HeartBroken082 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 My ex dumped me a week ago, and i have been begging him to reconsider, to which he keeps saying 'it just won't work'. I asked if I could just see him one more time, and he said sorry he just cant. Then after that he said 'maybe we can meet for a quick coffee tomorrow' and said he would text me in the morning to figure out a time/place. SO i got a text this morning saying 'hey, can we reschedule to Monday? It's Kevin's last day here and we're having cake and beer in the afternoon.', and I just said 'okay' and he didnt reply to that. If he really wanted to see me and see hwat happens, he probably would have suggested the weekend wouldn't he? Or is it better than nothing..or is this just bread crumbs? I'm desperate to get him back.
Simon Phoenix Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 My ex dumped me a week ago, and i have been begging him to reconsider, to which he keeps saying 'it just won't work'. I asked if I could just see him one more time, and he said sorry he just cant. Then after that he said 'maybe we can meet for a quick coffee tomorrow' and said he would text me in the morning to figure out a time/place. SO i got a text this morning saying 'hey, can we reschedule to Monday? It's Kevin's last day here and we're having cake and beer in the afternoon.', and I just said 'okay' and he didnt reply to that. If he really wanted to see me and see hwat happens, he probably would have suggested the weekend wouldn't he? Or is it better than nothing..or is this just bread crumbs? I'm desperate to get him back. This will not work in your favor. Guaranteed. You are better off canceling the meeting -- you are just going to be an emotional, clingy, unattractive mess if you go through with it. I know you won't though, your desperation to have the meeting will be your ultimate undoing.
Kevin_D Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Probably the best thing you can do is to say: "Yeah, I think you're right. This won't work. We had a great time, but I agree things will be better this way." Then stick to NC. Seeing him probably won't change anything. 1
Author HeartBroken082 Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 I agree somewhat, but aren't there some success stories of reconciliation? IF he didnt want to see me wouldn't he just say so?
Simon Phoenix Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I agree somewhat, but aren't there some success stories of reconciliation? IF he didnt want to see me wouldn't he just say so? Yes they are, but almost all of them involve people being broken up for a lot longer than a week. There is time apart, reflection, growth, a true understanding of what went wrong and where things need to go by both parties, all stuff that is nonexistent in your situation. You are in full panic desperation mode, and that never works. At best, you'll get a few instances of "ex sex", which will put you in a worse place than you are already in. You need to cancel the meeting (if he confirms it) and you need to get your head straight.
jphcbpa Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I agree somewhat, but aren't there some success stories of reconciliation? IF he didnt want to see me wouldn't he just say so? he is being nice...if he wanted to see you he would not have cancelled
Author HeartBroken082 Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 I worry that if i let too much time pass than he will forget about me and move on
Simon Phoenix Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I worry that if i let too much time pass than he will forget about me and move on This is stupid and purely fear talking. Fear is a dumbass. You don't forget about people you date, especially when it's been a significant amount of time. And he did move on -- when he broke up with you, that was him moving on.
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