backatone Posted January 29, 2005 Posted January 29, 2005 Well, as you know I did 1 month of NC and she finally called. Acted like nothing happened. Actually seemed mad at me. I told her YOU wanted the break/time-out and you got it. Well, she has called me a couple times yesterday, but I did not answer the phone, and I did not call her back yet. Here is the problem. I do want her back, but if getting back with me are her intentions....she is going about it all wrong. When she leaves a message it is very BLAW. At the sametime she seems to be speaking with a tone that gives off superiority. I don't like it one bit. Obviously, thats why I have not called her back yet. But, she is calling me acting like im a bad guy or something. Not sure if that is a defense mecahnism or what. I really dont plan on calling her back just yet. She is a very stubburn girl (I am as well) so I don't know if me not calling her back will push her away or make her think I have moved on. I'm sure she will call again and give me the,"are you ignoring me" speech. She has NOT apoligized ONCE to me for "umm you know....breaking up with me". You would think that would be the first step. Should I continue ignoring this girl or what??? Obviously I would like to date her again (I THINK LOL) but I am pist about this chip she seems to have her shoulder, about what I dont know.
clynn Posted January 29, 2005 Posted January 29, 2005 Hmmm, that's a tuff one. I think that it is certainly worth exploring if you dig her and want to date her. no sense letting your mutual stubborness get in the way. That being said, you shouldn't just cave to her crabbiness. Soooo, perhaps suggest coffee? If she takes you up on it, then you have a starting place. If she doesn't then you know she is just being crabby. Then when you are face to face ask her point blank, what's up? What's going on with her? I'm curious what sparked you to contact me? I think showing greater concern and interest is honest and healthy. Being tender is a nice idea, even if she is a crankpot. It may soften her edges a bit and let her open up. If you care for each other and there is potential then you should give it a crack. Just slowly and don't allow yourself to get run over?
agnf666 Posted January 30, 2005 Posted January 30, 2005 If you want to get back with her then give it a try. She contacted you and that usually means that she wants to try to talk to yah agian or get back together. I would try calling her maybe not right away but I would call her. She calls you because she is to the point where she has realized she misses you and screwed up. So, waiting for the apology is not the way to go. She may not apologize until you talk to her for a little while. Good Luck on whatever decision you make...
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