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WP4046 Established Member

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Lots of great responses. One of my friends has been dating and talking to two guys now. One for about 8-9 months and the other 6 months. I told her that it was inappropriate and she should stop and choose one before **** hits the fan but assured me she was single and could do what she wanted.

 

 

That's what my brother is doing, rotating 2 girls but he doesn't have his own place so it looks retarded if you live with your mother

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I'll date multiple women to find the one I like best, but won't sleep with multiple women - I am not built for that, nor am I looking for that either.

 

If I wanted multiple sex partners I'd...go out and find multiple sex partners. It would just take a few half-crazy chicks that I was physically attracted to, but nothing else and we'd be off to the races.

 

I am almost thinking this is what some of you have stumbled onto and are confusing it with actual "dating to find the one".

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I'll date multiple women to find the one I like best, but won't sleep with multiple women - I am not built for that, nor am I looking for that either.

 

If I wanted multiple sex partners I'd...go out and find multiple sex partners. It would just take a few half-crazy chicks that I was physically attracted to, but nothing else and we'd be off to the races.

 

I am almost thinking this is what some of you have stumbled onto and are confusing it with actual "dating to find the one".

 

 

Do you have a nice salary?

Mo_Do Established Member

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Do you have a nice salary?

 

LOL why?

 

Its not broadcasted, its actually hidden from them.

WP4046 Established Member

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LOL why?

 

Its not broadcasted, its actually hidden from them.

 

 

Because most men can't wine and dine 3 or 4 different women if they are paying rent, bills, and food

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Because most men can't wine and dine 3 or 4 different women if they are paying rent, bills, and food

 

I pay rent, bills, food, child support AND alimony. Dating is expensive indeed. If the dude can't afford to date, then he should postpone his dating goals until he makes more money. When I dated multiple women, I had to cut back on some other expenses.

RedRobin Established Member

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Interesting... I always offer to pay my share and opt for cheap or free in the early days.

 

 

Maybe I should change my approach. Seems like it makes it harder for guys to juggle multiple women if he is obliged to pay for them.

 

 

Hmm...

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OOH I love this, its my area of expertise :D

 

When my girlfriend dumped me, back in 2012, I started to see a girl I've met on a trip 250 miles away from my town. We became bf and gf fast, I invited her to go with me on a trip at the seaside :D she went it was awesome. We dated for 3 months. We had a LDR, when I returned home I started dating a hot 22 year old blond, we had sex for a week until I found another one but this one had a boyfriend and she was cheating on him with me :D

 

So by then I had 2 girlfriends at a time, she was ok with this( the one with a bf not the one I was '' official ''with). After a week I met a hot brunet she was the tattooed kind who listend too hard core rock uffff, we drank almost everyday, and had hot sweaty sex, I literally had sex with her with my cigarete in my mouth and my glass of spirits in my hand. After that I started to date my last girlfriend who dumped me in 2013. At this time I was seeing 4 girls at a time. It wasn't easy I give you that.

 

After things started to get serious with my last ex, I've dumped the rock girl first. That day I went out with my ex from dec 2013 we sat on a bench until 10 o clock, then I took her home after that I go out with the rock girl seat on the same bitch I seat with my ex a couple of minutes ago and I've explained the situation, man was I scared, she was mental :))

 

So now I had 3 girlfriends, I've dumped them one o at a time, it wasnt easy I give you that. And eventually I ended up with my ex , we dated for 1,5 years it was magical, I fell for her fast, man was she beautiful, I think that she was the most beautiful girl I've ever had, It sucks that I've lost her.

 

That summer(2012) I had in total 7 girlfriends and my record was to go out with 4 of them at a time. I haven't told you about all 7 of them because it's way too complicated.

 

The one who cheated on his bf with me hates me now,the one from 250 miles actual called me last night and she always sends me text asking how i am etc. the rock girl hates me , my ex hates me, my ex from 2012 doesn't hate me :)) but she was shocked that I had so may girls lined up ( she always thought that I can't never get a girl after her, never knew that I was a player ).

