Lost-Soul Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 (edited) It's been a bad day for me. I've been 1 week NC with my ex. He cheated on me 3 months ago, left me for her, then went back and forth and chose her. (He claims to love us both, me more, but that i suffocate him) When he chose her he decided to friendzone me, which was the most hurtful thing in the world, and would text me all day to ask about my day, acting like nothing happened. I put a stop to it and told him i don't want any contact with him whatsoever. This was exactly 1 week ago. He never tried to contact me afterwards. The pain is really excruciating. I miss him too much. I think of him every waking moment. It's just so unfair how i have to suffer this way, when he goes on living his happy ever after with the OW, giving her everything that was mine, saying to her all the things he used to say to me! Does he even miss me? I mean how can you just replace a person like that! How is it so easy for him Edited March 29, 2014 by Lost-Soul
lamis Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 I'm sorry you're in such a painful situation. It really is unfortunate that these things happen. You did the right thing initiating NC. Keeping in touch with him is a terrible idea. It is perfectly normal to grieve what you lost and to be sad for a while. However, I would advise you to try and focus on the fact that obviously he is not what is right for you, and he is a jerk for cheating on you. Don't think about wanting to be with him or anything like that, he isn't worth your time. Try to let go and realize that while you miss him and wish things had gone differently, now you are in the present and you deserve better, and eventually you will be happy again.
Author Lost-Soul Posted March 29, 2014 Author Posted March 29, 2014 Thank you for your reply lamis i know i deserve better and i don't want him back, it just hurts you know :/ everyday is a challenge. And i just wish i can let go of everything. This guy played my heart pretty bad...
InnocentMan Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 He doesn't love either of you, if that's any consolation. He may want you both, but that's another matter.
Simplysimon Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 He's not worth it. Too much trouble. Get someone who us right for you and don't take him back....ever Pull yourself together. Cry it out and be done with it. Tell yourself that. Just don't take him back else it will happen again or do you like continual heart break?
forgetmenot75 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 He surely sounds like an immature jerk. Why would you want to be with a man like him? Stay no contact. Eventually, you'll find someone much better than him, someone who'll love YOU and just you.
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