frostly Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Turning 30 soon. Its a big psychological milestone, and I think it puts me at a disadvantage chasing after women up to 10 years younger than me, especially in OLD. Do you guys think its acceptable if I shave a couple of years away and say I'm 25? If anything I look even younger than that. I have really healthy habits on top of a baby face. No wrinkles or moles. Recently uploaded a picture of myself on face recognition software... it estimated my age to be 19. Nobody will suspect anything unless if she sees my drivers' license. So I can totally get away with it.
d0nnivain Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Lying is never a good plan. Plus I'd rather people think Wow, she looks amazing for 30 then Ew she looks really bad for 25. Age is just a number. Don't get so hung up on it. I know that's hard in a culture that rarifies youth 2
regine_phalange Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Isn't it better if you look younger and surprise people about your actual age? You are going to attract more suitors because they will assume you will age well. 2
Noproblem Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Well, I face similar problem. I look like I am 19 or 20 while I am in my mid 20's It gets harder when guys who are 19 20 hits on me and show their interest! It's not a problem to me, but I really don't know my answer if the guy I ask will ask my age? What's wrong in tweaking it a little, but then I am really an honest person I rarely lies! Like I don't lie at all. How can I do that!!!! Imagine if it worked with that someone and one day he finds out! He'll assume I lied all the way down in everything else. Still,,,!!!!!!! It's hard I'm honered to look that young and thankful : and I work hard on myself anyway...but people reactions is stupid they treat us like omg really really! Like we should be looking like an old woman in her 90; no offence. Lying might help me better since I am a girl, but you are more acceptable since you are a guy....I mean when a guy look young and he is mature enough that is a plus... Still, do what makes you feel better!
Phantom888 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Don't lie. If you have good genes and look younger, that is a positive trait. That means you are an older dude with wisdom and experience, yet you have physical traits of a youngster. Best of both worlds. Don't lie. 1
InnocentMan Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I wouldn't bother chasing 20 yr olds anyway if your 30. Stick to the 25-35 ranges, who will be more on your level, and wont mind that you're 30. If you meet someone you really like and have lied about your age, it can cause a problem that has no need to be there. 3
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Only if you're looking for casual hookups that don't mean anything. But if you want a LTR, serious thing, don't lie ever.
Gaeta Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Turning 30 soon. Its a big psychological milestone, and I think it puts me at a disadvantage chasing after women up to 10 years younger than me, especially in OLD. Do you guys think its acceptable if I shave a couple of years away and say I'm 25? If anything I look even younger than that. I have really healthy habits on top of a baby face. No wrinkles or moles. Recently uploaded a picture of myself on face recognition software... it estimated my age to be 19. Nobody will suspect anything unless if she sees my drivers' license. So I can totally get away with it. No it's not. If you aim at a certain age group then say so in your profile *I would like to meet someone between 20 and 28 y/o. I absolutely HATE when someone contacts me and his profile says 45 but during our first conversation he admits of being 50. EVEN if he sounds like the catch of the year I drop him instantly!! Own who you are!! 4
SoonMyFriend Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 If you want something casual? Why not. BUT what if that casual fling turns into something more? You've already started out with a lie. If you want a relationship - NO. I am in the same boot. 29 years old, look about 25. I put my real age, don't think twice about it. If someone is attracted to you, your age won't really matter. If they care that much, then they aren't the right person. I've been hit on by early 20s (slept with a guy 6 years younger than I am), and guys in their 30s. Just put your real age, and stop worrying about it. You just don't want to end up looking like a liar, or setting yourself up for a downfall if someone gets pissed that you fibbed. 2
Do_The_Herp Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 No need to lie about who you are. Ever. At least, if you're looking for a stable relationship built upon trust, communication, acceptance, etc. If you're not serious, then nobody's going to bat an eye lash, I guess. But I wouldn't lie then, unless I was joking in a conversation and was going to actually tell the person my real age after the chat ended..
GemmaUK Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Ugh! No! Don't lie! I'm 45...happy to be 45..well..sorta! Lol! Last summer I had some work men in and one of them got flirty. He was late twenties and said he thought I was 32. It was really awkward too..he had done a lot of extra work for me..me not having a clue he might think of me as anything other than some old woman he ha to work for. He still sends me texts now an then. Eek! Whatever age people say they think you are they shave at least 5 years off out of politeness. 32 was a compliment..a big compliment..but I'm not stupid! Lol! If you lie then it's a red flag when they find out. They will. It's a dumpable offence as one lie leads to another. Why do you want to chase 20 year olds any way? Are you insecure in yourself?
