OhThatGirl Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 And yes, I do have more anxiety As figured. You shouldn't. Attraction is a complex thing. It's entirely normal to have those feelings toward a distant cousin. Socially it's not really something to act on, but absolutely no reason to feel gross, dirty, shameful, or embarrassed. You're fine. Talk to your therapist about it. The more shameful you feel the more it's going to create anxiety. All of which is entirely unnecessary.
Gaeta Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 So then everyone basically goes through something like this at so easy point? Yes it's normal. I remember a long time ago, one late fall I was visiting family and saw one of my cousin about 17 at the time, he had spent the entire summer lifting 100-lbs potatoes bags, I went HOLY Shat!!! HOT, I had to look away lol
smackie9 Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 OCD? this thread will go on for another 40 pages.
jay1983 Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 I think your overreacting a little. This is your 2nd cousin, like your mom's cousin's daughter, that's not a close relation at all. I can think of some of my 2nd cousins, I don't even see them as family, they're just people I know. I have OCD, I'm not sure if it's the same thing you have. Crooked things bother me, like once I dismounted the TV to adjust it because it was just a little crooked. An hour of labor and the only one noticed any difference was me lol
jay1983 Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 OCD? this thread will go on for another 40 pages. I'll start another one about OCD. Let's get back to cousins lol
Author danny12 Posted March 29, 2014 Author Posted March 29, 2014 I will explain the weekend. I do not think she is "hot" yeah she is attractive. But I'm not sexual attraced to her...just we spent one weekend together and it was a load of fun. And when she left i missed her A LOT. And was sad. And if something reminded me of that weekend it made me sad. Again i probably felt some affection...maybe a close family affection and i could have even mistaken it for a "crush" or "love" because when I hang with her now I don't feel ANY THING it was more of an excitement thing, had a great weekend with her and all that it made me miss her and just brought us close.
Author danny12 Posted March 29, 2014 Author Posted March 29, 2014 (edited) Think I figured it out. I only felt feelings with her when she left. As soon as she left I automatically started reminiscing and feeling sad. And wanted to talk to her. I tend to do this with all family members I do not see often and have a great time with. So I probably mixed feelings up And I also have a Low self esteem so I probably mixed up the feelings like I said. I looked for ANY form of affection back then. I used to be so lonely. Edited March 29, 2014 by danny12
Author danny12 Posted March 31, 2014 Author Posted March 31, 2014 Again is it possible I mixed up feelings? At that time I was never in a relationship and was taking any little thing of care as love for another
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