passive-aggressive. Does he need to know where you are and with whom every second of the day? I know all about that. It's not good.
preraph Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 I think you just found out something about your BF that it's just as well you found out now as later. He's controlling and jealous and retaliatory. So now you know, let him go and find someone more secure who won't give you a lifetime of problems. After all, it was him who was out. All you were doing is sleeping. He doesn't need to be checking up on you in the middle of the night.
TB Rhine Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 She's being at least as immature as he is. He may (or may not) have been ignoring her calls in retaliation for her "ignoring" his, but I'd say there's reason to doubt that - he seemed to react reasonably enough when she initially told him what was up, after all. It seems like the OP launched into accusing him of ignoring her pretty quickly, which may have prompted his petty remark later on.
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