Tiesto25 Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 years now, at first everything was amazing, we would talk Alot and we would be playful but as we kept getting to know each other, we started noticing that we are completely different, were almost the exact opposite. But regardless of that we decided to stay together and over time things started to change like in any other relationship, we did get into fights but we never broke up, as we reached 3 years in the relationship she started getting annoyed at everything I did and she stopped showing as much affection as she used to, she says she does love me and I have confronted her about it but she says she will do all these things but she never does. Eventually I stopped caring about it and i decided to be the one showing the love but it seems like everything I do annoys her now and if I don't show affection she thinks there's something wrong and she won't leave me alone until I tell her that I'm fine and I "act" fine, she doesn't understand that it hurts me that I'm the one showing more love and shes the one that gets annoyed for everything that I do and it hurts cause I feel like im the only one in love. Is it a bad thing that I want her to show more affection? Is it bad that I don't feel loved? Is it normal for one partner to be annoyed like that? Any advice would be appreciated as this is my first long term relationship with any girl.
Gaeta Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 years now, at first everything was amazing, we would talk Alot and we would be playful but as we kept getting to know each other, we started noticing that we are completely different, were almost the exact opposite. But regardless of that we decided to stay together and over time things started to change like in any other relationship, we did get into fights but we never broke up, as we reached 3 years in the relationship she started getting annoyed at everything I did and she stopped showing as much affection as she used to, she says she does love me and I have confronted her about it but she says she will do all these things but she never does. Eventually I stopped caring about it and i decided to be the one showing the love but it seems like everything I do annoys her now and if I don't show affection she thinks there's something wrong and she won't leave me alone until I tell her that I'm fine and I "act" fine, she doesn't understand that it hurts me that I'm the one showing more love and shes the one that gets annoyed for everything that I do and it hurts cause I feel like im the only one in love. Is it a bad thing that I want her to show more affection? Is it bad that I don't feel loved? Is it normal for one partner to be annoyed like that? Any advice would be appreciated as this is my first long term relationship with any girl. Dating is about getting to know one another and see if we are compatible. What you 2 did is discover you were not compatible but decided to stick together anyway, probably by fear of being alone. Then time went by and because of your incompatibility you started getting on each other's nerves. And you went on ignoring that as well. Here you are 4 years later with a bitter, unloving relationship that cannot be fixed. You may feel you love each other but I think it's more about being attached to each other after 4 years. No it's not normal to feel a constant need for more affection, or being constantly annoyed. This relationship is way past due date. You also sound young, there is the matter of outgrowing a relationship. It happens a lot when we date someone for a long time when we're very young. So my advice is to end it. 2
Damaged217 Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 I knew I was falling out of love with my ex when everything he did started annoying me and I didn't care to put any effort into anything. Why do you want to waste your time with someone who gets annoyed at every little thing you do? Wouldn't you rather be with a woman who appreciates you and has no problem showing it? I agree with Gaeta. You're just attached to this girl because of how long you've been together. I think it would be the best thing for both of you to just break up and move on. Relationships should not be one-sided.
smackie9 Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Also as you get older, you go through changes, your goals, your priorities, your taste in things, your perspective on life, your personal needs, interests, etc it all changes. You both have grown apart and it happens to a lot of couples. There's emotional attachment that is keeping you two together and not much else. It's time to part ways and experience a new chapter in your life with someone else.
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