InnocentMan Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 A punch in the mouth isn't foreplay. You don't have to hit someone hard in that area to cause a cut. I'd advise doing the same back, with equal force. If she finds it acceptable still, then carry on. If the genders were reversed, this would be a 10 pager already. 2
Zahara Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I love play wrestling but there are some things you have enough common sense not to do, and punching your partner in the mouth is one of them. Just like anything there are limits. Doesn't take much to cause hurt in that area. And if the roles were reversed, everyone would be screaming abuse. Let her know, OP. It's fine to play around but there are areas where it would be best to stay away from, like your face. 1
Zahara Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 A girl initiating physical foreplay is one of the highest forms of respect you can get as a guy. And as far as it not being physical foreplay because she hit him in the mouth over the arm and the position of the hand, that's just ridiculous. She was looking for a reaction from him and didn't get it. I wonder what her reaction would have been if he punched her back in the mouth. 1
gaius Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I wonder what her reaction would have been if he punched her back in the mouth. That this guy is a dope and doesn't know what I want?
Author cruepain Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 i wasnt even expecting it.we were just sitting in her car and i i was just sitting there and she jabbed me in the mouth. right in the upper lip portion and of course it hurt a bit, i wasnt expecting it and it was in a sensitive area
Zahara Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 (edited) i wasnt even expecting it.we were just sitting in her car and i i was just sitting there and she jabbed me in the mouth. right in the upper lip portion and of course it hurt a bit, i wasnt expecting it and it was in a sensitive area Then speak up and let her know it isn't appropriate to do that. Don't just say, "Ow what was that for." Say, "Don't do that again. I don't tolerate being hit like that." And if she laughs around and jokes about it, remind her again that it isn't a joke and that you are serious about her not hitting like that. And if she has no common sense to know the difference between play wrestling and actually hitting and causing pain/injury, when you both are in a playful mood, then explain that to her as well. But as one poster alluded to, if she likes getting hit in the mouth, then you can determine if this is the right relationship for you. Edited March 28, 2014 by Zahara
FrustratedGuy91 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Didn't read all the replies, but I used to date a class mate from my martial arts class. We would sometimes fight or try to force the other into submission... We are both black belts and very stubborn so it would get a bit rough sometimes. Anyway, my point is that some people show affection in different ways, some may like kissing, others prefer a choke hold or a full nelson haha 1
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 This reminds me. This one chick would like to roughhouse flirt a bit but every now and then she would purposefully knee me in the groin. The first time I thought it was an accident but after #2 I straight up got stonecold serious and said "don't ever ****ing do that **** again." And she never did.
Trnamakesnse Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 She may have meant it as a playful thing but if you say you don't like it then she should apologize. There is no overreacting to things you simply don't like. Tell her you find it unacceptable and not to do it again. Forgive her once for a mistake but imo not twice and never if it was clearly done in anger.
Fondue Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 You tell her very sternly that sort of **** is completely unacceptable. At that point, either leave it at that. Or leave her for the rest of the day. Let her think about what she did. Break up with her if this is a repeat offense. It would only occur more frequently and in increased strength. This is how abusive relationships begin.
gaius Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 This reminds me. This one chick would like to roughhouse flirt a bit but every now and then she would purposefully knee me in the groin. The first time I thought it was an accident but after #2 I straight up got stonecold serious and said "don't ever ****ing do that **** again." And she never did. My sister punched me in the balls one time. That's the one and only thing I've warned a woman not to do again.
tbf Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 This. Personally, I wouldn't put up with the disrespect.No kidding. It's not even disrespectful. It's abusive. 1
preraph Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Yeah, that's not okay. That's rough by anybody's standards. You ought to ask her how much she was hit growing up and see where it's coming from. I mean, you certainly wouldn't want her punching around on your kid sometime. I'd make her talk about it and if it sounds like she's minimizing it and has done it before, I'd bail.
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