Okay to lie about age if you look really young ?

[RedRobin]

The last time I did Match, I put my real age... and showed a variety of pics... hair up, hair down. With and without makeup.

 

 

I always dated when the pics were taken and put some comment in about not wearing makeup. In my profile I stated this was my real age, and some little blurb about pics being recent or time they were taken (ie I have a couple of pics as old as 2011... but I put the year in there!!)

 

 

So many guys commented on my honesty and sincerity... lots of compliments on how great I look without makeup. Which, I don't really care if they think I look GREAT without makeup... but I do want whoever saw me to get an accurate representation of me.

 

 

The two guys I met were very down to earth and sincere. One of them wasn't exactly accurate with his pics. I was a bit disappointed. The second was more straightforward with the pics and was accurate about his height (5'7"). Gotta give him credit for that. He seemed the more honest of the two.

 

 

... long story short... don't lie. Have some confidence in yourself. It's a lot more attractive. You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea and you have to be alright with that.

 

 

... same goes IRL. There ARE some things I don't fess up about to strangers though. Depends on the person asking the question. I won't lie though.

Edited March 28, 2014 by RedRobin

[Silver93]

Tell the truth. It is always the best way to go.

[cif]

No respectable person would remain in contact with you after they find out you're a liar.

[WrinkledForehead]

First off, what is OLD?

 

And to answer your question, HELL no it isn't okay to lie. First off, you are starting a new relationship on a foundation of a LIE.

 

Secondly, are you a pedophile? Stop chasing after people 10 years younger than you when you are only 30. What's wrong with you that you can't find women your age?

 

COULD IT BE IMMATURITY ISSUES? Hmm.

 

Gotta grow up and stop being creepy.

 

Pedophilia is a disorder classified as having a sexual attraction for small children. 20 year olds do not fall into the category of "small children."

[Trapp-er]

Like you, I appear much younger than my actual age. When I went to uni at 31, I had plenty of opportunities to date younger women. I found that they were really excited to date me because I was older and had more to offer by way of experience and maturity. Indeed, some of my best relationships have been with women much younger than myself.

 

Even today I still get plenty of attention from women in the early 20s. For me, it's all about compatibility in life goals and time of life. I am now a professional and looking for a partner. If the person I'm compatible with turns out to be 24 or 34 or 44 so be it. I like that I have broad appeal and have more options. Finding the right one, however, is the challenge.

 

Point being--don't lie about your age. Work it to your advantage. I bet you will be surprised by how receptive women are to that approach. Have fun!

[Fondue]

I don't think a lie about age is ever acceptable. For men, or for women.

 

I can't imagine meeting a person and right off the bat, they're telling me lies. Once I find the truth, I would definitely second guess everything else they ever tell me.

 

It sets a precedent. If you lie about something simple like your age, is there really anything I can trust you on?

[fortyninethousand322]

I don't know. It depends. I'm currently lying on my Okcupid profile saying I'm 32 even though I'm 26. I guess it's the opposite problem most have.

 

So far it hasn't helped me very much.

[Armegoggon]

Just be honest with age. If you lie about it sooner or later she'll start acting immaturely dumping you. Be yourself. If you really want women younger then I'm sure they wouldn't mind older men. Vice versa is harder because women want men who can take care of themselves I believe. I think that you do give younger women an advantage because they assume not only can you take care of yourself but you can also take care of her.

[bubbaganoosh]

Nice way to start out with a girl. A lie. What happens if you meet a woman and you really start getting that feeling that she might be the one and then you tell her you really 30 and not 25. If you lie about that, then she'll start wondering if your that trivial, what else are you going to lie about.

 

Piece of advice. Act your age.

[Conners]

OP I know how you feel. I'm 22, female & I've always looked young for my age. The only time I pass as a 22 year old is when i'm very dressed up for a night out. (all that makeup) haha.

 

I feel almost offended when people ask how old I am and then they respond with OMG REALLY i thought you were 18 or 19.

 

I know i'll be greatful when i'm 30 because i'll hopefully look early 20s still but thats a while away.

 

as for lying about my age, i haven't from a dating perspective. But at university my group for a class thinks i'm 20 and I haven't bothered correcting them

 

I think its rude to tell someone they look younger than they are. It's like telling a 20 year old girl she looks 30.

[Priv]

Off topic but wondering since I am preparing to make an old profile. I only have nice pictures from last summer (pretty much only make holiday photograps). I don't think I have changed much in those 7-9 months. Are these too old already or recent enough?

[Priv]

On a side note, being 31 and I was asked last week for my ID to get a drink from the supermarket. Happened twice this year. That's a compliment (but one I am not taking too seriously, I pretty much look my age i think)

[FitChick]

Age is only important if you plan to breed or if you have one foot in the grave. I've had men tell me their real age but lie about plenty of other things. Prioritize.

[RonaldS]

Only if you're looking for casual hookups that don't mean anything. But if you want a LTR, serious thing, don't lie ever.

 

Not true. I don't know how a relationship can survive without some lying. Truth can be very overrated.

 

E.g.- 'Do these pants make my ass look fat?'

 

The truth: yes

 

Your response: 'No, not at all.'