 

So I hope that my story helps you. After my breakup in 2013 It was way worse than in 2012, I've got a lot more girls even had my first threesome lol :)) and I'm still looking for my soulmate.

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I don't understand why dating multiple women is more expensive then dating one woman.

 

 

If you take 1 woman on 6 dates or 3 women on 2 dates each aren't you spending roughly the same amount of money?

 

 

As for the virtue & believability of the women on LS, the women know the truth about themselves which is all that matters. Whether some random person on the internet believes me or not, I have always been true to myself.

WP4046 Established Member

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Interesting... I always offer to pay my share and opt for cheap or free in the early days.

 

 

Maybe I should change my approach. Seems like it makes it harder for guys to juggle multiple women if he is obliged to pay for them.

 

 

Hmm...

 

Yup. Sucks doesn't it?

RedRobin Established Member

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OOH I love this, its my area of expertise :D

 

When my girlfriend dumped me, back in 2012, I started to see a girl I've met on a trip 250 miles away from my town. We became bf and gf fast, I invited her to go with me on a trip at the seaside :D she went it was awesome. We dated for 3 months. We had a LDR, when I returned home I started dating a hot 22 year old blond, we had sex for a week until I found another one but this one had a boyfriend and she was cheating on him with me :D

 

So by then I had 2 girlfriends at a time, she was ok with this( the one with a bf not the one I was '' official ''with). After a week I met a hot brunet she was the tattooed kind who listend too hard core rock uffff, we drank almost everyday, and had hot sweaty sex, I literally had sex with her with my cigarete in my mouth and my glass of spirits in my hand. After that I started to date my last girlfriend who dumped me in 2013. At this time I was seeing 4 girls at a time. It wasn't easy I give you that.

 

After things started to get serious with my last ex, I've dumped the rock girl first. That day I went out with my ex from dec 2013 we sat on a bench until 10 o clock, then I took her home after that I go out with the rock girl seat on the same bitch I seat with my ex a couple of minutes ago and I've explained the situation, man was I scared, she was mental :))

 

So now I had 3 girlfriends, I've dumped them one o at a time, it wasnt easy I give you that. And eventually I ended up with my ex , we dated for 1,5 years it was magical, I fell for her fast, man was she beautiful, I think that she was the most beautiful girl I've ever had, It sucks that I've lost her.

 

That summer(2012) I had in total 7 girlfriends and my record was to go out with 4 of them at a time. I haven't told you about all 7 of them because it's way too complicated.

 

The one who cheated on his bf with me hates me now,the one from 250 miles actual called me last night and she always sends me text asking how i am etc. the rock girl hates me , my ex hates me, my ex from 2012 doesn't hate me :)) but she was shocked that I had so may girls lined up ( she always thought that I can't never get a girl after her, never knew that I was a player ).

 

So I hope that my story helps you. After my breakup in 2013 It was way worse than in 2012, I've got a lot more girls even had my first threesome lol :)) and I'm still looking for my soulmate.

 

 

Only a guy would brag about this...

 

 

Sounds like an STD epidemic waiting to happen.

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RedRobin Established Member

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Yup. Sucks doesn't it?

 

 

Doesn't suck for me. I can stop pitching in for the dates and trying to be all fair and shyte. *shrug*

 

 

One thing I DO make sure of though.... I make sure I'm the one the guy is pursuing legitimately... even if he is getting a piece on the side from some poor woman who is his FWB who thinks it will lead to something. If nothing else, I'm not THAT woman. Of course, if I find out about it (effing some other woman while pursuing me), he's dead meat.

 

 

Hasn't ever happened to me that I know of... but I did have one... maybe two guys pursuing other women while claiming to be exclusive to me and I dumped them like a hot rock. This happened in one of my early dating experiences after my fiancée died. I'm a lot smarter now. The STD tests in advance always fish them out.

 

... and to address your other comment... I find a lot of men in the dating world are more likely to at least try to be like the couple of posters here bragging about sleeping with multiple women simultaneously.

 

 

I think some men want to convince themselves that the women are doing it too, so these guys have an excuse to show poor integrity and date in bad faith.

