Damaged217 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 -I have self esteem issues because I was always called fat growing up even though I never truly was. I still think I'm fat these days and I am now obese to the point that is affecting my health. -The societal pressure. I feel like everyone is always asking whether or not I have a boyfriend, if I want a family and kids. I do but it will happen when it happens. Ironically, my mom is one of the few people in my family who doesn't want me to have a relationship. She wants me to be alone and get my career where I want it to me. She always tells me you don't need a man. I love her for it. -I do want to work on my weight and get to be healthy but I just don't feel motivated enough. I just need to do it. -I hate when people say "how are you single? you're so awesome." It makes me feel like there's something wrong with me but I know there's not. -I feel like everyone around me is in relationships and I sometimes feel like I'm missing out on something. I do believe I much rather be single than in an unhappy relationship. -I just feel like not too many guys approach me in general. Like I'm told I'm pretty and have a pretty good body but I feel like only creeps who want to sleep with me are the ones who make moves. And then a handful of guys who aren't creeps approach me but when I give them a chance, they screw up and I get dumped. It makes me feel like I'm just not going to find someone on my level so I used to settle, not anymore though. I know I need to stick to my standards. I do think logically like I'm only 24, almost 25. I will meet someone. I do believe waiting makes it sweeter. That whole thing about the societal pressures...we've all been there. I was a mope during grad school when every single couple was getting engaged and I was not. It's normal to feel like that, but it passes. And the older you get, the less you give a crap what anyone else is doing or what they think about you. I also struggled with self-esteem because I was overweight. So instead of feeling sorry for myself, I started working out and started eating better. Once you push yourself to start exercising and once you start losing weight, you'll get addicted to how good you feel. I always HATED running and never in a million years saw myself becoming a runner. Now I can't imagine not being one. Life's what you make it. And you're going to meet a lot of creeps and d-bags while you're on the quest to find a good guy. But he's out there. You just gotta know what you deserve and not settle for anything less. Definitely spend some time alone and try to learn to become comfortable with that. I have faith in ya. Good luck with everything :-)
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