oasis3005 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 (edited) I have been in a relationship for the past 8 months or so, I have known this person for a while now. We have been friends before committing to a relationship. I have had a lack of trust with her, because at one time in our relationship we decided to move in together, during that time she has had communication with her ex-husband (she had already been divorce with him for a year now). I have also been divorce for a year. With her ex-husband she constantly received messages from his and I actually saw phone calls from her to him. I spoke to her about it and told her that there was no reason for to be in communication since she didn’t have any children with him. She is a mother of 3 beautiful children and I am a father of 4. She changes her mood every 2-3 weeks, at first she is loveable, communicates well and is very attentive to our relationship. Then she is very distant, doesn’t care about anything when it pertains to us. Also the children have 3 different fathers, 2 of which she has communication with, one live near and the other out of the state. My concern is the one living here, according to her the father has never been around. I am for any of the fathers to try and be in contact with the children, I encourage it since I am a father. She is always sending pictures of her and her son; I don’t understand why she is sending pictures of her. When she is not in good terms with the kid’s father is when her full attention is back to me. We recently went out as a family; while on the location she tells me she text her sons father to join us to spend time with her son. I told her that is was our time together and that is was not fair for her not to say anything to me in regards to him coming since it was our time with the family. Are there any signs that I should look for indicating that she is not ready to commit to a relationship with me? Was it right for her to invite the father without talking to me? Edited March 28, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs and move to dating
CarrieT Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Are they any signs that I should look for indicating that she is not ready to commit to a relationship with me? You laid it out: The fact that all her children have different fathers and she's been in contact with yet another Ex with whom she has no children. She obviously has commitment issues. Was it right for her to invite the father without talking to me? No, it was not. If you are living as a family, she should respect those boundaries. It seems she has few... 1
Sweetnothing Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 This woman doesn't respect you. Why'd you go through her phone in the first place? A gut instinct that you can't trust her? Go with that instinct. 1
Author oasis3005 Posted March 30, 2014 Author Posted March 30, 2014 This woman doesn't respect you. Why'd you go through her phone in the first place? A gut instinct that you can't trust her? Go with that instinct. The only reason why I did, was because, she kept getting text from a number she didn't have stored, we would be together and woth the phone in her hand she would het these replys like tey already had conversations.
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