Ordinaryday Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 I posted here a few months ago about how I bumped into my ex in the city and she simply said "Hi OD" and kept walking - this set me BACK HEAPS. I wish I never saw her. I ALWAYS try to avoid the exes. my brother was telling me how he bumped into his nasty ex the other day. he saw her and tried to avoid her but she outright called out to him and ran over and chatted with him. they then engaged in a passive-aggressive one-upping of each other, with each being superficially polite but trying to impress the other with talk about how great their life is going. she told him that she has a new boyfriend who is SO FANTASTIC and that she just got a promotion at work. my brother told her he now has an amazing job and is doing so well. he said it was painful talking to her. Myself, I WOULD NEVER do this. if any of my exes even tried this I would simply say to their face: "don't speak to me, stay away from me!" and walk away. I told my brother this and he said "but thats rude!" and I was like "yeah, well dumping me and breaking my heart was pretty rude to! so I dont care about being publicly rude to them!" so have any of you had the dumper (who you are not over) try this in public? bump into you and start trying to chat with you? how did you respond? how would you respond? I think my "dont speak to me, stay away from me" says it all, but what do you do?
Simon Phoenix Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Probably hi. On a weird note, my alma mater is playing my ex's alma mater in the Elite 8 of the NCAA tournament this weekend. I find that to be amusing.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Who won the WWF Championship at Wrestlemania III?
Arieswoman Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 I wouldn't say a thing to an ex, they are "ex's", end of.
purplesoccer34 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 I see my ex quite often, since we're in the same circle of friends. I don't say much to him honestly. We just talk casually when everyone else in the group is talking. It's been about 7 months since we broke up, but seeing him doesn't bother me anymore, so it's all fine with me. But a few months ago, I avoided him like the plague. Whenever I even caught a glimpse of him, I'd run very fast in the opposite direction, lol.
witmadskilllz Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 *silence* *continue walking minding my own business
kat1012 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 I never be the one to say "hi" first. If we talk, he would always be the one to say hi or start the conversation. and I don't see myself being the first one to say hi in the near future. I managed to be civilized, though deep down there're tons of rude things I want to say lol.
WhiteTan Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 i'd definitely be cordial about it. nothing more and nothing less.
NiceGuy73 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Don't worry about it ffs Imagine meeting your ex a couple of times a week to handover the kids Jesus that's hard for me Both of you pretending to be ok etc ......a load of BS
faithfully Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Most probably just Hi and carry on walking, nothing more There is nothing else to say as I said everything when he broke up with me- "Thank you for giving me my freedom back" doubt I will bump into my recent ex but you never know
DannyCA Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Now that I'm not stuck on her I'd probably just be cordial and say hi and continue on. Even though I'd still help her if she was in trouble, I don't care about her anymore. It's a weird feeling and I can't really explain it, it's like I still care about her, but at the same time I don't care about her. Indifference maybe?
erklat Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Nothing. I got in an argument over why is it not ok to be anything but cordial with an ex. There is nothing to talk to with someone who said your not good enough for me.
SerCay Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Nothing. I'd look at him very arrogant, maybe flash a peace sign and walk on haha. What I would think though: Damnit why the F*CKKKK did I waste 5 F*CKING years of my short life on youuuu aaargghhh
somedude81 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 It would be a very awkward meeting. Four months post breakup I'm nowhere even close to being over her. If I ran into her, I'd talk to her, ask her how's doing, what's nursing school like. Most likely I'd try to arrange for us to get together and so on. Though the odds of that ever happening are very low as we live about 50 min from each other. I would most likely never see her again, unless I purposely did so.
DontBreakEven Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 (edited) I never expected to run into my ex, and last night I did, at a random bar I never expected to see her at. I don't know why I do what I do, but I went to say hi. I feel like for me, if I hadn't, I would've felt very strange knowing she was there but spending the rest of the night pretending she was not. I should have, however, stayed away from her. It was painful and awkward, and the only thing that came out of it was more hurt for me because it was evident that, although seeing me affected her greatly (she was shaking at first and taking deep nose breaths in and out through the mouth when she thought I wasn't looking - she has horrible anxiety - she said she felt like she was in a dream seeing me), but anyway, although obviously the sight of me still affects her, she is also obviously steadfast in her resolve to move on to a life without me. She has not contacted me once since since she ended our engagement and moved out with our dog, out of nowhere (almost 3 months), still temporarily living with her friend so she told me, and there I was for the taking last night, and we basically discussed the weather. Maybe that's closure for me? I don't know. I'm too emotional at this point to even fully process it. I wish I could just be over it at this point. I am so tired of living like this. Edited March 31, 2014 by DontBreakEven
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