animalihavebecome Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Long story short there's a girl who I'm madly in love with and she had a boyfriend who was a dick to her well after their 3rd break up I decided it was time for me to confess what I rely felt for her (we're really close friends) to my dissapointment her answer was that she did have feelings for me but she didn't want to ruin our friendship we stayed friends and we were still as close as ever but then about after a month she brought it up again she said she had thought about it and decided that I was the only guy who genuinely cared about her and had always been there for her and that she actually did want to be with me. That was the best news I could possibly hear and that day was the happiest day of my life but she did say she didn't want to go out right away that first she wanted to get used to us being more than friends so it wouldn't be awkward. So we started going out on dates we went to parties, i took her out to eat, to the movies, bowling, mall we pretty much went to every place possible and I went over to her house every weekend her parents met me and before I knew it my heart had completely fallen for her the highlights of my week were the days I was with her pretty much that was all I would look forward to, being able to be with her. so its been about 2 months since we started being "more than friends" and I invited her to a wedding as my date and I had planned to ask her out officially that night but about a week before the wedding her friend texted me saying that she had come to her asking for advice because her ex had come back and wanted to get back together and she was rely confused about her feelings. The past 3 times this guy had broken up with her he had gone on a dating spree dating every girl he could find before finally going back to her. Her friend told her that she was crazy to even have to make a choice because he wasn't worth her time but she was rely stubborn about it saying he was the love of her life and stuff so that was on a Friday night and on monday I show up to school and I look for her to meet up with her before school like we usually do but when I do find her I see she's talking with none other than her ex so call me a stalker if you want but I keep watch and after about 15 minutes of talking they finally kissed and I just sat there I didn't know what to do the rest of the day was a struggle not to break down in class I haven't talked to her since then all I do is ignore her texts and sleep all day I feel used I feel worthless part of me wants to go up to her boyfriend and give him a beating and completely erase her from my life but the other part of me wants her to stay in my life I just love her so much and I don't know what to do
soccerrprp Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 animalihavebecome, she is damaged. she is emotionally unreliable. you don't want to be with a woman like her. she is unhealthy and will disappoint you as long as her ex is accessible. she may think that she is in love, but it sounds more like co-dependency. she has little respect for herself and this is self-destructive. YOU DON'T WANT SOMEONE LIKE HER to bring you down too. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 First learn to use paragraphs & spell. Second, understand that it's her choice. You however, have to make it clear to her. You or him. Fair warning: although you are the better choice, she's going to pick him because he's the one she can't have. When she picks him, remind yourself that she's an idiot & go on to a woman who appreciates you.
Woggle Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Find a woman who isn't addicted to drama. Trying to be her knight in shining armor will bring nothing good to your life.
Author animalihavebecome Posted March 30, 2014 Author Posted March 30, 2014 Sorry about the miss spelling, its hard writing something long using a phone. Anyways thanks for the replies everyone, I appreciate it
Noproblem Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Honestly, such people I don't respect them as friends nor as lovers. To get back again to that guy! Really! To play you like this? Really!!!!!!! I'm glad you are ignoring her, delete her from your heart. Go find another girl who will make you happy! Not her! I'm also so sad for what happened, but stay strong, betray your heart and listen to your mind, Ok!
Goldenbrwn Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Because her ex is a dick she is more attracted to him. Gives her the up and down roller coaster of emotions that make her addicted to him. Especially during that period where he is dating every girl he can find and she gets to hear stories about it. When they break up again she will probably start trying to feel you out again and want you guys to be friends like before so she can have you for emotional support. When that time comes be a bigger dick to her than this guy was. Then you may get a night of sex to remember her by but no matter what happens don't consider her a serious option for a relationship.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 I'm sorry you're in this situation OP. But I would keep my distance from her. It sounds more like you're her back-up/security net when things with her ex don't work out. However big of jerk he is, he is her number one. She isn't ready to let go of him yet. I would dramatically reduce contact with her. Protect your heart from here on out. Don't give it to her.
mema1982 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 1.YOU DID ALL THE MISTAKES TO STAY IN THE FRIENDS ZONE WITH HER 2.I would suggest you to forget about her and move on....!!! i can give you allot of tips to make her crawl back to you and want you but don't know if she's worth the effort.... 3.If you still want to know how make her want you then just PM me and i'll be happy to help you.. GOOD LUCK
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