ursn88 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Ok there is this girl I go to school with and sit next to at her table at lunch. I got her number when she was supposed to bring me something then forgot so the next day she said she would just give me her number so i could text her that night so i handed her my phone and she entered her number. Well im not exactly super smooth with the ladies so i just kinda kept the texting basic and we only exchanged like 3-4 text each that night(seems like a bad move on my part looking back at it). So she brought it the next day and we didnt text for about 5 days then last monday I asked her what was up and she said she was hanging out with friends and asked what i was doin so i just said nothin much then asked her if she wanted to hang out today or tommorow, she replied sayin she couldnt today and wasnt sure what was goin on tommorow, so i then said i should pretty much be free all break so just hmu if u wanna hang out, then she said okay sounds good and that ended the convo. That was on monday and today is thursday and she still hasnt texted me back and I was thinkin i already messed up my chance with her which really sucks because i actually liked her
d0nnivain Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 texting is the world's worst way to communicate. Talk to her at lunch instead.
Author ursn88 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 texting is the world's worst way to communicate. Talk to her at lunch instead. well i dont go back untill april 6th so that would be awhile, id like to hang out on break before i leave for vacation next wenesday
d0nnivain Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Then pick up the phone, call her & say do you want to hang out on {insert day of the week} and {insert activity}
Author ursn88 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Then pick up the phone, call her & say do you want to hang out on {insert day of the week} and {insert activity}well the last thing i was to her was "hit me up". Wouldnt that be weird to call her of all things after saying you can contact me, not ill contact you?
d0nnivain Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Not it won't be weird. It will show you have self confidence & a take charge attitude. However if she says no, it will be weird if you keep pestering her.
Sweetnothing Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 You told her you were free all break? Sounds a little desperate tbh. I'm not saying you should lie and tell this girl you have a ton of stuff going on but by saying "I'm free whenever, just let me know" it creates this idea that you're gonna be hanging by the phone waiting. I'm not crazy on enforcing gender roles, but the sad fact is that most girls aren't gonna ask you out you gotta take CONTROL. Don't be vague. Say what date, what time, where to meet, and what you want to do. Saying "you wanna hang out sometime?" can mean anything from just casual friendly hanging out to a hookup. I don't ever say yes when a guy asks to "hang out" I say yes when a guy asks me on a DATE. Make it clear you want a date and CALL her. 1
Author ursn88 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 You told her you were free all break? Sounds a little desperate tbh. I'm not saying you should lie and tell this girl you have a ton of stuff going on but by saying "I'm free whenever, just let me know" it creates this idea that you're gonna be hanging by the phone waiting. I'm not crazy on enforcing gender roles, but the sad fact is that most girls aren't gonna ask you out you gotta take CONTROL. Don't be vague. Say what date, what time, where to meet, and what you want to do. Saying "you wanna hang out sometime?" can mean anything from just casual friendly hanging out to a hookup. I don't ever say yes when a guy asks to "hang out" I say yes when a guy asks me on a DATE. Make it clear you want a date and CALL her. >saying "I'm free whenever, just let me know" yeah thats what I did, I really dont want to call her so should I text her right now and ask her if she wants to get together on saturday? You sure its not to soon after telling her she can call me?
d0nnivain Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 >saying "I'm free whenever, just let me know" yeah thats what I did, I really dont want to call her so should I text her right now and ask her if she wants to get together on saturday? You sure its not to soon after telling her she can call me? NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!! Call her. Do not text her. Texting is impersonal. Have some backbone. Call. 1
Sweetnothing Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 It's not too soon to ask her because you didn't ask her on a date yet. You were too vague. And yes, you have to call her. Texting is lame and childish. Even if you "don't want to" you should call her because texting is so noncommittal it shows more effort and assertiveness when you call. You like this girl enough to bother asking her out but not enough to speak on the phone? Please. That's boring.
Author ursn88 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 ok i ill probally call her later, i still think it would be kind of weird though
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Some people around here haaaaaaaaaate texting and are all about the phone call. I'm not one of those ppl. I think texting is fine. Just stop being so vague, man. Ask this ho out but when you do pick an activity with a set time. Be clear and proactive. 1
Gottabestrong Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Sounds like you are very young, therefore I think texting is fine.
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