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[confused1008]

Ive been talking to this guy for over a month. I really like him and care about him. He often gets jealous if i talk to other guys and had me to delete a social networking site i had because he was pretty much jealous he didnt want me talking to guys at all. However he has created an account on that social site which a friend told me and talks to girls. I have mentioned it bothers me but he told me he cant be with someone who cant trust him. So i dropped it dont bring it up often at all. He use to talk to me almost every day but started to stop replying to texts and things which i dont understand at all. He talked to me the day before yesterday in which he was telling me that he wanted me and was talking to me about my moms cancer and that he was having issues with his phone. He didnt talk long said he was having issues charging his phone. I said ill let you go and talk to you later love you he said love you back. He didnt talk to me yesterday i texted he didnt reply i called he didnt answer so i chalked it up as his phone having issues not a big deal. Find out today however a few hours after i called he was on that social networking site. I have texted today to which again no reply but again he has been on that social networking site. I am trying to trust him and give him the benefit of the doubt he told me he was using the site for music trying to find other musicians to form a band. So i havent said too much about it. I told him when i talked to him the last time i dont talk to anyone and i dont because most of my friends i have are guys and he doesnt like them because my friends have felt at times he is using me. Whether that is true or not im not sure. But like im saying im trying to trust him but its hard when he wont reply to me I understand yes he works every day and only gets one day off and he works from 10 to close usually and he doesnt get home til 10 pm or later depending if he has a ride or not. Im just confused on what to do you have to have communication for any relationship to work. He told me to call but he doesnt have voicemail and i dont know when he is at work because he works different times. He said it doesnt matter call anyways i havent because i dont want to get him in trouble at work so i text but like i said hes not replying. Should i start calling more? Should i just not talk to him for a few days and let him miss me or what? I need help idk what to do. I feel like ive given up alot to make him happy to feel more stable less jealous but at the same time he continues to talk to teens girls and other girls but its like he doesnt want me to know. However the social site hes on i can see without being a member at one point he had 13 friends recently he deleted them all why im guessing so i wouldnt see im not sure. I just could use some help on what i should do from here. I dont what to be nosy or spy on him and i want to trust him but he wont talk to me he says he likes me that i am too good him that ive helped him alot which i have and i know i didnt need to. Ive let him borrow money which may sound dumb but considering the circumstances i didnt mind helping everyone has to eat. Just now lately ive been dealing with a sick mom and hes been asking about her when i do get ahold of him but its always me having to call him and at the moment im not sure what i need to do if i need to back off give him space or if i need to call more like he said i should . Any advice would be great im just so confused and lost at the moment =( dealing with so much my mind races and i worry i dont want to push him away or lose him or run off him off or anything

[Gaeta]

For goodness sake get rid of this joke!!! He's jealous, controlling, manipulative, possessive, inconsiderate, completely disinterested in you. Why do you want to be with someone like that?? What is there to love in this joker!!

[Sweetnothing]

Are you serious? Dump this loser. He's not going to magically change. He's gonna be nice once in a whole to make sure he keeps you right where he wants you then he's gonna go talk to other girls online. He sounds like a control freak. DUMP HIM ASAP and don't look back