Camaro Guy Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 I'm in a weird position right now. A couple months ago, I had a realization that I was apathetic about the whole position of dating. But I feel that feeling slipping away and it's killing me. I was completely and wholly apathetic to the notion of ever getting a girlfriend or having sex. Now, I am getting to the point where I am starting to be envious again of my friends who are having sex and girlfriends. For me, the apathy and envy are on opposite poles and I'm in the middle, slowly slipping towards the center. To someone else, this may not be a big deal but I'm turning 24 in the middle of this year and I'm still a virgin. It just burns me up inside that I've been overlooked my entire life. I feel bad that I've missed out on my teenage years having sex with girls. I also feel like as girls get older, they get harder to impress and be with, it's as if they've seen it all before. I feel like I'm not good enough because I'm inexperienced. So what do I do to get rid of this feeling? I honestly don't know what to do.
Grumpybutfun Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 What have you done to change your situation? Why didn't you date in high school? Why haven't you had a gf? Did you just sit by and wait for one to knock on your door or have you put yourself out there? Have you been interactive with girls in life? Have you joined clubs or sports teams to meet people and do social things where girls are? Why do you think you are single? What is your responsibility in your situation? Best, Grumps 1
Author Camaro Guy Posted April 2, 2014 Author Posted April 2, 2014 What have you done to change your situation? Why didn't you date in high school? Why haven't you had a gf? Did you just sit by and wait for one to knock on your door or have you put yourself out there? Have you been interactive with girls in life? Have you joined clubs or sports teams to meet people and do social things where girls are? Why do you think you are single? What is your responsibility in your situation? Best, Grumps Thanks for the response, Grumps. Sorry for the late reply. I didn't date in high school because I know I was unattractive. I also went to an all boy's high school. I might be facially unattractive but I am talking about in terms of behaviors. My confidence was below the water line back then. It has gotten better but there are other guys I know who are more confident than me. In elementary, middle, and high school, I was made fun of and put down by my peers. My confidence started to wane. They made fun of my appearance. They made fun of my way of speaking. They made fun of my persona. In college, I wasn't explicitly made fun of (except by my so called friends) but this showed itself in the form of social isolation. I wasn't a popular or sought after guy at all. In all forms of school, I was pretty much overlooked and less sought after (for friendships and relationships) than a lot of other guys I knew. My spirit was destroyed from the years of being put down but I still forged ahead. It was hard but I put on a smile where I should have put on a frown. I have interacted with girls but I just don't have "it". I don't know. Even with any specific girl I can't really connect with her. I don't know if it's on her end or mine. I just don't know.
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