EducatingGreco Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 ...it been 3 months since we had our falling out. I apologized back then, but it had fallen on deaf ears due to her (rightfully so) being sick of my ****. I attempted a few more times back then to meet up to discuss hat had happened, but she would ignore the invitation texts. She would only respond to the Merry Xmas and Happy New Years texts. She is still following me on FB and IG. Even liking a couple of things I posted on FB. Other than new years, I have not contacted her other than a couple of weeks ago, her dog was stolen from a park and I contacted her to see how I could help. I ended up posting the dog online to various local online communitites which eventually lead to the dog being safely returned home. During the 24hr search period she was voluntarily bringing me up to date on the status of the dog search. Fortunately the dog was returned andshe thanked me via text and said it meant a lot to her. We left at that and I didn't try to make small chat. I have been missing her like crazy and have done a tone of self reflection on myself to repair the mistakes that I had made that lead up to our falling out 3 months ago. Although her FB status still says she is single, I am under the impression she has been hanging out with one guy a lot in particular. I want to invite her out to talk about things, but not in an over the top emotional heavy way as I dont think thats a good idea, but I don't know whether to just call OR text and invite her out.....and what do I invite her out to? A mid day quick coffee date or should I invite her out for dinner and make a night out of it? Sorry for the long post, I'm a semi-detailed guy and want to get the right kind of advice! Thanks to all and here's hoping you all get your deserved second chance!
BC1980 Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Did she dump you? If so, I wouldn't suggest asking her out at all, especially not to discuss things. Why do you think she would want to rehash what happened?
Author EducatingGreco Posted March 29, 2014 Author Posted March 29, 2014 Did she dump you? If so, I wouldn't suggest asking her out at all, especially not to discuss things. Why do you think she would want to rehash what happened? Thanks for your reply! It was a fight that I wrongfully started and it ended badly. At the time I was ok with it only to reavaluate the situation with friends and realize just what kind of mistake I had made. Always easier seeing it from the outside in. I don't necassarily want to ask her out to discuss dating again, but rather to ask her out to thank her for being the great kind of quality woman that she is because in doing so she has taught me a valuable lesson and I have grown to become a better man because of it. I feel like she deserves this praise from me, because I upset her before. My long term goal is to start dating her again, but at this time I want her to feel comfortable with communicating with me again and I feel that this conversation needs to happen in order for that window of oppertunity to open up. She did tell a mutual friend shortly after our fight that she wanted to talk again, but just not at that time. It has been 3 months since then. I have done this in the past with the few women that I messed up with and in return it had created attraction with them towards me, but I had already moved on....however in this case with this girl...she is everything I ever wanted, but my insecure self destructive tendencies and impatience became to serious and overwhelming. I didn't know better at the time, but now I know what I did wrong and know what to do right given the chance again.
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