fifipheebs Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Guy whom I'm friends with used to call me ALL THE TIME for no apparent reason and talk for hours. He would text, email all that on his own accord. Why did he stop? I got impression he wanted more but never really knew for certainty where he stood on that. Did he assume I don't like him back and trying to move on? He's slowly texting me again but I want my phone calls! Help a girl out!
1908 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 If a guy is texting and calling all the time, it's safe to say he's interested. Are you interested in him romantically or is it just a friendship thing? Because if he picked up from your convos that it was the latter, he probably thought it was a hopeless cause and cut back to save himself from being hurt. Cutting down on the communication couldn't hurt btw. Do some face to face stuff. It's a lot more rewarding. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Guy whom I'm friends with If this guy wanted anything more with you beyond friendship, he probably picked up the "friendzone" vibe you gave out to him. He's slowly fading from contacting you because he knows nothing romantic will happen. If you really want something with him, such as you can imagine yourself getting naked with him, then call him yourself, ask him out or drop a big hint that if he asked you out for a romantic evening you would say yes. Otherwise let him go, and hopefully with the next guy you display more overt interest. 1
FrustratedGuy91 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Depends on the guy's personality but I would assume he's not very confident and thought you were friendzoning him. 1
J21 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Did you friend zone him? "No apparent reason" could mean you might've done it inadvertently. 1
Author fifipheebs Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 ya that crossed my mind he may have figured i was friendzoning him as i never much reacted and just enjoyed his company. i say he's an alpha male with some beta tendencies. what could i do to get him calling me again?
Armegoggon Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Sometimes when people try to approach you but you don't approach them back, they probably think you're not really interested in them. Yes I do remember a girl talking to me all the time and I've always pretended to be interested in her. Later on, eventually, she stopped talking to me and deleted me off of her Facebook. Well she lives across the country so I wasn't able to get to talk to her in person. Honestly, I suggest that you could still talk to him as a friend and maybe talk about how his life is going. And also, when people do talk a lot in a short time frame, this could end up in them not talking as much as before later on. Well this is like cramming tasks together. Overall, maybe give it some time and he might resume his chatting ways.
Author fifipheebs Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 Sometimes when people try to approach you but you don't approach them back, they probably think you're not really interested in them. Yes I do remember a girl talking to me all the time and I've always pretended to be interested in her. Later on, eventually, she stopped talking to me and deleted me off of her Facebook. Well she lives across the country so I wasn't able to get to talk to her in person. Honestly, I suggest that you could still talk to him as a friend and maybe talk about how his life is going. And also, when people do talk a lot in a short time frame, this could end up in them not talking as much as before later on. Well this is like cramming tasks together. Overall, maybe give it some time and he might resume his chatting ways. TQ. he will text and email but just doesn't call me anymore He'll come out to hang when i invite him, but he doesn't ask me to hang anymore. its like now i have to do all the leg work if i wanna see him in person. it sucks.
Armegoggon Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 TQ. he will text and email but just doesn't call me anymore He'll come out to hang when i invite him, but he doesn't ask me to hang anymore. its like now i have to do all the leg work if i wanna see him in person. it sucks. Aww I see. It's hard to regret what you did. As of right now, do you have a crush on him or do you only want him to be friends with you? If you do have a crush on him you could possibly land him as a date because you know each other a lot from all the chatting you've done with him. If you really have a crush on him, you should start showing that you do. Otherwise, if he already found a girlfriend, you should simply move on.
Author fifipheebs Posted March 29, 2014 Author Posted March 29, 2014 Aww I see. It's hard to regret what you did. As of right now, do you have a crush on him or do you only want him to be friends with you? If you do have a crush on him you could possibly land him as a date because you know each other a lot from all the chatting you've done with him. If you really have a crush on him, you should start showing that you do. Otherwise, if he already found a girlfriend, you should simply move on. what can i do to land him???? he's still unattached as far as i kno
Armegoggon Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 what can i do to land him???? he's still unattached as far as i kno If you're not really shy you can try asking him why he talked to you less often. Well try not to ask directly but you could say something like "How has things been going with you". I'm sure that if something else was bad he probably decided to keep silent. Otherwise if he didn't have anything bad on his side, then try to lure him back. Think about what caused him to talk to you so much. Why did he used to talk to you so much?
Author fifipheebs Posted March 29, 2014 Author Posted March 29, 2014 If you're not really shy you can try asking him why he talked to you less often. Well try not to ask directly but you could say something like "How has things been going with you". I'm sure that if something else was bad he probably decided to keep silent. Otherwise if he didn't have anything bad on his side, then try to lure him back. Think about what caused him to talk to you so much. Why did he used to talk to you so much? TQ. gr8 suggestion. no clue what made him call me so often. guess he felt something but i didnt know if he wanted more. hes got a rep as a player/flirt. perhaps he's getting luv and attention from other girls hence not calling me anymore. how would you read into him suggesting things like he'll say "i could hug you...but we're in public..LOL" (he says this when we are face to face) or he'll tell me how macho he is or jokes about making out.
Armegoggon Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 TQ. gr8 suggestion. no clue what made him call me so often. guess he felt something but i didnt know if he wanted more. hes got a rep as a player/flirt. perhaps he's getting luv and attention from other girls hence not calling me anymore. how would you read into him suggesting things like he'll say "i could hug you...but we're in public..LOL" (he says this when we are face to face) or he'll tell me how macho he is or jokes about making out. Hmm, I see where this is going. A boy like this isn't easy to get a long term relationship with. Then his flirting hobbies might be one of the reasons why he called you so much in the first place. This was because he didn't have anybody else with you. Player? Well that also tells me that if you get into a relationship he may play you and end it. As a guy, I don't support this but if you can try convincing him not to sleep with you until you get into a really good relationship then it might make him want to keep you for a long time. Refusing to hug in public is actually somebody who wants to have more of a private relationship than public. This means that he probably doesn't want any of his friends or your friends to know about you two dating (that is if you date). To be honest, I don't like secret relationships. Overall, from what I can tell of what you said, he is probably more of being popular than just trying to find the date.
Author fifipheebs Posted March 29, 2014 Author Posted March 29, 2014 Hmm, I see where this is going. A boy like this isn't easy to get a long term relationship with. Then his flirting hobbies might be one of the reasons why he called you so much in the first place. This was because he didn't have anybody else with you. Player? Well that also tells me that if you get into a relationship he may play you and end it. As a guy, I don't support this but if you can try convincing him not to sleep with you until you get into a really good relationship then it might make him want to keep you for a long time. Refusing to hug in public is actually somebody who wants to have more of a private relationship than public. This means that he probably doesn't want any of his friends or your friends to know about you two dating (that is if you date). To be honest, I don't like secret relationships. Overall, from what I can tell of what you said, he is probably more of being popular than just trying to find the date. yea. i agree. ima gonna forget him. he probably not calling cuz he couldn't get anywere with me. thats okay. glad my gut made me smart.
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