AntiSocal Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 First of all I doubt you look 19 at 30 years old. You probably look older than you think you look. Second of all quit OLD if you're looking for something serious. Third of all don't lie. Girls like older men. And the ones that don't like older men? You should probably leave them alone. Its not okay to lie to someone just to get in their pants. How would you feel if you knew a woman you really liked had shed 5 years off her age? You wouldn't feel too good. So don't do it to other people. Honesty is the best policy. There will be plenty of 21 year olds who are into that. And whats your affinity with girls that are so young? I'm 21 and can hardly stand 21 year olds. Stick to your age group.`
morrowrd Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Guys look better with age. My girlfriend is 17 years younger than me, so don't get all worried about looking "grizzled and old" ESPECIALLY at the ripe old age of 30!
pickflicker Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 OP, it ends up being a lie you have to maintain forever, IF you don't get caught first. It's your age, if people are rejecting you over it, it's no great loss. And 30 is awesome, by the way.
gaius Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 You don't really have to lie when you're in your early 30's. It's the perfect age range actually. Most women 18-60+ will bang you with little hesitation. When you're in your 20's older women get hesitant and once you get near 40 the younger ones start to freak out.
gaius Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Last summer I had some work men in and one of them got flirty. He was late twenties and said he thought I was 32. It was really awkward too..he had done a lot of extra work for me..me not having a clue he might think of me as anything other than some old woman he ha to work for. He still sends me texts now an then. Eek! Do you respond?
GoreSP Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Turning 30 soon. Its a big psychological milestone, and I think it puts me at a disadvantage chasing after women up to 10 years younger than me, especially in OLD. Do you guys think its acceptable if I shave a couple of years away and say I'm 25? If anything I look even younger than that. I have really healthy habits on top of a baby face. No wrinkles or moles. Recently uploaded a picture of myself on face recognition software... it estimated my age to be 19. Nobody will suspect anything unless if she sees my drivers' license. So I can totally get away with it. Don't. I'm 33 and people are always blown away when they find out. Oldest they give me is 29. Awesome feeling. Also, I found my ex on OLD and while he was 2 years older than me when we dated 15 years ago - he is now 5 years younger on OLD. Everyone I told this to thought it was really ****ing lame... Plus no one likes being lied to.
GemmaUK Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Do you respond? Nope! I couldn't take a 20 something seriously!
xxoo Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Plus I'd rather people think Wow, she looks amazing for 30 then Ew she looks really bad for 25. I feel the same way! Be proud of your age. Don't lie. 1
Grumpybutfun Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I don't have the time nor the inclination to find them, but I recall two threads about people lying about their ages and being dumped in the last year or so here at LS. No, starting out with subterfuge is a huge mistake. Grumps
Strength in Healing Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 First off, what is OLD? And to answer your question, HELL no it isn't okay to lie. First off, you are starting a new relationship on a foundation of a LIE. Secondly, are you a pedophile? Stop chasing after people 10 years younger than you when you are only 30. What's wrong with you that you can't find women your age? COULD IT BE IMMATURITY ISSUES? Hmm. Gotta grow up and stop being creepy.
gaius Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Nope! I couldn't take a 20 something seriously! He so should have lied about his age. You could have been having a hot fling with a 30 something as we speak. 1
VeronicaRoss Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 When I was OLDing I heard from men and women who said most people lie and post old pics from their glory days. It only makes them look worse when they show up. It's a major turnoff when you need to be putting your best forward. So don't start now. And people often look older than they think, you could be fooling yourself. Don't take one or two comments as reality, people say a lot of things that aren't true or they don't really mean just to be complementary.
GemmaUK Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 He so should have lied about his age. You could have been having a hot fling with a 30 something as we speak. True! I think a lot of people lie on OLD about their age - I don't think it does them any favours though! I'm back giving OLD a try but I've found it very rare that someone my age actually looks mid forties. I'd give them another ten years on top of that. Most of the mails I'm getting are from the over 65's though.
MissBee Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 (edited) Turning 30 soon. Its a big psychological milestone, and I think it puts me at a disadvantage chasing after women up to 10 years younger than me, especially in OLD. Do you guys think its acceptable if I shave a couple of years away and say I'm 25? If anything I look even younger than that. I have really healthy habits on top of a baby face. No wrinkles or moles. Recently uploaded a picture of myself on face recognition software... it estimated my age to be 19. Nobody will suspect anything unless if she sees my drivers' license. So I can totally get away with it. Why? What's the point? If you look young then be proud to say your actual age and have someone be surprised rather than deliberately lie about it and have the truth come out...you'll look very insecure and untrustworthy should that occur. I always find it selfish and pointless for people to try to deceive others into being with them. If a woman doesn't want to be with a 30 year old man, that's her choice, many others do and don't care about your age. But it's not fair for you to lie in order to trick someone into probably doing something they wouldn't want to do if they knew all the facts...as that's the only reason I can see you lying about your age, i.e. to get younger women or women not interested in men who are 30. That's not your choice to make. Be honest about your age and who you are and have women who want you regardless, not those you have to deceive and lure into it. How would you feel if a woman subtracted or added 5 years to her age to lure you in? Edited March 28, 2014 by MissBee 2
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