crazybestie101 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 (edited) More than 6 months of NC , nothing from my EX. I do miss him dearly and wish that one day i hear from him. So fast foreword to at the moment , i have been talking this one guy from January. At beginning i was very interested to know this guy because from outer perspective he seemed sorta like my ex so i really wanted to see whats it like. I guess he had same intentions. So we started talking . He is very reserved and every step of the way i came to know he is " NOT" the one. We are two very different people. But i thought its safe to be friend since nothing romantic sort started here. This guy has been dumped twice by women and emotional guy. Recently he has been messaging me every moment .. he even came out with me on walks and go around with me ( before when i was interested , he kept denying because of his shy nature). I mean my head is clear that i dont want him anything but friend. But i know he sees more in more. Many times i told him that i miss my EX and really wish he comes back and i am interested in this guy from my lab ( this guy has been making lot of open efforts to get my attention). He completely ignored all this. He screamed at me and told me forget your ex. All the time i talked about my ex or this new guy from lab , he ignored and left conversation. I mean what kind of guy this is . He wants girl who is hung up on ex , also likes someone outside .. I mean who does that ???? There is just more to it :this guy has put up all his weakness in front me , mainly how he has been struggling in his career. To me i think its turn off right at first.. Anyways , i just feel bad for the guy. So i am talking to him i know i might give him false hope .. But what do you guys think on this.. Yes, i sorta enjoy attention from this guy because i know its not going anywhere. But i really do want to see what its like to be with that " lab guy". Yeah moving on may be in right direction.... Edited March 28, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Zahara Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I mean what kind of guy this is . He wants girl who is hung up on ex , also likes someone outside .. I mean who does that ???? .... The question is, what kind of woman are you? I'm baffled. It's very selfish of you to continue dragging a guy that clearly likes you even when you don't like him because you need his attention to soften the blow of your break-up. The kind thing to do, the right thing to do would be for you to tell him that you are not interested in him and that you need to cut contact with him because it's hurting him to keep engaging with you. Instead you openly mock him and treat him like garbage. 2
Zahara Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 And don't forget the time when you were chasing your ex and he couldn't reciprocate your feelings. How did that feel? And here you boast about how pathetic this man is? Unbelievable.
Author crazybestie101 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 And don't forget the time when you were chasing your ex and he couldn't reciprocate your feelings. How did that feel? And here you boast about how pathetic this man is? Unbelievable. What are you talking? I barely know him for 3 months .. I haven't put a word like dating infront of him. Even though i had intention to see whats its like i never made it obvious . I always told him i miss my ex and want him any day, also about my recent lab guy. Many instance i told him i want to stay away from relationship, told him kind of woman i am and kind of man i am looking for.I mean whattt. He has never told me that he likes me or anything besides he talks to me. Why are you blaming me ? I told him everything clear , now i dont want to go tell everything upfront. I already mentioned his attention is useless because i am not there. About my ex , we were officially together , where we had mutual feeling from day 1 of our meeting. We verbally expressed that for each other. That case is completely different than this one. If it still seems like i am giving this new guy false hope , i am going to drop out his life. You need to stop being harsh on me. Reason i post here to get people feedback not to see you firing back at me.. Be little sensitive.
vaxathrax Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Why are you blaming me ? I told him everything clear , now i dont want to go tell everything upfront. I already mentioned his attention is useless because i am not there. You title your post "I don't like him, but I enjoy the attention?" That's why you are being blamed. You are aware he likes you, you don't like him, he isn't getting the hint and you're keeping him around. If it still seems like i am giving this new guy false hope , i am going to drop out his life. Do this. 1
Zahara Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 (edited) Let's not play dumb. "But i know he sees more in more." You just said you are enjoying the attention and even titled your post to state as such and you now say the attention is useless to you? I'm sorry I cannot be sensitive with people that use others to make themselves feel better. If anyone needs to be sensitive, it's you. Be sensitive to the fact that a man is showing you interest and you know this, but you choose to use his attention for your benefit. Be sensitive to the fact that you know what it feels like to like/love someone and not have that reciprocated. This is why I brought up your relationship with your ex. "So i am talking to him i know i might give him false hope." There is no if as you asked. You already know. Edited March 27, 2014 by Zahara 2
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