cruepain Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 my girlfriend gave me a playful jab in the mouth tonight. when she did it i said "ow, what was that for!" she said because it was funny and that i overreacted is it really something i overreacted to?
Author cruepain Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 Define playful jab. little closed first knuckles to my mouth
Grumpybutfun Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 If you don't find being punched in the mouth funny, tell her not to do it anymore. It doesn't matter what we think, if it made you uncomfortable, it isn't constructive for your relationship. This is about setting boundaries...personally even if it is just in fun for her, it isn't fun for you, end of discussion. Best, Grumps 4
AntiSocal Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Tell her to never hit you like that again. This is how it starts bro. A playful jab every now and then cuz "hes a man and he can take it" Next thing you know shes gonna be freaking out and scratching you up every single time she gets mad. Set the boundaries right now. Tell her that you would never hit her, no matter how playfully, so she should never hit you.
TheyCallMeOx Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 There's no such thing as a playful jab to the mouth. If she wants to be playful, do it on an area where there's enough protection. Perhaps the chest, or the arm. Hell, maybe your ass. Tell her the face is off limits. If she does it again, she doesn't respect you. 2
gaius Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Haven't you ever seen one of those wrestling shows? When two wrestlers are talking and one whacks the other one in the face? Then the next thing you know they're both on the ground entangled with each other. That's what your girlfriends looking for. A little physical activity can be very erotic. If you want to dry up her vagina and look like a pussy feel free to instead tell her not to do that again. Christ it's like nobody understands women anymore. 3
GemmaUK Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I remember an incident that happened years ago. There was a crowd of us and one of the girls was joking around and slapped her bf's face. It was only very light, actually more of a tap. But he didn't like it so said so straight away. She apologised. Even jokingly no one should do that. I think you should say something to your gf about it.
David87 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 This happened to me one time. My girlfriend slapped me on my face hard, I hit her back out of instinct( not hard ), then she hits me gain and I do the same, we ended up wrestling on the floor and then we had sex We were just fooling around, it was funny. OOOO good times:love: 2
kaylan Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Man up OP. Are you seriously complaining about a girl play hitting you? Like gauis said, are you a fan of dry female genitalia? lololz 2
Emilia Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 If you don't find being punched in the mouth funny, tell her not to do it anymore. It doesn't matter what we think, if it made you uncomfortable, it isn't constructive for your relationship. This is about setting boundaries...personally even if it is just in fun for her, it isn't fun for you, end of discussion. Best, Grumps This. Personally, I wouldn't put up with the disrespect.
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I'm gonna disagree with the posters that are saying this is a good type of rough flirting. I've dated girls that loved to rough flirt.. rolling around, wrestling on the ground, a little hair pulling. And some that liked to slap and/or give slaps during sex. That's all good. But I dunno if anyone has done any fighting but getting close-fisted punched in the mouth is not cool. I have a high tolerance for pain but that would annoy me. 1
StanMusial Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 "Wise guy, eh?" Then lead off with an elbow smash to the top of the head, followed by a roundhouse kick to the torso, finished off by a flying body splash off the coffee table. Or any available furniture or perhaps a stepladder.
isisisweeping Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I might play hit a guy on the arm (and vice versa, of course) but to the mouth? And regardless... it's never appropriate for someone to tell you they you're overreacting to something like that. If someone does something and it hurts or bothers you and you express that, the appropriate reaction is, "I'm sorry. that wasn't my intention; I won't do it again." I'd tell her that it is not acceptable to you. 2
gaius Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 This. Personally, I wouldn't put up with the disrespect. A girl initiating physical foreplay is one of the highest forms of respect you can get as a guy. And as far as it not being physical foreplay because she hit him in the mouth over the arm and the position of the hand, that's just ridiculous. She was looking for a reaction from him and didn't get it. 1
pickflicker Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Had it happened before? Has she tried to hit you in other ways? Is it likely to happen again? Were you fighting at the time? It's kind of hard to know what to say. If she'd punched/slapped/pushed/kicked you in anger, that's one thing. I think more info might be worthwhile... In any case, a simple "Don't do that again" should suffice.
Emilia Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 A girl initiating physical foreplay is one of the highest forms of respect you can get as a guy. And as far as it not being physical foreplay because she hit him in the mouth over the arm and the position of the hand, that's just ridiculous. She was looking for a reaction from him and didn't get it. I suppose not everyone thinks that physically assaulting someone is an appropriate way of acting in a relationship. Horses for courses. I prefer to go down the respect route, as per my previous post. I think she is pretty emotionally stunted if she thinks that initiating foreplay is done by punching someone. Maybe next time I date someone I push him down the stairs and see how turned on he gets. 4
gaius Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I suppose not everyone thinks that physically assaulting someone is an appropriate way of acting in a relationship. Horses for courses. I prefer to go down the respect route, as per my previous post. I think she is pretty emotionally stunted if she thinks that initiating foreplay is done by punching someone. Maybe next time I date someone I push him down the stairs and see how turned on he gets. What kind of guys are you dating where you could successfully push them down the stairs? If you get turned on by a guys normal reaction to getting pushed down the stairs, then you should! It's not a crime to try and get your sexual needs met. And you shouldn't have to ask for them out loud. Talk about a turnoff.
Emilia Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 What kind of guys are you dating where you could successfully push them down the stairs? Anyone that walks before me? You can push a 250lbs man down the stairs if you catch him when he is stepping and off balance. Though I fail to see how this is relevant If you get turned on by a guys normal reaction to getting pushed down the stairs, then you should! It's not a crime to try and get your sexual needs met. And you shouldn't have to ask for them out loud. Talk about a turnoff. You do realise that people can actually die when you push them down the stairs, right? It was a fascetious comment on my part, it did not occur to me for one second that anyone would take it literally.... 1
Arieswoman Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I think Emilia was making a tongue-in-cheek posting, Gaius 2
David87 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Anyone that walks before me? You can push a 250lbs man down the stairs if you catch him when he is stepping and off balance. Though I fail to see how this is relevant You do realise that people can actually die when you push them down the stairs, right? It was a fascetious comment on my part, it did not occur to me for one second that anyone would take it literally.... He was joking, you were joking, what are you finghing about? I hate it when this happens. 2
Emilia Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 He was joking, you were joking, what are you finghing about? I hate it when this happens. I think you'll find that gaius wasn't joking.
gaius Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 He was joking, you were joking, what are you finghing about? I hate it when this happens. Thank you. I think you'll find that gaius wasn't joking. You mean I seriously think you might get turned on by pushing a guy down the stairs? I think you just like to wrench back control of where the conversation is going. Now we're talking about whether or not I was joking instead of a woman getting her sexual needs met.
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