giblesp Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 He was being very short with me, so I told him he was acting like an ayhole. He got upset and told me if I think that then "this" is over and proceeded to drive me home. Yes, I know that I was completely in the wrong. I just want to know if this is something that is forgivable or not. If you think it's not, I don't want to bother him. Never bring up the past like that, you weren't involved with him and his ex you were involved with him. It was a fresh start for both of you. I have to be honest and say that I've had girlfriends promise to stop saying hurtful things, but they never have done. They usually get worse. But as a hopeless romantic, Id give you another chance, it wasn't too much of big deal. Couples survive MUCH worse that what you described. And if you're in it for the long haul, life will test your relationship to the core. Give him some space and tell him you love him.
tlegend Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 Once you say something, it can never be taken back. You attacked his ego, his manhood, and his liveliness. That comment....truthfully....hurt. Deep. I can't fathom how hurt you must of felt to be able to think that your comment was "an eye for an eye". IF he ever talks to you again, I suggest you make it very well known that you truly are remorseful of that comment. However, your response in this forum shows that you can't take criticism. You wanted to know the truth about how much you screwed things up with this guy? Most men in this thread have agreed, they would turn and run and NOT SPEAK TO YOU had you said this exact comment to them. What you did was hurtful, immature, and probably really hurt him attacking him with reference to his failure (past relationship). Honestly, I feel you may have some anger issues you need to address regarding your inability to hold your tongue about some real deep personal issues that, frankly, was none of your ****ing business.
Chi townD Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 This thread is about a month old. It's a dead thread. The OP isn't coming back.
Elle1975 Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 I still wonder why he'd share something like that, in such details, in the first place. I don't like ghosts hanging around in my relationships. So.. it's not the penis that you attacked but it pretty much had the same effect on him.. I don't think that having abandonment issues justify the way you talked to him. I think it's just an excuse you're shielding yourself with. Should he forgive you? I am pretty quick to forgive myself. However, it depends on what I'm supposed to forgive. Cheating? Hell no. Getting insulted by my boyfriend? Meh.. I don't think I could forgive that if the relationship was new. What I'm getting at though... we all have different levels of tolerance toward that kind of issue.
tlegend Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 I truly don't understand why this thread showed up when I was looking through the most recent threads in this forum. It IS over a month old. How...did that happen? I'M SO CONFUSED.
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