rawsugar Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 long story short - entered a relationship with a younger coworker that I knew as a friend on the job...we were both finally available and went for it. it lasted almost a year, and the good times were the best I've ever had in my romantic life. it's saying a lot but it's true. we rushed into our relationship and were pretty much living together, I regret that. We started to argue a lot after three months but always made up and never fought about the same thing twice. this person ended the relationship after going on a vacation with family, came back super cold and stood me up when we had plans. this person is disgustingly immature and lied to me for god knows how long when I asked if everything was okay and if there was anything to discuss. they left me, which is humiliating because I should have left them first. didn't cry, didn't hug them goodbye, slept good that night. NC for nearly three months total now unfortunately I still see them at work, though I've shifted my schedule around to hardly encounter them save for once a week. they got all the work friends in the breakup because they are younger and get along with them more. they purposely walked by my cubicle two weeks after the breakup and I text saying to stay away from me until they want to apologize. they listened until this week when they pulled that stunt again. I said nothing, but I'm hurting inside. they know it hurts me, that's why I'm avoiding them. now it's 4 in the morning and I'm lonely. I miss them because I miss who they were at their best even though I know I deserve better than someone who lies, argues and stands me up even once. I want to contact them but I know I shouldn't. I'm terribly lonely and I shouldn't be.
Arieswoman Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 raw suagr, I am sorry you are going through this. I have been there and know how miserable this situation can be. When we are grieving for a lost relationship/person our mind plays tricks on us. We grieve for the relationship we thought we had, not the one we actually had. You will be lonely. Add to that :sad, miserable, angry, unfocused, confused, depressed and any other negative emotions you want to throw into the mix. You will feel any number of these emtions every day. You will be up one minute, down the next. One day you'll just feel you're getting better then, bang, you're down in the dumps again. All this is normal. It's tough that you have to work with them but you are doing the right thing by avoiding them. Stay NC and it will get better, believe me.
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