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WP4046 Established Member

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Doesn't suck for me. I can stop pitching in for the dates and trying to be all fair and shyte. *shrug*

 

 

One thing I DO make sure of though.... I make sure I'm the one the guy is pursuing legitimately... even if he is getting a piece on the side from some poor woman who is his FWB who thinks it will lead to something. If nothing else, I'm not THAT woman. Of course, if I find out about it (effing some other woman while pursuing me), he's dead meat.

 

 

Hasn't ever happened to me that I know of... but I did have one... maybe two guys pursuing other women while claiming to be exclusive to me and I dumped them like a hot rock. This happened in one of my early dating experiences after my fiancée died. I'm a lot smarter now. The STD tests in advance always fish them out.

 

... and to address your other comment... I find a lot of men in the dating world are more likely to at least try to be like the couple of posters here bragging about sleeping with multiple women simultaneously.

 

 

I think some men want to convince themselves that the women are doing it too, so these guys have an excuse to show poor integrity and date in bad faith.

 

 

Of course it wouldn't suck for you since you are a woman

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Doesn't suck for me. I can stop pitching in for the dates and trying to be all fair and shyte. *shrug*

 

 

One thing I DO make sure of though.... I make sure I'm the one the guy is pursuing legitimately... even if he is getting a piece on the side from some poor woman who is his FWB who thinks it will lead to something. If nothing else, I'm not THAT woman. Of course, if I find out about it (effing some other woman while pursuing me), he's dead meat.

 

 

Hasn't ever happened to me that I know of... but I did have one... maybe two guys pursuing other women while claiming to be exclusive to me and I dumped them like a hot rock. This happened in one of my early dating experiences after my fiancée died. I'm a lot smarter now. The STD tests in advance always fish them out.

 

... and to address your other comment... I find a lot of men in the dating world are more likely to at least try to be like the couple of posters here bragging about sleeping with multiple women simultaneously.

 

 

I think some men want to convince themselves that the women are doing it too, so these guys have an excuse to show poor integrity and date in bad faith.

 

I try to convince myself that the women I date are dating other guys, but to be totally honest, the more serious ones don't seem like it. 2 of them even let their profile subs expire and one put her profile on hide before we'd even met (but she was a nut).

 

If I was 4-5 dates in with one of them and realized I wasn't the only guy I'd drop her in a heart beat.

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Of course it wouldn't suck for you since you are a woman

 

 

 

It doesn't suck for women like HER because she doesn't put herself in the position where a guy focuses on more than one woman.

 

Women only lose when they invest feelings in a guy (and yes, most of us will start to develop feelings through time spent with a guy who claims to really like us) only to discover that they are not even sure that we are "enough" for them to focus on.

 

Through reading Robins posts among with a few decent guys on here, I now only go for guys who outright tell me that " hey, so you know, I prefer to just focus on the one women and to see how that goes first"

 

It has served me well and I eventually found a decent guy. The first decent guy in over 10 years of dating who I liked and who liked me back....

 

 

 

 

I really don't see how women can feel good about dating a guy who thinks " this women is cute, I see potential, I am going to go on a date with another women now.. See which women measures up and is the best fit".

 

 

:sick:

 

I have options but yeah, if I wait out for a man I am REALLY into, I do not even WANT to test out other men because I am thinking a lot about the man that I am the most interested in above all else......

 

 

 

I tried multi dating and it is fruitless. Totally. I would go on a date with a guy, not feel like kissing him even though he was a great catch, and then agree to a second date just because ' you're supposed to see how things go and give guys a chance", only to meet a guy before the second date with the first guy who I really felt "it" for.

Then I would go ahead with my second date with guy one who I felt no spark or chemistry with, while I am thinking about the new guy the entire time.

Once I got the guy I truly liked, I tried to keep ANOTHER guy on the back burner because I thought multi dating was optimal, it seemed to make sense... but yeah, I was falling for the guy I was DATING and therefore the other guy I was talking to was second fiddle.

 

 

 

 

 

....There is ALWAYS that person who just "gets you" going, so to speak, more so than any other person you come across.

 

I prefer to find that ONE guy who I am the most into, see how it works out with him, BEFORE I then go and "test out" other men.

