ScaredAlien2 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 I'm doing ok, out in Cali on a much needed trip away from everything. Posting in here, etc. Just now, I get the first breadcrumb. All it says is "hii" like she used to text me. My hearts pounding. I deleted it LS, I deleted it despite everything in my body telling me not to. I'm still debating. Shiiiiit, help. Look up my other threads, I should hate this girl for how she treated me. Screw you emotions I hate you sometimes 1
iDrumKing Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Keep it up. Fight the urges dude seriously. I know it's hard as hell, but you can't give away your power. 2
elseaacych Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 (edited) Alien. You deserve a standing ovation for that. It's so tough to ignore the bait. If you find yourself wondering again: remember, this is the person who took your heart, ripped it into little pieces, and then stomped all over it. And all she can say is "Hii?" No. Not good enough. You deserve better. Go hang out with some friends if you can (best). If you need to, go treat yourself and watch a movie at the movie theater. Gotta turn off your cell phone there. Stay busy and let it pass. This too shall pass. Edited March 30, 2014 by elseaacych 3
Author ScaredAlien2 Posted March 30, 2014 Author Posted March 30, 2014 This too shall pass. Indeed she's cruel, I deserve better. She sent another shortly after: "I just finished my 3rd shift (I helped her gain confidence to nail the interview, coached her, was there for her). I wanted to thank you for that. Without you I wouldn't have the confidence I do now. Thank you" Multiple explicatives are running through my head!!!!! Shnsejakknsgjalahbrr. Blah
WYSWYG Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 If your decisive enough, block her# on your phone. Ignorance is a bliss. Your still attached, she probably knows that as well but you don't know how genuine she is after the BU. If you answer and continue, chances are, she'll win you back and the vicious cycle w/ her will repeat itself. Do you want that again? I'd say stay NC while your far away. Enjoy your trip and distract yourself well in Cali. In time when you're over her, you will have clarity and likely a better judge whether it's worth another shot.
iDrumKing Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 This too shall pass. Indeed she's cruel, I deserve better. She sent another shortly after: "I just finished my 3rd shift (I helped her gain confidence to nail the interview, coached her, was there for her). I wanted to thank you for that. Without you I wouldn't have the confidence I do now. Thank you" Multiple explicatives are running through my head!!!!! Shnsejakknsgjalahbrr. Blah She's not giving you breadcrumbs, she straight up giving you the toast! Ignore indeed!
lioness84 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Had to look up your first post, the fact that she cheated on you is disturbing and her audacity to contact you in such a callous way is just too easy. Watch out, you're doing so well. 2
Simon Phoenix Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 She cheated on you? Yeah, her communicating with you like that is completely inappropriate. Block, block, block.
Mr.Pine Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 She sent another shortly after: "I just finished my 3rd shift. I wanted to thank you for that. Without you I wouldn't have the confidence I do now. Thank you" Alien, There's really nothing to respond to. It's not an open ended conversation nor is it a conversation starter. She's thanking you for helping her out. BFD. Negative breadcrumb. Nothing to see here. Please move along...
Chi townD Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 DUDE!!!! You're in Sunny California!!! Turn the phone off and go to the clubs and see the sites! Find some girls that are wearing way to much makeup and not too much clothes and fake boobs and dance with them! She probably found out you're in Cali and wants to know why you're out there. Have a beer and soak in the surf and sun! Don't let her ruin a damn nice trip FOR YOURSELF!! 2
Author ScaredAlien2 Posted March 30, 2014 Author Posted March 30, 2014 Your all very right, as much as I want to respond I won't. Deleted and it's like it never happened. I'm definitely still attached it's been only a week and a half since the bu, one week Nc till now. She's a manipulator and that's all I took it as, she knows my weaknesses. Haha not this time! 2
Author ScaredAlien2 Posted March 30, 2014 Author Posted March 30, 2014 DUDE!!!! You're in Sunny California!!! Turn the phone off and go to the clubs and see the sites! Find some girls that are wearing way to much makeup and not too much clothes and fake boobs and dance with them! She probably found out you're in Cali and wants to know why you're out there. Have a beer and soak in the surf and sun! Don't let her ruin a damn nice trip FOR YOURSELF!! So right, this isn't gonna get in the way of my good time! I'm out! Surfing in the am. Thanks everyone 1
WYSWYG Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 So right, this isn't gonna get in the way of my good time! I'm out! Surfing in the am. Thanks everyone yeah man, paddling out is great therapy...
noob_saibot Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 man i went through this exact same thing, dont reply, not at all, i know its tempting , but the moment you do, she will ignore you for another week and send you another bread crumb. best think to do, wait until she snaps. shell break. when she wants you back, she will be on her knees begging. dont take the bread crumb, wait until she throws the whole loaf
DannyCA Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 You're doing good man. You have self-control that not too many people do. Don't lose that. She made her bed, let her sleep in it and be happy doing your own thing!
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