toungeofcolicab Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 So i recently broke up with my partner of about 3-5 years, depends which way you look at it. Last year, she decided she wants to spend her life with and requested we get promise rings if i was willing to make that sacrifice. I did. 2 weeks ago she said lets make a joint Facebook together, but we didn't go ahead with it just based on the fact she thought people might find it 'weird'. We are now broken up. She wears her promise ring still everyday that we got, and when i saw her, and i wasn't wearing mine, she was crushed, and cried and asked, "Why aren't you wearing it? I thought you were always going to wear it?". She is still wearing hers, and says she always will. Is there anything behind this? or is it just me having blind optimism?
Stay Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Sounds a little crazy to me but why did you guys break up?
Author toungeofcolicab Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Her parents didn't really approve of my background (as in faith i converted from), that's essentially it.
Stay Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Her parents didn't really approve of my background (as in faith i converted from), that's essentially it. So you can say she still loves you, it's just her parents don't so she broke up with you because of that? Or were you not able to handle it so you broke it off?
CarrieT Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Promise rings are pretty juvenile and smacks of Jr. High School... How old are you guys anyway? 1
Sweetnothing Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Was the promise to stay together or was it some kind of symbolic "wait until you're married" kinda deal? Either way, it sounds like a control thing. You're not doing anything wrong. It reminded you of her so you took it off. Tell her you don't need a constant reminder of the heartbreak you went through and she should respect your desire to heal.
Author toungeofcolicab Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 So you can say she still loves you, it's just her parents don't so she broke up with you because of that? Or were you not able to handle it so you broke it off? No she broke it off as a result of her parents, that was entirely it in end. They were rings to symbolise spending i guess forever together. In a sense, i agree it's kinda juvenilish (is that even a word? haha) and I don't even like wearing jewellery, but i grew to accept it, and was willing to do it behind the premise of what it meant. I have known her for a long long time, and she has never even kissed another guy, except me. We're both in our mid 20's.
normal person Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 No she broke it off as a result of her parents, that was entirely it in end. They were rings to symbolise spending i guess forever together. In a sense, i agree it's kinda juvenilish (is that even a word? haha) and I don't even like wearing jewellery, but i grew to accept it, and was willing to do it behind the premise of what it meant. I have known her for a long long time, and she has never even kissed another guy, except me. We're both in our mid 20's. No offense, but when I read this (and the part about putting it on Facebook for validity), I assumed you were 13. A promise ring, really? If you're that serious about spending your life someone, why not just get engaged? Give her a "promise ring" that actually has value within our culture.
tbf Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Straight up, she's nuts if she broke up with you and then wanted you to continue wearing your ring. Sounds like she's replaying some weird West Side Story romance in her head of which you'll be paying the price for her fantasy. Avoid the crazy ones, like the plague. 1
Author toungeofcolicab Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 No offense, but when I read this (and the part about putting it on Facebook for validity), I assumed you were 13. A promise ring, really? If you're that serious about spending your life someone, why not just get engaged? Give her a "promise ring" that actually has value within our culture. The only time i mentioned Facebook, was as a result of her request, nothing else. I couldn't care less about what others would think, say whatever, it was her request. She said, she wanted to but just wanted to lay down the foundations of her career, at the moment, and after a year of that, we would have, then obviously this happened
Author toungeofcolicab Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Straight up, she's nuts if she broke up with you and then wanted you to continue wearing your ring. Sounds like she's replaying some weird West Side Story romance in her head of which you'll be paying the price for her fantasy. Avoid the crazy ones, like the plague. The funny part is, she said she's going to keep seeing what I'm doing, on social media, going out, etc, but doesn't think we can remain friends. It's all so...weird
tbf Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 The funny part is, she said she's going to keep seeing what I'm doing, on social media, going out, etc, but doesn't think we can remain friends. It's all so...weirdStalking too? Do post partying pics with hot chicks!
Stay Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 No she broke it off as a result of her parents, that was entirely it in end. They were rings to symbolise spending i guess forever together. In a sense, i agree it's kinda juvenilish (is that even a word? haha) and I don't even like wearing jewellery, but i grew to accept it, and was willing to do it behind the premise of what it meant. I have known her for a long long time, and she has never even kissed another guy, except me. We're both in our mid 20's. This in my opinion is the reason she's acting like that. Strong case of oneitis for her. As for the promise rings and sharing stuff like that, I did that when I was very young. It should be a phase and something gone at this age. But mostly because you were her first and she's really attached. Also sounds like she didn't want to break up with you but she did. Either way she shouldn't expect you to still wear the damn thing if she broke you heart, can't have her cake and eat it too.
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