kayjay85 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Last month I was on holiday with friends in brazil. I was having the time of my life after a rough year. I met a man in reception at our hotel who was also on holiday with a friend. Instantly I was drawn to him. We got chatting and both groups decided on a night out but I was sick later that evening and didn't go. The next day we exchanged contact detail as I was leaving to travel further south in a couple of days. We stayed in touch throughout my trip. When I returned home I couldn't stop thinking about him. Im from England and he is from France by the way. We messaged everyday and I invited him to my city in the summer and he accepted, but I didn't want to wait that long to see him. So I told him I would be in Paris in a couple of weeks on business and if he was free he could take me to see the sights. Today we made arrangements for me to go to paris. he has said that he has plenty of space at his place but that is the problem although I like him I still don't know him. If you were in my shoes what would you do? Is it safe? Am I rushing into things? Should I just seize the day any comments or experience would be appreciated x
CarrieT Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 If you were in my shoes what would you do? Go to Paris but in a hotel room. Meet him in a public place. Is it safe? Not if you take up his offer to stay with him. He might be fine, but only if you meet somewhere in public first. Do NOT go home alone with him. Am I rushing into things? Should I just seize the day Probably. But you may always regret it if you don't. Just do it carefully, thoughtfully, and with your eyes open to just meeting him and not getting involved until you know more about him. 1
clia Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 If you are going to be there for business anyway, I don't see why you wouldn't meet up with him while you are there. But do not stay at his place. Get a hotel room. I wouldn't even recommend going back to his place or inviting him back to your hotel room. Let him take you around to see the sights, and have a fun time! 3
Author kayjay85 Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 My common sense is telling me to get a hotel. Im sure he will understand my concerns. As nice as he is I really don't know him and I will be telling friends and family where I am going.x
O'Malley Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Yes, definitely stay at a hotel. Hopefully you'll have a great time when you meet up with him, but go ahead and come up with an itinerary of your own, just in case your plans with this guy fall through. Go into it with good expectations but don't rely on this guy to be your tour guide or transportation for the entire trip; it can be fun to strike off on your own.
HappyLove Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 If you really are going to coincidentally be in Paris then yes you can meet up. If you made these plans just to see him, you're a fool don't chase a man let him come to you if he's interested. Do NOT under any circumstance go stay with him! He is a stranger! Do NOT invite him to your hotel and do NOT go back to his place! He is a stranger you are in a city you do not live in. Make sure your friends and family know who he is, his first and last name and what your plans are and what he looks like. Just be safe.
Author kayjay85 Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 I wasn't in Paris on business I used that excuse to visit him. Now I have found some suppliers to visit while im there he said he will take me. I don't think im chasing him before I said I would go to paris he already agreed to come to visit me in a couple of months. I just seen it as take a chance or you will never know. Im going to stay in a hotel I forget yes he is a stranger and yes if things don't work out I will be stuck in a city I don't know. or even wore I could put myself in danger x
HappyLove Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Sorry, but you ARE chasing him. He said he would come visit you but you never gave him a chance to prove that, to see if he was all talk or a man of his word! Let the man come to you, they like the chase. If he finds out you went out of your way to do all this you'll look kinda desperate. I don't think you're desperate I think you're excited and hopeful but a man gets bored by these things. Just make sure he never finds out. All that said have a great time in Paris I hope it goes well. Good luck!
preraph Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Be careful. President Carter just wrote a shocking book about slave trade worldwide. He says there's far more slavery now than there was in the 19th century and most of it is women used for sex, kidnapped and put to work. You can't be too careful. You don't have the best resources when you're not on your own turf. You should not get in a car with him! Tell him you're being careful.
Gottabestrong Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 I have done that in the past. Met a guy on holiday, he said he was going to visit me a few months down the line, it felt too long for me, so instead I flew to see him. The week I spent with him was awesome, but a relationship never developed from it. Looking back I wish I either had waited to see if he was actually going to visit me, or see him with the mindset that it was just a vacation fling and I should expect nothing more than a fun week. Paris is relatively safe - no matter what 'Taken' might make you believe - so I would not worry about being sold into slavery, but definitely don't stay at his place, you don't really know this guy. Have a hotel room booked and don't plan to spend all of your time with him, spend time exploring Paris instead. That way you not only stay safe, but also keep up the ruse of being there for a business trip. Good luck and have fun!
Author kayjay85 Posted March 29, 2014 Author Posted March 29, 2014 thanks for all the replies. I have told him my concerns for safety and he said of course he understands. Even joked about his own safety. Haha. I will go with an open mind and just have fun exploring Paris.
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