Don't know .

[Inthehead123]

This might be a bit long, but I genuinely need help.

 

I'm 22 yr old male I have suffered from extreme anxiety and paranoia since I was 20. It stems from to much drug use in my teenage years and **** I have seen and been through in my life. I have barely left the house for the past 2 years pretty much isolated myself from the world. I finally had enough of it and told myself to stop being a bitch and start living life. So I decided to go to Uni, Things have been great finally starting to get over my anxiety and paranoid thoughts and living a normal life again. But my anxiety is still lingering.

 

I ended up meeting this girl, She is beautiful in every possible way. She is the only thing in the world that makes me happy, but she also make me miserable. She showed a lot of interest in me when we first met, but my anxiety and paranoia stopped me from making a move. I haven't even asked her for her number yet ffs, Makes me feel so ****ing pathetic and ****ed in the head.

 

As time has gone on I still haven't found the courage to tell her how I feel or even ask for her number. I still see her everyday I am at uni and she still talks to me and approaches but she isn't the same as she was when we first met. She has started to show a lot of mixed signals. Flirting with other men in front of me, which causes me to get jealous as ****. Some days she is all over me, just talks to me and doesn't pay any attention to anyone else and other days she barely speaks 2 words to me. She also is starting to get nervous when we are alone together working on something or just talking in general which she never did when we first met, which makes me nervous then I start acting like a nervous weirdo. I'm worried I have lost my chance and have waited to long. It kills me inside that I haven't done anything about this it annoys me that the simple things people do are so hard for me at the age of 22.

 

My questions is should I just get over her and stop talking to her completely? Because its really not healthy for my mental health at the moment. The other option is to stop being a bitch and tell her my situation and how i feel about her but my anxiety and paranoia that she would reject me mainly because the way she has been acting lately has been mind ****ing me.

 

I really don't know what to do.

[AntiSocal]

You need to stop acting like a little bitch period.

 

You are 22. Way too young AND way too old to be "falling in love" with girls that you barely even know. Shes the only girl that even talks to you, and you immediately put her on this pedestal and start talking about how perfect she is. Lolwut? You serious mate?

 

GROW UP. Stop falling in love with every chick who smiles @ you and putting them on pedestals. If you go into the relationship with that mindset you WILL get dumped everytime. Girls are just like guys, they want a man who has options, a man who they have to work to get. Not a man whose gonna fall and kiss their feet because they started a conversation with him.

 

So just ask her for her number. Lie if you need to. Say "Hey, can i get your number? We should hangout. I woulda asked you earlier but i had this crazy stage 4 clinger girlfriend, shes gone now though" After you get her number JUST HANGOUT WITH HER. Don't try to define the relationship, or tell her how much you like her, or be super affectionate towards her, or suck up to her. Just be yourself, hangout with her, let things run their course.

 

And if she is talking to other guys? Talk to other girls. You should be flirting with every single girl in your classes. Every single one. Get to know all of them before the semester is over and take out as many as you can.

 

And one more thing, I'm sure i'll receive hate for this but who cares, be careful about going out with girls who will approach you first. A girl that bold tends to be kinda flighty. If she hits on you you're not the only guy shes hit on. That means shes gonna have a lot of other options and will probably hit on the next guy she thinks is cute. Jus sayin.