crispy17 Posted January 29, 2005 Posted January 29, 2005 Hey, i have a little problem. I’m crazy about this girl. She's family friend and every time she comes to visit i fall for her straight away but I’ve never been any good at this kind of thing so i always hide my feelings. She came over for dinner one night so asked her on a date ,she said yes and it turned out really, really well. The chemistry between us was good and everybody that we went out with said she looks very interested and that i should go for it. We started flirting and dancing a bit and by the end of the night we were kissing and cuddling for ages. It's been a week since that date and we have been texting a little bit, but now I’m a bit stuck with what to do? i mean i can tell she finds me attractive but i don't know what she really wants, i guess I’m just really afraid of asking her and getting rejected. She is going through a difficult stage in her life with school, trying to find a flat as she has no place to stay, and she also broke up with her boyfriend of 4 years 5 months ago. I’m also afraid that her ex may come into her life again. Should i wait for things to settle down a bit for her?or should i take the risk and tell her how i feel?
alphamale Posted January 29, 2005 Posted January 29, 2005 take the risk CRISPY17. no one ever got anywhere by not taking a risk. and so what if she rejects you, big ****ing deal. there are plenty of other women around.
kanga Posted January 29, 2005 Posted January 29, 2005 Sure, you can play around and txt msg each other and IM and email and haha, isn't that great -- But then you start the process of establishing a friendship and as you start liking each other more, you are each questioning if the other one if really really interested in just friendly interested. Before long, you're great friends, but neither of you want to make a move because "we don't want to ruin a nice friendship." If you have little invested in her now, I think it's better to work the charm and make those magic guy moves that make dates happen. Because I think rejection hurts less in the beginning when there are less history and good times to miss out on.
mysticalstar Posted January 29, 2005 Posted January 29, 2005 Hey there! My advice to you is ASK HER OUT ASAP!! Chances are if your first date went as well as you said it did, then she is waiting for you to ask her out again. The only thing is...if you said she is broke...you pay! lol But I really think you should ask this girl out again because she probably has strong feelings for you with the way you described your first date. Kissing and dancing, I dont think she would do that with someone she was not interested in! So go for it! and ps...if she rejects you...she isn't worth it in the first place and there is someone else out there who is!
Author crispy17 Posted February 1, 2005 Author Posted February 1, 2005 thanks for all the advice. i did end up asking her out for a 2nd date.She said yes and all was going to plan, but then she cancelled on the day we were supposed to go out saying that she was to busy and that we should catch up another time.Should i bother asking her out again?
fundamental Posted February 1, 2005 Posted February 1, 2005 If you want to take the chance again, ask her out again in a week. I wouldn't because it seems like the ex is still in the picture... or still on her mind. I would "try" to move on and wait for her to contact me.
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