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It doesn't suck for women like HER because she doesn't put herself in the position where a guy focuses on more than one woman.

 

Women only lose when they invest feelings in a guy (and yes, most of us will start to develop feelings through time spent with a guy who claims to really like us) only to discover that they are not even sure that we are "enough" for them to focus on.

 

Through reading Robins posts among with a few decent guys on here, I now only go for guys who outright tell me that " hey, so you know, I prefer to just focus on the one women and to see how that goes first"

 

It has served me well and I eventually found a decent guy. The first decent guy in over 10 years of dating who I liked and who liked me back....

 

 

 

 

I really don't see how women can feel good about dating a guy who thinks " this women is cute, I see potential, I am going to go on a date with another women now.. See which women measures up and is the best fit".

 

 

:sick:

 

I have options but yeah, if I wait out for a man I am REALLY into, I do not even WANT to test out other men because I am thinking a lot about the man that I am the most interested in above all else......

 

 

 

I tried multi dating and it is fruitless. Totally. I would go on a date with a guy, not feel like kissing him even though he was a great catch, and then agree to a second date just because ' you're supposed to see how things go and give guys a chance", only to meet a guy before the second date with the first guy who I really felt "it" for.

Then I would go ahead with my second date with guy one who I felt no spark or chemistry with, while I am thinking about the new guy the entire time.

Once I got the guy I truly liked, I tried to keep ANOTHER guy on the back burner because I thought multi dating was optimal, it seemed to make sense... but yeah, I was falling for the guy I was DATING and therefore the other guy I was talking to was second fiddle.

 

 

 

 

 

....There is ALWAYS that person who just "gets you" going, so to speak, more so than any other person you come across.

 

I prefer to find that ONE guy who I am the most into, see how it works out with him, BEFORE I then go and "test out" other men.

 

 

And that right there is why i don't take dating seriously because of the back burner mess

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And that right there is why i don't take dating seriously because of the back burner mess

 

 

I believe the point being made was that she tried multi dating and didn't like it.

 

 

Perhaps you just need to find someone who doesn't multi date. If I'm going on dates with a guy... I'm not seeing anyone else. By default. Sex or no sex. If I don't like a guy enough to just see and try to get to know him, I won't go on a date with him.

 

 

... and you know what? I can tell when a guy is distracted and seeing others. I don't make a big deal out of it in the early days. At the same time, it's not exactly building intimacy and doesn't make me feel closer to him.

 

 

People just need to decide what their priorities are. For me, it's building intimacy. I can tell when a guy has other priorities than that. If that is your goal with a woman, I promise she'll be able to tell. If she still needs to see other men while you are doing that, then you just aren't a match.

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Through reading Robins posts among with a few decent guys on here, I now only go for guys who outright tell me that " hey, so you know, I prefer to just focus on the one women and to see how that goes first"

 

It has served me well and I eventually found a decent guy. The first decent guy in over 10 years of dating who I liked and who liked me back.....

 

 

Yay!!!!! Good for you!! :D

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Would you date multiple people at the same time? How far would you go with them each until it started to become exclusive? How long would you date multiple people for?

 

When I start online-dating I always arrange a few coffee-dates with various guys, which I guess could be considered multi-dating. Out of let's say 7 I make plans with, only 5 dates actually happen, out of those I might want to see 3 again, and after 3 dates I usually know which one (or none) I want to date properly.

 

The first few dates are really just getting-to-know-you for me, without kissing, making out, etc. I would not date a few people continuously while being physical with one or more of them. For me being physical - and that means anything more than a hug or kiss on the cheek - is part of an exclusive relationship.

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When I start online-dating I always arrange a few coffee-dates with various guys, which I guess could be considered multi-dating. Out of let's say 7 I make plans with, only 5 dates actually happen, out of those I might want to see 3 again, and after 3 dates I usually know which one (or none) I want to date properly.

 

The first few dates are really just getting-to-know-you for me, without kissing, making out, etc. I would not date a few people continuously while being physical with one or more of them. For me being physical - and that means anything more than a hug or kiss on the cheek - is part of an exclusive relationship.

 

 

must be nice

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